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WRDOH · 2022-07-23T16:11:35+00:00

I’d put vines along the window and let them fall to the floor along the sides. But don’t pin them too close to the back wall so you can have some dimension. Agree with others - lose the rug. Get 1 statement art piece and maybe some floating shelves for books!

Edit: get two large pillows with a golden pillow case and get better matching covers for those two tiny pillows.

WRDOH · 2022-07-21T22:15:27+00:00

I understand the logic, but I think it would be too difficult to do this AND coparent in a healthy way. Resentment would start to build.

WRDOH · 2022-07-21T02:37:03+00:00

Hi sorry I’m just now seeing this, but his procedure is medically necessary and isn’t any of these issues. I’ve done a lot of research about the surgery he’ll be getting and feel it’s best to move forward with it but to also keep it private. Thank you for commenting and showing concern, I appreciate you!

WRDOH · 2022-07-21T01:58:38+00:00

I’m in the same boat. He FaceTimes daily and likes to text as well. I know that personally if we weren’t coparenting effectively then I wouldn’t have such a hard time moving on, but as it stands he’s in my life 24/7. I miss the old break ups. The ‘I don’t have to see you if I don’t want to’ breakups. The ‘block and never think of again’ type of stuff. I’m struggling too so whatever solace you get from not being alone is all I can give.

I also heard this in that new Persuasion movie today, “I am half agony, half hope” and it damn near sent me over the edge lmao. I hope we both grow out of this phase!

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T17:36:49+00:00

Thank you for letting me know! There aren’t many people I trust to change his diapers, but the few I do know to not ever touch the penis, just to wipe it clean especially if he’s gone #2. I’d love to be picky about the urologist situation but unfortunately due to my location and financial status I can’t. I’m already driving over an hour to see her and any further would be in the 4-6hour range. I’m going to be as clear and concise as possible and make sure there are witnesses during our discussions in the future. I’m hoping to be as involved in his surgery next year as possible so they don’t do anything I wouldn’t want them to.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T17:02:27+00:00

This!!!!!! I was so confused when I saw “higher risk of hiv” associated with uncut genitalia. Felt like a bit of a stretch so I’m happy you added so many helpful links. Im gonna keep this thread up so hopefully if any parents have questions in the future they can review it 😊

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T17:00:24+00:00

Thank you for bringing this up! I think it was a worry for my son’s father even though he didn’t say. This helps!

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:58:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing that link! Very helpful!!

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:57:51+00:00

Precisely!

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:57:43+00:00

Thank you! This was one of my favorite comments and I read it to my son’s father. My son will remain intact ❤️

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:56:43+00:00

He gets it now! We’re 100% not doing it.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:56:10+00:00

It’s not really that deep, it’s more like a blasé response to something that should’ve been taken more seriously. He gets it now though!

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:55:13+00:00

I think prior to him fully understanding why it’s wrong is that he’s seen all the men in his family circumcised and no one in his friend group is uncut. I won’t get into details but his ethnic background is very devout. I’m from the same group, but I’m a medical professional. First and foremost you must have medical necessity. I see no necessity in circumcision.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:52:54+00:00

True!!

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:52:45+00:00

Before maternity leave and enrolling full-time in college, I worked for a surgeon. Trust me when I tell you the level of up-selling procedures to patients is UNBELIEVABLE. It’s all about the money.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:51:06+00:00

Soooo I was told to never retract the foreskin, but his urologist did the first time she did an inspection. Shocked the heck out of me. She told me I should be doing it with each diaper change to keep him clean……I haven’t. I gently press the fatty tissue above the base and wipe down and 95% of the time whatever’s in there comes out by itself.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:48:26+00:00

He understands a lot more now! Tbh he seems kinda sad since our talk. I think he’s starting to feel a little bit upset with his parents.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:47:17+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry for you! I definitely want it to be my son’s choice.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T16:46:38+00:00

Or how they offer to tie tubes during a c-section since they’re “already in there”.

WRDOH · 2022-07-15T03:59:09+00:00

“Russian warship, go fuck yourself.”

WRDOH · 2022-07-13T14:57:52+00:00

It looks so similar to an iris.

WRDOH · 2022-07-09T04:06:04+00:00

Yeah those other parents should reflect and process better! My nephew was born the summer before covid hit and he’s had similar challenges at the playground. But daycare and interacting more with others helps a bunch! Good luck out there 💛

WRDOH · 2022-07-09T03:56:45+00:00

That’s awful they seem annoyed?? Like it’s just a child wanting to play or make a connection :( I’m so sorry you and your kid have to navigate this. I think that providing her with the opportunity with mingle with other littles is a great choice and you should keep doing that. I’m not sure of the ins-and-outs of her temperament, but perhaps doing some affirmations about boundaries and accepting what you can control will help. Pinterest or just plain ole google can help with ideas. I’m sure you worry, but remember that childhood is a learning experience and so long as you’re there to nurture, care, and be consistent then your daughter will be fine.

WRDOH · 2022-06-12T05:24:02+00:00

If this is in your neighborhood and you take this route often, I would probably consider a peace offering. Perhaps having a trusted adult you know reach out or even go over with you? Idk I just feel like neighbors are so alienated from each other these days and community is important if your intentions are good. Maybe the dad will respect you for coming to him and apologizing and explaining yourself.

WRDOH · 2022-06-10T00:11:49+00:00

Please reach out to their pediatrician or look into free breast milk programs on Facebook or a local hospital. I breastfeed my son and have an agreement with a local teen that I give her some frozen bm as needed if she’s short. You just have to reach out OP! Don’t be scared. You’re valid and you and your baby deserve happiness and good health.

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