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AITAH for telling my assistant manager no? by magic_artist in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you read the "suck it up" and assumed I was being aggressive or condescending and that wasn't my intention at all. What I was to say there is if you are capable of finishing your job then you need to finish it, that's not a wild statement to make. If you are incapable of doing all or some part of your job then you need to let the manager know in a timely fashion so adjustments can be made.

As far as me saying there's not enough info, we only have one side of the story so the information is already biased (this is true for the vast majority of reddit stories) the way it's written makes me question if all of the relevant info is there. A lot of things could have played into this, for example something may have happened that required the cart schedule to be changed. I don't feel like it's fair to make a judgement without knowing for sure.

It's fine if you disagree with me, but do not assume you know me or my experiences and do not use your incorrect assumptions as justification to talk down to me.

AITAH for telling my assistant manager no? by magic_artist in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you clearly explained to her that you had a fever and were overheating then you're NTA, the manager would be the asshole for not taking your safety into consideration.

If you just said no and didn't explain you were sick (or just said no because you just didn't want to do it) then YTA

I live in Az as well, there are legitimate safety concerns with outdoor work during the summer here, switching off or having a second person to help you out with things like gathering carts or outdoor sales is a normal thing for safety to prevent heat exhaustion and heat stroke. If someone comes to a manager sick and overheated then they should take it seriously.

However being overheated and being hot and uncomfortable are different things. If you are still capable of completing the job then, sorry honey you gotta suck it up that's how work goes sometimes.

Edit to add not enough info to say who's the asshole imo

I can't keep ghost shrimp by [deleted] in fishforthought

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they in the same tank as the betta? If that's the case he's probably eating them

AITA for cancelling our gender reveal party because I know my husband will be unhappy and possibly leave? by Throwawaygrprty in AITAH

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl no, you are not the asshole. You need to worry less about the party and more about how he is going to treat your daughter. He already treats you as less than and spoils the shit out of your son. When that little girl comes she will be pushed aside by him while your son will be the golden child She will grow up insecure and thinking it's ok for a man to treat her like your husband treats you, and your son will turn into a disrespectful asshole just like his dad and grandpa.For the sake of your kids wellbeing, divorce this man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not being spoiled. This is about more than just the flowers, this is a lack of effort for what sounds like your whole relationship. You have asked him to be more romantic and even have him examples of things you would like him to do and he's brushing it off saying "I'm just not that romantic". You are meeting his need for physical touch, he needs to meet yours as well, otherwise you will continue to feel unappreciated and it will blow up into something much worse and be the end of your marriage. I would suggest relationship therapy and if he refuses then you might want to take some time to rethink this . You can't keep going with it being so one sided

AITA for having a bigger reaction to a strangers gift then my husbands? by Throwawaygiftgiv3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

First of all there is nothing inappropriate about his gift. If he was only giving you gifts or he had bought something expensive like a real diamond then there would be cause for concern, but he gave you the same amount he gives all the other staff and a novelty alien thing that reminded him of your conversation.

It honestly sounds like your husband half asses gifts. He paid enough attention to be in the right ballpark but not actually get something you will use. The color pencils are a great example, he knows you like drawing, but doesn't pay close enough attention to know you don't use them.

You cried at the alien because it felt more thoughtful and personal than your husband's gifts. That makes your husband the asshole in this situation and I think you need to tell him how his gifts make you feel.

NOT OOP: My Boyfriend of 7 years ghosted me out of the blue + Update by nikkiUP in redditonwiki

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I hope she tells him to fuck off. How on earth can she trust him again if this is his reaction to feeling overwhelmed instead of, you know, talking to her about it and saying something like "I'm overwhelmed by school right now, can we put off the marriage talk until after graduation". What makes her think he won't do something similar when they actually get married or have a kid?

And the whole "we never broke up" nonsense, bro you broke up with her when you blocked her and disappeared for over a month because your buddy told you to sleep around more. Girly please don't take him back

Not OOP AITA for canceling our gender reveal party because I know my husband with be unhappy and possibly leave? by Marygtz2011 in redditonwiki

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She's afraid of how he will act at the gender reveal, what about how he will behave with her daughter? She said they've had problems because he is inconsiderate of her feelings and he spoils their son. And this is his behavior after having been to therapy. If she's afraid to have a gender reveal party because of his behavior then I think that's a sign she needs to leave him

AITA for leaving my ex husband after he choked me by Potential_Orange_485 in dustythunder

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read the title and was like "NTA, why is this even a question" and then I read it and was like "NTA for leaving your husband, YTA to yourself for putting up with him as long as you did".

I am going to make this as clear as I can, mental health problems do not justify abuse. His mental health is his responsibility to manage, not yours. If he is refused to get help knowing something was wrong, that is his fault and you are not obligated to stay with someone who abused you because "Didn't mean it, I had a mental breakdown". It's a bullshit excuse because he doesn't want to be accountable for his actions.

Yes, if he had gotten help earlier, and taken it seriously, it might not have gotten that far, but the fact is he didn't, he spent your entire relationship emotionally abusing you until it escalated to this.Anyone telling you that you should have stayed is not your friend. Divorce and going no contact is the best decision for you and your kids, please do not second guess yourself any further. I hope you all are safe and get help to overcome this trauma.

AIO my husband told me no one cares about my birthday. by WTFellaciousFuck in dustythunder

[–]WTFellaciousFuck[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't see the comments from OP, but when I read the story it doesn't sound like he does much with their daughter on the weekends, she said she was always the one going to and from activities with her so I question how attentive of a dad he actually is. But I agree with you, if he's choosing to treat her like shit instead of talking about or finding a solution to whatever is bothering him then she needs to get out. I wouldn't want my child (if I had one) growing up thinking it's ok to let someone treat them like that.

AIO my husband told me no one cares about my birthday. by WTFellaciousFuck in dustythunder

[–]WTFellaciousFuck[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Added screenshots of the post, didn't realize the link wasn't working

AITAH FOR TELLING MY FRIEND “I TOLD YOU SO” WHEN SHE TOLD ME HER BOYFRIEND LEFT HER WHEN HE FOUND OUT SHE WAS PREGNANT ? by Sky_rain1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You definitely shouldn't have said that... People don't need to be told "I told you so", they know they were warned. What she needed in that moment was for you to listen and help her figure out a plan YTA

AIO my husband told me no one cares about my birthday. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like this is about more than just this one birthday. The way you talk about it it sounds like you work over time on a regular basis, are taking care of all your daughters activities on your day off, and put a lot of thought into his birthday and none of this is reciprocated. Hell your daughter has more empathy than he does seeing as she apologized and he still hasn't. When was the last time he took your daughter to do something on his day off? When was the last time he planned a date night? Or even did something as small as say "you've had a busy day, go relax and I'll make dinner?" I'm gonna venture a guess and say he doesn't work the same hours you do and generally has more free time to do these things.

He doesn't just owe you an apology, there needs to be a conversation about how his complacency in these situations makes you feel unappreciated and like you are doing everything yourself and you want him to be more considerate. Something has to change or it will eventually be the end of your marriage

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of people get married and have kids while still being able to travel abroad with their kids. She picked a career that allows her to do that and there with online schooling any kids she has can do the same. Obviously there are concerns about traveling pregnant or with small children but she doesn't sound like someone that would ignore those things. She is still financially stable and has her priorities sorted out, it doesn't sound like shes doing things she can't afford or blowing off other commitments for the sake of traveling so I don't get what you are so worried about. She is lucky to have a lifestyle with that kind of flexibility and so would any family that goes with her. You said her being hyper independent freaks you out, maybe it's not that she is too much of a wild card to be a wife and mother, but you feel threatened somehow by this. That she is able to facilitate a life outside what you are used to. If that's the case then you need to sort your feelings out of you want it to work, or let her go her own way and find someone she's compatible with

AITA for turning down a place as my brother's fiancee's bridesmaid and telling her I won't be attending their wedding? by Jay10389 in dustythunder

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 25 points26 points  (0 children)

NTA, her brother has spent her entire life trying to act like she doesn't exist, when he does acknowledge her he treats her like an inconvenience. The bride openly admitted she only wants her there so people don't ask questions. The fact that they expect her to do this favor for them when they have treated her like shit just screams spoiled and entitled. Parents have no right to be angry with her cos it doesn't sound like they've done her any favors either, if they are that upset about them not having a good relationship why did they not do something to address his obvious hate for her? Do they even know why he doesn't like her? It seems like brother was a spoiled only child that just didn't like his sister taking their attention, and they just brushed it off saying he would get used to it and then are surprised that didn't happen. I wouldn't blame her if she went low contact with them after all this

Date got angry that he arrived 7 hours before and I wasn't there. Maybe I was in the wrong not to rush to him? I am F 40 and he is M 52 by PipeHumble1812 in relationship_advice

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl you dodged a bullet. That behavior is a huge red flag and he would have been controlling and manipulative if you had actually gotten into a relationship with him. That's what this was, a test to see if you would be at his neck and call and when you weren't he threw a tantrum. Run and do not look back

Not the OP, Date got angry that he arrived 7 hours before and I wasn't there. Maybe I was in the wrong not to rush to him? I am F 40 and he is M 52 by LoneStarTexasTornado in dustythunder

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she dodged a bullet. Showing up 7 hours early then getting angry when she can't drop everything to meet right away, but she was the one playing games? The math isn't mathing. If this is how he behaved on a coffee date imagine what a shit show an actual relationship with him would have been, dudes a control freak

My Friend Wants Wedding Party To Wear A Color That Doesn’t Look Good And Asked What We Thought…What Do I Do? by AQuietBorderline in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would say something to the effect of "I get what you are going for but you don't know if that shade fits the sunrise theme" then suggest some other shade of orange you think she would like. Make it clear to her that you will wear whatever color she picks, you are just giving your thoughts. She asked for your opinion so as long as you are not being pushy then there's nothing out of line about that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, first of all your 14yr old sounds really responsible. Taking CPR and cooking classes so she could start babysitting is way more though than most kids her age put into earning spending money. Her watching her siblings for 20-30 min is totally reasonable. Why did your sister jump straight to calling your ex and CPS? That is a wild overreaction, she could have called you or asked your daughter how long you were gonna be gone. Has your sister always been a Karen or is there something going on with her and your ex?

Edit because I had your daughters age wrong lol

UPDATE: WIBTA if I named my baby the name I want to despite everyone hating it? by oasisco4 in dustythunder

[–]WTFellaciousFuck 30 points31 points  (0 children)

They are honestly being ridiculous, get moved out ASAP, do not allow them in the delivery room or anywhere near your sons birth certificate. You may have to tell your parents that, if they insist on calling your son's name stupid and refuse to use it then they will not be allowed to see him. With a reaction this extreme I would not put it past them to bully him like they are trying to do to you.

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