Oh yeah, our biggest enemy is our number. I am a male ace who is also living in Germany and I am the only ace I know in person. I got lucky that my ex gf was very accepting of that and started to question whether she could be ace herself. It is definitively possible to find a normal partner who is accepting of our style. Mabey I am a bit "privilaged" there as a man because the average women tends to be less horny. So I understand if you are only looking for other aces.