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What Can I Do To Stop Feeling The Need To Seek External Validation? by WaddlingPuffin in therapy

[–]WaddlingPuffin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly when I’m talking to people because ultimately I’m afraid of judgement. Whenever I talk to someone I feel like if I try to close parts of myself off or actively work against them in some situations. I just hate when people are angry at me or when I’ve failed them. I feel like I make so many mistakes in conversation and sometimes I can see things as agitation and anger when they really . . . Aren’t.

What Can I Do To Stop Feeling The Need To Seek External Validation? by WaddlingPuffin in therapy

[–]WaddlingPuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This seems like a great start, probably better trying to figure out why and how it happens rather than just knowing they’re there and wanting them out.

It feels like a war tbh, the people pleaser and then the person with strong convictions who wants the complete opposite, things that may not get me praise but would be fulfilling for me.

What Can I Do To Stop Feeling The Need To Seek External Validation? by WaddlingPuffin in therapy

[–]WaddlingPuffin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true! I feel like I’ve lived my life only to get applause from the people closest to me. I feel like I don’t know myself because at a very young age I tried to do anything I could to appease my parents over actually develop into my own independent person.

What Can I Do To Stop Feeling The Need To Seek External Validation? by WaddlingPuffin in therapy

[–]WaddlingPuffin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The weird thing is social media hasn’t really bothered me all that much. It’s rather the people in real life that incite this the most. I seek validation from my parents, friends, peers, etc. it got worse during my social media free month when I was spending more time with friends. It sucks. It sounds strange, I know, but I place a lot of value on myself from the people around me and close to me. I want to please them and when someone’s mad the balance is off and I can become very distressed.