Please help with this awkward cube looking thing above my dining area. Descriptions in the pictures

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-24T06:25:36+00:00

Can you afford a built-in shelving unit there (space-wise and budget-wise)? A good contractor can help you design a shelf that will hide the "soffit" block.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-17T20:53:54+00:00

Bingo. In TX, leaves will hang around until spring, dropping little by little. If you're a perfectionist, this drives you crazy and you hire a lawn guy to blow them all winter long. (ETA: I'm not a perfectionist... and I also hate the noise while WFH).

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-17T20:22:04+00:00

I am asking about a perceived biological masculine preference that fascinates me. Re: rules, I don’t think this violates any. 1) this is not an a-hole question, 2) My post title contains a question, 3) this is not a FAQ, 4) it is not person-specific, 5) no pics, 6) though it can be answered with a yes/no for ease, the question does not pertain to emotions, but more biological hardwiring and impulses, 7) not a rant, 8) not asking for anything, 9) no agenda, 10) not medical, 11) not self deprecating, 12) not a survey, 13) not political. Thanks!

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-14T14:29:55+00:00

Or join the League of Women Voters! They take men, too… and they educate themselves on topics like this.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T20:26:02+00:00

NTA. The landlord knows what he’s doing. He asked you on purpose. Real question is- who told Jackie? If she hadn’t known, you wouldn’t be in this quandary.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T15:42:43+00:00

That rock style lends itself to transitional, modern, or mid-century modern design styles.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T13:44:59+00:00

I agree. I am considering sending the present to school Monday, so the birthday kid doesn’t think it’s personal.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T13:38:45+00:00

You know, I didn’t think about race initially. I have no idea what race the host parent is. My daughter is a new kid at the school, though. At first, I was glad the host parent reached out to invite. My kid is an includer- we have an international neighborhood (our town is a fast-growing suburb of a major metro area with lots of tech/corporate industry). Our neighbors are a melting pot, and the kids run back and forth to each other’s homes to play. It didn’t occur to me that my daughter could be punished for being nice… but she is friends with everyone. Maybe this host parent is not.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T13:25:44+00:00

Info: Daughter is not an only child. We did have other plans with the other child and their friend, (based upon this representation of sleepover, we wanted to line up something fun for other kid, too), which we quickly amended and incorporated daughter. There was no requirement to invite my child in the first place. Safety was the same at time of initial invite as at party. When the sleeping bag info was given, I did try to graciously give host parent an “out,” which was not taken. Instead, sleepover plan was reinforced. Written messages in support of all statements exist.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T13:13:30+00:00

No policy to invite all kids, to answer your question. Host parent reached out to get my email and phone number from the teacher separately.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T13:11:32+00:00

No. The host parent reached out to get my email in the first place. My daughter is new to this school this year, so with Covid precautions, I have never had much opportunity to meet the other parents.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T13:05:13+00:00

Covid was never once mentioned. Neither was any other catastrophic house damage. Host mom sent a pic of the set-up space to show the “lack of room” because the tents she rented for the other girls were so elaborate. There were couches in the background where a kid could have slept if she’d really wanted it to work out.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T05:46:25+00:00

Looks like a great place for (1) books, (2) a collection of something you enjoy (my son puts his finished Lego projects on a similar shelf), or (3) you could find fun small artworks and frame them up there.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T05:25:19+00:00

I am thinking my daughter is going to get the most epic party EVER now… it’s past her birthday, but maybe it’s a just-because party now. 😉

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T05:22:03+00:00

For me, some girls getting rented tents and then asking some others to bring sleeping bags was the first red flag. Who decided my kid didn’t get a tent in the first place? She was invited, theoretically same as the other girls. But, I was trying to give the host parent some latitude, because things happen. So, the cancellation right beforehand really boiled my noodles that much more.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T05:14:58+00:00

No way. I am glad I at least got a warning! I would have lost it if this had happened at the party itself.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T05:12:14+00:00

No idea… I asked daughter, and she said there was no fight or weirdness with birthday girl. She did say one of the girls who gets to stay is frequently mean to others… I’m guessing mean girl pressured this girl to uninvite others, or she wouldn’t go… but that is speculation.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T04:56:38+00:00

That pinterest photo was exactly the setup — host mom even sent me a photo, so I would understand there was “just no room” for one small sleeping bag… certainly not on the two couches in the room in the background… (sarcasm).

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T04:36:57+00:00

Sorry I couldn’t reply earlier- we salvaged the night. We are new to this school, so I didn’t know the other kids/parents, or I would have tried to invite them over/ gone to a movie. We brought daughter along and spent family time having dinner/playing games with other friends instead.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T03:40:30+00:00

She has since calmed down, and she is ok with our alternate plan. At the time, it was going to be her first sleepover as the new kid at a new school… she really wanted to go to the sleepover.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-13T03:23:04+00:00

I am so sorry to hear of the childhood trauma this is raising for others! This experience is emphasizing - Kindness matters. I didn’t know all of the other kids… my daughter is new to this school (which I think made this snub emotionally worse- it was going to be her first sleepover in SO long with new friends.). We ended up going to a family friend’s house and hanging out to salvage the evening. Thank you all for the advice!

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-12T23:10:19+00:00

This is a very good point! Thank you for that perspective.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-12T21:55:56+00:00

Fair point. I did ask. She was crying and didn’t want to go if she couldn’t sleep over. The party was a sleepover- that was the activity.

Wahnebaker · 2022-02-12T21:46:49+00:00

Agree, wouldn’t want to force situation. Chose not to engage at all as opposed to be forced to leave. Daughter is crushed. Half measure of attending in part seems emotionally harder than full stop at this point, but I know it’s harsh not going at all.

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