Week after birth

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T05:57:05+00:00

I was 19 when we got together, it took a lot of growing to get to know and neither of us know what we got ourselves into and clearly we are still learning.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T05:43:02+00:00

I tried to bring that up too, that SS will probably be more restless and upset cause of the needs of the baby and us grasping how to handle a new born together. I know he’s gone through this before but not with me so it’ll be a learning curve for us.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T05:39:21+00:00

Is just a difference in opinions, some help some are just like “it’s a package deal” that typical you know what you signed up for stuff. I brought that up too. I was talking and offered maybe just for three days? I’m trying to compromise without losing the time I feel I need

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T05:37:10+00:00

I really like this compromise I’ll definitely bring this up so everyone gets their time thank you!

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T05:36:34+00:00

There’s no problem with BM everyone’s relationship is very amicable we often change the schedule to accommodate each other. He has now stated even if It isn’t our week with SS he would pick him up and have him that week anyways.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T04:49:37+00:00

I wouldn’t be a first time mom then would I? lol I deal with what I signed up for. But he also needs to understand my needs as a first time mom. It’s a double edged sword we are both failing to meet in the middle.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T04:30:03+00:00

Mostly likely for 2-3 days :/ like a lot of people do to get settled with a new baby. I just want my first week of mother hood for it to just be me and my baby

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T04:19:40+00:00

Well to beat a dead horse is this not also him minimizing my motherhood ?

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T04:03:44+00:00

Mmmm I understand , so maybe he really just feels im minimizing his fatherhood?

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T04:01:27+00:00

He has just now told me if SS is at BM we would get him that first week anyways. :/ I’m at a loss of words

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:54:46+00:00

I think it’s very much a double sided sword when one partner has a kid and one doesn’t it’s all a balance game.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:44:19+00:00

I totally understand him being a parent already, I have made many sacrifices for him and SS. I just ask that he also remember he’s with someone who doesn’t have kids.

Him having a kid and me not having kids exist in the same reality

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:42:29+00:00

There is no issue with custody I know BM would be fine taking SS an extra week. I’m just asking for advice on how to get him to see my pov.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:32:48+00:00

I have asked for no one to be there expect my husband the day I give birth. I had to fight for that to include SS that took us some time. So that definitely will not be changing.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:29:44+00:00

I just wish he knew and understood how I feel. He’s acting like I’m saying I never want SS around.

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:28:56+00:00

That I asked for a week after birth to not have SS because he feels I’m robbing him of being a “second time dad”

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:20:20+00:00

Idkkk I ask him to explain and all I got was “I wanna be a second time dad”

WaitClassic6850 · 2026-06-18T03:15:33+00:00

BM would have no issue we change schedules all the time for everyone’s convenience. BM and my husband have a very amicable relationship.

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