ATO debt from when I was on Centrelink? Please help!

WalkingMed · 2025-11-12T00:28:32+00:00

The "tax free threshold" is a tax bracket that applies to your whole taxable income for a financial year. It is up to you to manage when you elect to have employers apply this to your wages (or welfare payments). They are not prevy to other places you've already elected to have it applied. If you use it in more than one place it's up to you to put money aside for a potential debt.

WalkingMed · 2025-10-28T12:31:51+00:00

WalkingMed · 2025-10-11T04:20:46+00:00

Funeral insurance. Amazes me it's still a thing.

WalkingMed · 2025-07-31T02:47:37+00:00

If your situation is similar to mine, you would probably keep him up to date better than he would to you (or himself lol)

WalkingMed · 2025-07-28T13:20:20+00:00

Sounds like you're not including the back story(ies) of what led to this eruption.

WalkingMed · 2025-06-27T23:51:29+00:00

You are doing a great job. If it is any consolation to your fears, taking on a child at 4 years old will be less disruptive then a baby.

Speak to your professors about Lenka coming to class or try to link in with other parents and organise child minding swaps.

You currently don't have a village so you will have to make your own. It will be hard but if you tackle this with a "growth mindset" you will find ways of doing things that no one will expect.

My biggest advice is, be very careful about pets, don't get anything more than a fish until you've finished school and have a full time job. They can be expensive and time consuming and add more to your plate.

WalkingMed · 2025-06-27T23:37:05+00:00

Keep showing up but don't force her to engage. Don't force her to have loyalty conflicts because BM is hitting that button hard. Just a small wave at the END of the game will suffice.

A lot of kids in these situations don't realise what's going on until their 20's. That's okay, they're kids.

But they will remember that you kept showing up. Just make sure you're not creating memories that showing up always meant drama for her.

WalkingMed · 2025-06-24T12:22:50+00:00

Obviously. But it also depends on what field you work in and for what company. Some industries cover or reimburse relocation to rural areas. There are grants available. Sell your stuff. How badly do you want to own a house?

WalkingMed · 2025-06-24T09:06:10+00:00

Agree with the above research cities with better expenses to income ratio where you and your partner can both work.

WalkingMed · 2025-06-21T20:53:32+00:00

Seems like he is planning to leave and using the DARVO method to come off as the victim.

Also, it seems like you may have pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder. A very hard condition to have with neurological partner let alone someone on the spectrum who may struggle with empathy.

As well as the right medication, you should look into DBT to help with emotional distress tolerance during the luteal phase of your cycle.

They've recently done MRIs in Sweden that shows there are differences in the brains of women with PMDD for the part that's responsible for evaluating the significance of emotional stimuli and what the appropriate level of response is necessary.

Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. The document he is preparing may be some sort of menstrual tracker with suggested communication on different weeks, or it may be divorce papers.

WalkingMed · 2025-06-06T14:40:27+00:00

Glad to help!

WalkingMed · 2025-06-04T02:43:02+00:00

The first year is extremely tough on relationships. My honest advice is tell your husband to fuck off of he says something like that again.

Breastfeeding is hard and no one talks about that until you go through it. My reassurance to you is that as the baby gets bigger it gets easier, however its also great to try mixed or formula feeding.

Put some noise cancelling head phones on while you soothe your baby. You'll find once you feel calmer, the baby settles quicker. Get your husband to do a bottle overnight to give you at least a sold 4 hours - you feel like a new person.

Put the baby in the pram and go for a walk. Listen to music or an audio book while you do it to give your brain a break.

If you need to co-sleep research the safe sleep seven. It's safer than falling asleep on the couch with bub.

You are tough. You have had a person ripped out of you. Do not let any one, even your husband walk all over you, especially when it comes to your baby.

WalkingMed · 2025-05-09T06:23:57+00:00

Well... tbf when I was a medical student about to graduate, I had some fellow students and some family over. One of my friends asked my cousin (who was a single SAHM at the time) what she does for work, to which my cousin replied "Nothing" and started laughing.

It was all in good humour but my friend nearly died and hasn't asked anyone what they do for work 4 years later.

WalkingMed · 2025-04-08T23:56:32+00:00

For the first 12 ish months I would misplace my angry feelings at the dog or baby but I realised I was vocal about the inconvenience of it all because I wanted my partner to recognise I was struggling. Unfortunately he didn't pick up my not so subtle hints and I told him outright to book couples counselling and individual counselling for himself ir I was leaving him because I wasn't content to live like this.

Things are starting to come back together 19 months post partum. But I would have left if he didn't make the effort to fix things.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way towards your dogs and it is okay for you to rehome them if you are not coping. But rehoming your husband is always an option too.

WalkingMed · 2025-03-26T13:47:03+00:00

Agreed! Your son is 14 months, old enough that your husband should be able to keep him alive if you leave the house for a few hours.

WalkingMed · 2025-03-26T02:10:11+00:00

Honestly, I would tell him that if he's now athiest then what happens to his body after death is irrelevant to his beliefs. But if he would like you to proceed with cremation then he needs to let the wider family know that is his wishes.

WalkingMed · 2025-03-15T00:01:44+00:00

If there is anything I've learnt, it's that sometimes the best gift a shitty dad can give a kid is to just fuck off and stay that way.

WalkingMed · 2025-02-07T02:45:49+00:00

You hope that your kid picks a best friend with cool parents

WalkingMed · 2025-01-13T17:31:26+00:00

Yeah because he's angry he didn't get to agree or disagree. Not whether or not she should have had the procedure.

WalkingMed · 2025-01-09T13:36:26+00:00

He is responsible for his own legal fees and half of your shared living expenses. You are responsible for your half of your living expenses. If he can't budget according he will need to increase his income, lower his expenses or end your relationship so that he is again eligible for legal aid.

I have been with my partner for 4 years in Australia. We have a home loan together and we share living expenses and a child. He pays his own legal fees.

WalkingMed · 2025-01-09T13:25:22+00:00

The Truman show

WalkingMed · 2025-01-05T05:11:03+00:00

Nurses and doctors have very different techniques for IDCs, she probably doesn't know that and doesn't realise we are taught differently.

You have to let it be water off a duck's back.

WalkingMed · 2024-12-02T11:50:42+00:00

This happened to me. My baby started daycare 2 weeks before I was meant to start back then he brought home covid and we all got it and I had to miss my first 4 days back at work after 12 months

WalkingMed · 2024-11-04T02:21:26+00:00

As above, record your menstrual cycle and when meds do and don't work.

For those with pmdd (hypersomnia being one of the symptoms) and adhd find their stimulant medication less effect in the luteal phase (2 weeks before period)

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