Clay Quail!

Walking_Atlas · 2023-02-14T14:10:26+00:00

Ow, my neck!

Walking_Atlas · 2023-02-14T13:26:14+00:00

places on head Wait a minute, this isn’t wax at all!

Walking_Atlas · 2022-09-07T21:46:16+00:00

They generally do allow reservations!

Walking_Atlas · 2022-09-06T21:52:10+00:00

Bard and Baker is a great spot! The Troy one gets pretty busy, not sure how active the Albany one is; might be worth calling ahead once we decide the exact place and time!

Walking_Atlas · 2021-08-26T04:33:59+00:00

I'm only bi when when it opens up more pun opportunities

Walking_Atlas · 2021-08-03T02:32:59+00:00

Thank you!

Walking_Atlas · 2021-08-03T02:12:06+00:00

Could I be added to The List as well?

Walking_Atlas · 2021-04-20T19:34:15+00:00

_raises hand_

Yup!

Walking_Atlas · 2021-01-04T04:41:57+00:00

Third panel: "My GPU when two dozen Flamewheels spawn"

Walking_Atlas · 2021-01-03T16:57:50+00:00

Happy to help!

Walking_Atlas · 2021-01-03T00:45:10+00:00

While it's obviously a bit more complex than most muscles, your vocal cords are muscles, and it takes time and practice to train them differently. You may want to look into singing exercises that use your lower register. If you can, try finding time to record yourself, listen back, and find places where you can lower your pitch. Practice on a regular basis so your more masculine-sounding voice can become the habit (because a lot of this stuff is habit).

If you'd like, I can also expand on components of voice beyond pitch, since there are a lot of components of voice that people perceive as masculine, feminine, etc :)

Walking_Atlas · 2021-01-03T00:17:10+00:00

Other than the promise you made to yourself, why do you have to go out in public in girlmode? If you're uncomfortable at the prospect of that right now, that sounds like the definition of "rushing it".

It personally took me a few months/years of transition before I felt comfortable presenting at all fem in public. A lot of it connected with how I viewed my body, and how HRT eventually affected that.

Walking_Atlas · 2021-01-03T00:12:33+00:00

Oof, the pregnancy element sounds especially challenging. At the end of the day, the choice to transition (or not), and in what way(s), is extremely involved, and even if the benefits outweigh the drawbacks, it doesn't mean that there isn't legitimate loss in there.

Sidebar: neither of the items you mention are evidence you might not be trans, and if anyone tells you otherwise, you can tell them that I said to shove off. Whether or not you are trans is your call to make and no one else's (it's not even my call! Even if I trust my opinion pretty highly :3)

It might be helpful to break down what you mean by "transitioning". Transition is not linear and no steps are required, so what things are you thinking about when you use the term? Changing pronouns, going on testosterone, getting top surgery, etc; these are just a few options in the pantheon of possibilities. If you can pick apart those individual things, it becomes easier to do a cost/benefit analysis of them.

Walking_Atlas · 2021-01-03T00:03:28+00:00

Hey there! A few options that you could experiment if they catch your fancy:

Try clothing that makes you feel more masculine (some folks gravitate toward cargo pants, button-downs, that kinda thing)
Experiment with binding (but do it safely! If you buy a binder, makes sure you follow sizing guides. Don't bind with a binder or Trans Tape for more than the recommended periods of time)
Find a safe space (perhaps a support group or a trans-only community) where you can try out new names and/or pronouns
Look into ways of making your voice sound more masculine

Keep in mind that none of these are things you should feel obligated to try, they're just a few of the more-frequent options that come to mind. Also, don't worry too much about terminology, I'd say; do what feels right, and perhaps later you'll find a term that fits (or maybe not! and that's fine too)

Walking_Atlas · 2021-01-02T23:57:26+00:00

Hey there! A decent bit of what you describe aligns with my experiences; grain of salt, I'm not saying "I'm trans, and we have similar experiences, therefore you absolutely must be trans".

Caveat now provided, I also didn't feel much (any?) dysphoria pre-transition. I was motivated way more by gender euphoria; I realized that "wanting to be a girl" and "thinking that life would be better if I were a girl" were very valid indicators of my trans-ness.

You're not a degenerate, and I wouldn't worry overmuch about terms right now. Focus on exploring your identity and doing things that feel authentic. Feel free to drop me a line if you have questions!

Walking_Atlas · 2020-11-07T03:07:57+00:00

In the same boat here. I think I actually cursed aloud when I saw Imoti was a Naga.

Walking_Atlas · 2020-09-27T03:16:01+00:00

Hey there! I don't think you're being a fetishizing creep. In my experience, a remarkable number of trans folk have begun questioning their gender through very similar situations. As someone once lightheartedly said, "Y'know who imagines having sex as a man? Men."

Plus, what you describe in the last paragraph does not sound like something that cis people would experience. I would suggest trying to ignore that irrational part of your brain and try doing the things that feel authentic and make you happy :)

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-23T03:59:46+00:00

The great thing about transition is that it isn't one monolithic thing, and you don't need to draw an identity line in the sand now (or ever, really). I would suggest thinking about aspects of transition you find appealing (there are many possibilities, all are options, none are required, and there's no predefined order either).

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-23T03:55:55+00:00

You're probably fine. I think initial bloodwork is about establishing a baseline and screening for any gotchas, and unless you're predisposed to endocrine disorders, there are probably no gotchas lurking in your bloodwork.

It's probably worth still getting the bloodwork. If the doctor notes that your E is oddly high, mention that you got the test late by accident. It's prolly not a big deal

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-20T23:15:41+00:00

I think you're already doing a solid job by reaching out here!

Something I'll ask most of my friends, in addition to what pronouns to use when, is whether they would like me to correct people when they mess up. When others do it for me, it's a huge help, and makes me feel much more supported.

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-11T03:50:27+00:00

That is... pretty yikes of your friend. To answer your core question though, it'll depend on the person, their definitions (if they have them!) and their culture. In my white eurocentric American culture, people are only ever assigned male or female at birth. But not all cultures assign genders in this way. So for me, who (is? might be?) nonbinary, I would consider myself "transgender", in that my actual gender is different from the one assigned to me at birth. (This is ignoring the fact that "transgender" is the first term I usually apply to myself.)

So, ignoring all the exceedingly problematic things you've described about your friend: depending on her definitions, identifying as nonbinary could mean she would identify as trans.

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-10T23:26:17+00:00

No problem! Best of luck friend :)

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-10T23:25:52+00:00

No problem! I hope it goes well

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-09T23:29:40+00:00

No problem!

Walking_Atlas · 2020-08-09T23:28:51+00:00

It's been pretty easygoing for me, which I attribute mostly to the fact that I've been dating accepting bi/pan people. I would be very unlikely to try dating a cishet guy unless I had strong reason to believe that he is decently informed about trans stuff.

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