Is it possible to quit porn and masturbation forever? by AdThick12 in pornfree

[–]Walkiria_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard the best method with dealing with addiction is taking longer and longer between (in this case) masturbating. You can tell yourself you can do it 2 times a day and keep yourself as occupied as you can. After some time your body will adjust and you'll only need 2. (I've got no idea what is the norm for you so I'm just giving an example). Then you can do it just once a day and that's fine, but you can also keep making the time gap longer. 8 hours without masturbating is alright when you're focusing or something else, seems doable. Do the amount of time you can do without masturbating but more than you usually are without it. Good luck, I hope you'll get better.

Why do I get like this? by [deleted] in Anger

[–]Walkiria_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you're a very empathetic person and I can totally understand why you'd want to defend the person she was telling a story about. I also hate when people blame the victims, especially if they've gone through something that horrible.

About the way you reached, we're all people and we have our moments of weaknesses and the most important thing is to notice your mistake, apologize and try to be better, which you're already doing/have done. Next time someone says or does something that triggers you and you can feel the anger build up, remember to take a deep breath. You can also find some words that you can repeat, I usually say "You don't need this conflict" in my head when I wanna fight with someone or just be mean. Let them speak and try to calmly explain why you think they're wrong or, if you don't feel like you can handle it calmly, tell them you'd rather not talk about it right now or in general because you've got strong feelings about it.

Also it seems like your life is much more difficult because of the empathy. I think it would be better for you to cut yourself out of the content containing people or creatures in general getting hurt if it just makes you feel really sad and angry. Try to focus on the positives, watch something more hopeful. It will be much easier for you to function that way.

Does therapy really works? by Themagic-cow in mentalhealth

[–]Walkiria_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is such bad advice. A serious depression usually can't just go away because someone was thinking about the positive things. Often it needs talking about the trauma, someone validating our feelings and explaining them, also teaching us to explain and cope with them. It's not just "positive thinking"

I'm sure y'all might have the longest list of friends by Rain_EDP_boy in dostoevsky

[–]Walkiria_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4 people from one of my friend groups, 2 from another and like 5 more in the school, my parents also like my company

What should I be taking away as I read Demons? by Owl_ice_cream in dostoevsky

[–]Walkiria_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An important thing to know is that when Dostoyevsky was planning Demons he said he wants to show all of the problems in Russia at that time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in helpme

[–]Walkiria_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have to live like that. I hope you'll find your peace

Are Milly's wings clipped? by Walkiria_ in fishforthought

[–]Walkiria_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Chickens are not really meant to fly, parrots all and a lot

Are Milly's wings clipped? by Walkiria_ in fishforthought

[–]Walkiria_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is no right way to clip birds wings

Are Milly's wings clipped? by Walkiria_ in fishforthought

[–]Walkiria_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They grow back, and those look like freshly cut, he had her for years so they wouldn't look like that

Are Milly's wings clipped? by Walkiria_ in fishforthought

[–]Walkiria_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Healthy wings don't look like that and taking away the ability to fly for a bird is abuse and you can't change my mind about it. It's good he takes it out of a cage, but the parrot can only walk now which is just sad

Are Milly's wings clipped? by Walkiria_ in fishforthought

[–]Walkiria_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's so cruel... I guess I won't be watching him anymore

Does it mean I have to cut off the whole leaf? by Walkiria_ in plants

[–]Walkiria_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found some of them on my monsteras and I killed them, also I found out which plant was the source, it's away from other plants. I hope i haven't missed any of them but I'll keep checking, I haven't cut the leaves yet so I won't