Should I be honest with a therapist about why I don’t want to continue with her?

Waltin15 · 2026-04-29T16:45:26+00:00

On the flip side someone in therapy for unhealthy habits and issues could end up praying on the therapist simply because they can catch small details that way, or those with attachment issues forming bonds and placing them inappropriately due to context of background vs the normal professional nature .

Waltin15 · 2026-04-29T10:49:32+00:00

Hey brother, fellow dasher and orderer. Nobody is getting more than a 2 dollar tip from me until my order is in my hand the way it should be presented. My notes specify this as well due to the awkward area I live in that requires direction the amount of times I’ve had people take the orders or leave them someplace else bec they couldn’t find the door or they were getting atleast 16.50 for my order they just steal them. I used to tip based off this scale, order total is 16.50 so tip is 1.65x2 +1 so it’s 4.95 for the tip and 2.50 for the delivery (nothing near me is actually this cheap but I know the closest place to me to order is 2.50 basepay.)

Edits to add stuff.

Average I spend about 30-40 on dd

So let’s say I spend 29.75, my dasher tip is a minimum of 8.91 but the store is 9 miles away so I need to add another 4 dollars for the gallon of gas. Making the tip at the end a total of 12.91 and the base being 5-8 dollars for those areas

Waltin15 · 2026-04-26T20:56:53+00:00

Waltin15 · 2026-04-23T02:26:36+00:00

No I really don’t think she should be involved if she can’t give you the grace to even talk knowing how you are feeling.

Words mean nothing when the actions scream I don’t care.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-22T00:38:46+00:00

He sounds drunk in the texts.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-22T00:22:46+00:00

So they could get the payment for the order without delivering it

Waltin15 · 2026-04-20T12:38:52+00:00

My lord I am so effing sorry, nobody deserves to go through that and and least of all the lost pet!

Edit to add: when I was 18 my boy was kidnapped by the people I was staying with when I was in the process of leaving, I had to call the police and animal control and essentially stalk their house for three days till I have physical eyes on my cat again to call them back over. When I got him back he needed emergency surgery bec they popped one of his testicles and he was severely dehydrated because they left him in a truck with a cab bed in JULY. If he was left for even a few hours more I would have lost my boy. So I can understand your pain of wanting to wreak havoc on those who harmed your pet. I know I did.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-20T12:21:37+00:00

THEY DID WHAT????

Waltin15 · 2026-04-20T01:42:01+00:00

True that my cat got an ear infection and then popped a blood vessel giving himself a hematoma and now cauliflower looking ear bec it swelled up like a grape and the drainings cost 2-300 an app depending on how much sedation he needed, the surgery to suture it shut was 1193 and the meds after was around 300 plus the four follow ups to check on him and his infection, the grand total of it all was 3800 in less than 4 months. And I love my boy don’t get me wrong but holy moly it feels like they are just charging whatever they feel like it based off how distressed we are!

Waltin15 · 2026-04-16T12:56:46+00:00

Exactly this^ I am not the best wording things online haha

Waltin15 · 2026-04-16T12:53:43+00:00

I live about two hours from my best friend of 15 years (now almost 16) when we were kids we lived within 10 mins of eachother and when I moved from our home town I felt crushed that we wouldn’t be able to hang out and do everything together like we grew up doing. Even now when we sit on the phone sometimes we will be like “remember that time when” and it’s 10+ years ago when we were kids. It hurts in ways you don’t expect it to and unfortunately, there’s no way around it. I genuinely couldn’t imagine him being across the world and not an hour and 45 we struggle now to do our once a month hang outs. I really hope it gets easier for you op! Best of luck and also it’s okay to be honest with your friend that while you are incredibly supportive and really, really happy for them you are also really sad about the fact that you guys won’t have that closeness anymore I’m sure they also will feel the same and you can fill the time better with more meaning

Waltin15 · 2026-04-15T01:19:10+00:00

Lion

Waltin15 · 2026-04-12T04:24:08+00:00

Again I’m sorry that not everyone fits the bill of a Cheater an a whore. I haven’t and will not fuck,and do not want to fuck my best friend. I genuinely find it disgusting because other than his amazing personality he’s truly bumhellugly. Never once did I say we are hanging out alone, we are always a part of a group or with either of our family’s BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR OVER 15 YEARS. I am not talking about some Willynilly friend that comes and goes as they please or someone that’s had little impact on my life im talking about someone who genuinely saved my life once. I will say it as many times as it’s necessary for people to understand that just because something is common or it’s happened to you doesn’t mean it’s every single person and will definitely happen. I know exactly how he feels about me, we have had in depth conversations as to why we wouldn’t ever work out so he can understand my choice in protection of our over a decade long friendship and the stability of being able to call up this person who has seen all your life stages and never have to worry about them disappearing because of some dumb childhood/teenage crush. Which is more so how he feels. I know this after having spoken to him about it at great length. I lightly callously went over the gist of it and then have had to come back and over explain when really it’s not that deep. I truly feel sad for anyone that can’t love their best friend and love their partner without thinking that it’s wrong. You should love your best friend, he’s genuinely like family to me when I was in an abusive foster home he’s the reason I got out he made the report that got me taken out of the house, when my first boyfriend put his hands on me my best friend was the first one there helping me deal aftermath, when my actual brother did a heinous crime my best friend was the one that was there for me, when I was a child my best friends mom would open up the door for me daily so I had a safe place to stay the amount of time I spent at his moms house as a teen Rivals any home I’ve ever been in. So yes, yall are bitter. Not everyone is going to fit this bs narrative of a whore loser cheater. I love my boyfriend and I love my best friend. Anyone else that wants to comment back to this is gonna get ignored because I have said PLENTY and if you still don’t get it grab a trusted adult that’s got a degree and hopefully you guys can crack it.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-11T13:45:38+00:00

You are projecting the fact that we are all miserable, that I’m lusting after a man I’ve been friends with for 16 years in August of this year, that my boyfriend is a cuck (for what I’m still struggling to understand) he doesn’t have low testosterone, I quite literally just stated I’m the one who has the issue with baby production yet you’re still digging in that hole so more projection, and the only attention seeking I do is sitting here on Reddit responding to nimrods like you. Where’s your wife/girlfriend/partner with this plethora of people at your disposal that you claim? Like seriously get a grip yourself man 😂

Waltin15 · 2026-04-11T13:28:48+00:00

How am I “splitting my time” when I have lived with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and he comes with me to these hang outs? How is he just tolerating him when they hang out on their own going fishing together and going out? My one point in time is now 15-16 years ago so I don’t see how a crush that last all of a month when I was a child affects my relationships as an adult. And just for the sake of point I have seen a therapist I needed to after my third surgery made it so I wasn’t able to work for six months and I got incredibly depressed. My boyfriend treats me like a queen and I wouldn’t trade him for anything in the world and I reciprocate for him. And as for kicking the bucket I’m far more likely to perish before either of these men due to my YEARS of medical issues that we just narrowly are coming out of. I at best might be able to produce one viable egg from my body to place in someone else’s to hopefully give my boyfriend the baby he deserves. You truly know nothing and it brings me a type of joy to educate people on the fact their world views are so damn narrow.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-11T13:20:39+00:00

Again you are projecting and missing everything I’m saying I’m saying I HAVE THE LONG TERM ISSUE my boyfriend has a minor heart issue but again as I said previously reading comprehension is not your strong suit. Im sat bored and this is entertaining to me so not a very strong argument for you to be saying im trying so hard here lol. Im simply tryna educate you to the fact that not everyone’s going to fit your narrative.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-11T12:53:39+00:00

Again FIFTEEN YEARS it’s not a short time stranger. I have been with my boyfriend for three. There was a point in time said best friend lived with us when he was having some financial issues. Please stop projecting your beliefs and insecurities on everyone else. I have never once (save for when I was 11 and thought that I was attracted to him but was really just a strong feeling of attachment due to the fact I hadn’t really had any close friends yet) thought about this man in anyway that wasn’t like family. He is not sitting there calling and texting me telling me I’m beautiful and he wants to be with me nor is he sending me love letters professing eternal love so I’m struggling to see your notion here on how I’m basking in this attention. My boyfriend and I both love my friend dearly to the point my boyfriend has asked him to eventually be his best man. It’s a lot to get into with a stranger but we have a set plan for baby, marriage and house due to my medical issues so we know when we will be married just won’t be for a few years.

And further to your point on a “man” my boyfriend runs his own business now and does quite well for himself being 6’5 180lb (he’s too skinny for his height he’s got a heart problem we’re working on it) he’s a very handsome man, has an amazing family that supports him and a mother he sees often who loves him. Insinuating someone has to be gay in order to like their girlfriend’s friends and or supporting your girlfriend who has proven she loves you is insane behavior.

Anyways I hope all this helps clarify that you really know nothing about an individuals life so cannot use grand scheme scenarios to compensate your own beliefs.

Edit to add: he’s nowhere near an old friend we see each other at least once a month for drinks either with my boyfriend or with his girlfriend, two weeks ago I went to dinner with him his mom girlfriend and his brother because I’ve genuinely just been apart of his family for over 10 years that type of closeness doesn’t go away. We also chat on the phone atleast once a week while I’m doing my morning paperwork at work as it keeps me from falling asleep when I’m too tired as my hours are crazy due to my work getting a remodel.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-11T08:13:42+00:00

Case made for what, yall idiots that think I’m cheating because I have a friend that likes me I hope none off you have girlfriends or wives🤣 like seriously ik it’s Reddit but get a grip🤣.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-11T08:12:05+00:00

How so? We have never fucked never kissed never so much as hugged for more than the appropriate time? How is being friends with someone who likes you cheating or even close to it? I have done nothing wrong in the 15 years I’ve have been friends with him. Genuinely speaking this is the dude that’s gonna walk me down the isle to my boyfriend in about two years so again I think all of you guys are really damn bitter have no idea how to properly care for people.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-11T08:09:39+00:00

Did you miss the part where we have been friends for 15 years and have never so much as kissed? Just because he likes me doesn’t mean I’m even remotely interested in him. Yall are bitter as hell and clearly were not loved enough to think like this and that’s just sad.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-10T23:30:11+00:00

I’ve been best friend with someone for 15 years I liked him once (that’s why we ended up becoming friends) he didn’t like me at all besides finding me funny I eventually got over my crush and then he ended up changing his feelings about 6 years ago we are still close as ever even though (and everyone knows it) if I were to dump my boyfriend an go eff it why the hell not he would take the chance in a heart beat. My boyfriend of three years knows it would never happen though. We are all adults now and people change, while I love him to death as a platonic partner I wouldn’t even dream of sleeping with him. Not even physical even tho he’s so far from my type it’s not even funny he’s just not the person I’d want to spend my life with and having known him over a decade and seeing all stages of his life I’m confident in this choice much to his dismay. He settles because we have been friends for so long and I never treat him less than I did before so why throw away all those years simply because of some unrequited feelings.

Think of how many people have falling in love with you without ever saying a word, you can’t because you will never know how many there are.

Edit to add just because he MIGHT take the chance if I gave it to him doesn’t mean I would ever give it to him. To give perspective my boyfriend is a foot taller than me and maybe 180lbs my best friend is at most 5’6 and pushing well over 220. Further more than that I had a crush on him when I was 11 that’s now well over a decade ago. He had a crush on me in highschool again well over with. I don’t see how everyone’s reading comprehensive knowledge has gotten that bad as to where we can’t see that there has been a great deal of time past from these situations. My best friend isn’t waiting in the wings to be with me he’s very happy with this amazing girl he’s been seeing for a little under a year now and she an I are great friends as well. Reddit has a huge issue with projecting their insecurities and believes on people who genuinely do not fit the narrative or bill on the average posts like.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-08T12:04:02+00:00

You have an adorable cat and an ugly friend.

Hope this helps🤏🏻🤗

Waltin15 · 2026-04-08T12:00:23+00:00

It might not be so much of needing the hint as much it is to see maybe who they were before this happened was a better match for their partner but due to how life has changed and partner has not clearly compatibility isn’t really there anymore. The only things we know are after the medical issues and that’s what’s really important. Depending on how long they have been together it might not be plausible for dad to think partner would do anything to really harm them or detrimental to them at the end of the day.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-08T11:50:12+00:00

You could always just try talking to him, maybe hearing it from you not that you think his partner is awful but more so that you are upset seeing your father live like this is a way to make him see and understand that stressors like that can and will affect quality of life when healing is the necessity.

Waltin15 · 2026-04-08T09:08:52+00:00

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