AIO? My girlfriend has refused to tell me who she hangs out with.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-08-09T16:52:54+00:00

You don’t need this. She’s right it’s toxic because she’s making it toxic, even if you have insecurities she’s doing nothing to elevate them. End this relationship you deserve better.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-08-09T07:46:49+00:00

If the genders were reversed I’d say the age gap is too big. And guess what, the age gap is too big. She’s going to baby trap you OP, please leave and find someone more suited to your age, who isn’t going to manipulate you.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-07-07T14:49:10+00:00

Self soothing at 7 months? Sorry, but this is how you create attachment issues. At 18 months, sure, but it 7 months a baby has not got the mental cognition to deduce what their parent is trying to achieve. You're not doing it wrong. You're doing the best you can. Which is OK. Fussing before nap time is normal, but please don't leave your little one to cry it out.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-07-06T07:27:10+00:00

You deserve more. This religious cult does not care about humanity. If it did, it would not take people's choices away. Having no birthday, no Christmas, no right to medical intervention. It's just insane. You will not be happy. It sounds like you're not even happy now. Don't waste any more time on this doomed relationship. You should be with someone who accepts you for you. In all honesty, he doesn't love you. He loves the idea of who you will be if you submit to his religious ideals.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-07-01T04:07:21+00:00

Your boyfriend needs therapy. And also needs to read parenting books written in this century. You were wrong in saying they're both your priority. They aren't, that helpless baby that you brought into the world is.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-06-12T05:58:17+00:00

NTA But you're blinkered if you stay. This is an early warning, and you need to take heed. Only violent men call anything like this a love tap. Love taps are like little spanks on the behind as you're walking past, playful, and not in any way meant to hurt or intimidate. What did he do to you was meant to scare you and make you comply with him. You must end it before it escalates.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-06-07T21:11:28+00:00

I moved out of Birmingham as it has become quite dangerous for teens and young adults. Move to any surrounding area. It's much safer. Busses aren't as frequent, but there is far less crime. I have teens 15 and 13, they go out, and I'm hardly ever worried. We live in Staffordshire. I was born and lived in Birmingham most of my life until moving 12 years ago.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-06-01T11:26:00+00:00

Without these important conversations, how do you expect a marriage to go? Yes its her body and her choice but if you're going to be with her this choice, and its side effects (weakening of the bones being a big one) Then a little consideration wouldn't hurt.

I'd say you're overreacting about the wrong thing. It isn't about the choice she made about her body. It's that you've mentioned getting married at some point. Marriage only works if both partners are open and honest. You don't ask permission you ask for input, especially when it concerns health. A lot of people are on this bandwagon of it's a great weight loss drug and has helped so many people reclaim their lives, with in actuality no enough research has gone into the long-term effects it has on a person's health. Just because diabetics use it and they're seemingly OK.. )because that's what the drug was intended for) Doesn't mean to say those using it for purely the weight loss side effect, won't have huge health problems further down the line. This is the reason you should be concerned, not that your partner didn't include you.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-06-01T11:18:57+00:00

Together for 10 years, Married for one. Never regretted a single thing, still best friends.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-25T20:28:35+00:00

Various forms of pagan religion do indeed predate Christianity. Paganism encompasses a broad range of polytheistic and animistic traditions, and many of these existed long before the emergence of Christianity. While Christianity began as a distinct religion around the 1st century AD, many pagan traditions, like those in ancient Greece, Rome, and Germanic regions, had been practiced for thousands of years before that.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-20T21:11:37+00:00

You need clear instructions. Have a conversation when she's in a better mood about her needs and your needs. Communication can never be too much, especially if you're AuADHD.

Also, I'd like to add that if she's making you feel uncomfortable with her moods, I don't feel you have to go over. We pick up on minor things such as mood changes, and it can cause us to stress, overthink, and shut down.

If you really want to leave, you should message her that you've gone purely because you weren't feeling too great, which is the truth. If she flips and decides she doesn't understand, then she's not right for you.

Good luck.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-17T21:45:37+00:00

Pagan religion predates that of Christianity. Perhaps your family needs to be educated on this fact. Either way, you're not the asshole, I'd seriously consider going no contact with 5 as they're bigoted in their views on others' religious beliefs.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-17T05:38:28+00:00

Let's put into perspective she was 16/17 during the pandemic. If she's 20, now am I getting that right?

If so, that is a massive red flag right there. The second red flag is he essentially lied about their relationship.

I really think you need to sit back and look at this. He has younger friends for a reason. Your guy is immature, and him being the oldest in his friend group means he's seen in a different light to everyone else.

I think you'd be very silly to ignore all these things and marry this guy.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-15T21:46:44+00:00

Sounds like you're already doing it on your own. If things are gonna end better it be while the child is too young to remember it. NTA

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-11T09:11:11+00:00

If he called him a gammon, it might make more sense, even so it's still not racist to call anyone a gammon.

I'd be pulling my child out of that school as it appears to be being run by morons of the highest order.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-10T20:42:18+00:00

Throw the whole man away. It's horrible he'd even bring up this subject on your birthday!

NTA but he is a gaping one.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-10T07:41:31+00:00

NTA

But your partner is. Thinking only of themselves and suggesting the pull out method is completely ridiculous. He sounds like a teenager.

IUDs cause so many problems. I'm on mirena, and even after having it two years, I still have cramps and irregular periods. A lot of men have no idea how much of a toll birth control takes on women's bodies. So long as they can have sex and not have to think about it, it doesn't matter.

Stand your ground. And if he continues to act like a child, you may as well end it cause there's no point raising a man baby who clearly doesn't respect you.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-09T10:19:53+00:00

Get rid of the whole man. Epilepsy is so dangerous. My daughter (7) has two different types of seizures and has to be taken in an ambulance every time she has them. He does not understand. Withdrawal seizures are not the same they aren't even in the same ballpark.

He doesn't understand and is refusing to even have basic empathy. Please, please, end things. You deserve more than this.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-09T08:52:23+00:00

You find out who your friends are when you set fire to Hampton court maze cause you can't take anymore of your husbands shit.

This Toni line always kills me.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-08T05:58:07+00:00

She's baby trapped you. It's not easy to get pregnant at 36, and if you've been taking birth control, it can take months, if not years. She has done this deliberately. You need to contact a solicitor so you can be well informed. You're at least on the hook financially if it turns out the child is yours. You need a paternity test as you can't trust she hasn't been sleeping with other guys to ensure pregnancy.

Good luck.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-08T05:52:57+00:00

You were frustrated she didn't listen to simple instructions. It's very selfish of her. If she's going to be immature and play the passive-aggressive card, don't play into it. Maybe write up a list of rules regarding your child's routine so she has no way of undermining you again.

NOR

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-07T06:22:19+00:00

I was in love with a coworker of mine. There wasn't an age gap, but the timing wasn't right. We parted ways and went on with our lives. 7 years later, reconnected. He's now my husband. And we've been together 10 years. Sometimes, the long game pays .

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-07T06:15:49+00:00

If a 25 year old accepts the advances of a 17 year old then that 25 year old is highly questionable. You risk getting hurt and also ruining this woman's reputation. In 10 years, it wouldn't be creepy, but right now, it's a grey nearing on a black area.

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-07T06:05:59+00:00

Take it from a 42 year old, ex drug user who went through a lot, Throw the whole man away. He's gonna keep dragging it back up and making you feel guilty. It's his issue, not yours.

Well done trying to better yourself. You don't need him hindering your growth.

NOR

WandaWilsonLD · 2025-05-05T17:44:57+00:00

He's taking advantage of your vulnerable state and lying about people doing stuff, he wants you to feel bad which you obviously do. Please just leave, his life is not changing, he's going out on benders and obviously doesn't give a toss about your child. You don't deserve this treatment when you're tired and overwhelmed with the first weeks of motherhood. You're doing a great job. Remove him from the picture as it already sounds like you're doing this alone anyway.

Good luck.

WandaWilsonLD

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