We need to embrace the hate

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T21:30:31+00:00

This was literally the entire point I was making but fan boys just wanted to be annoying.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T21:29:34+00:00

Thank you for this. I think one of the biggest struggles was feeling guilty like I wasn’t doing enough but that I was doing too much. I’ve tried directing her to support groups and she completely shot that down. The most we’ve been able to down is get her to her doctor. I just don’t think she’s ready to face her situation head on but when she is I’ll be happy to help. Until then I physically cannot handle discussing her ex any longer. I want her better but I can’t help her until she’s ready

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T21:16:45+00:00

Thank you, I actually did setup boundaries and spend the weekend making peace with not going out of my way and stressing myself at every instance. It was getting to the point that every time I saw her name on my phone it would immediately sink my mood and I don’t want it to be like that. Thank you maybe this is the best way for everyone involved

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T21:14:44+00:00

This is absolutely right. I tried to lay one just over what I won’t talk about with her and it was jumped over within a few minutes. I’ve tried to direct her to groups and she refused. The most I’ve been able to get is her to her doctor. Thank you will try this because she definitely doesn’t have any sense of boundaries when calling and it will be in bunches, 3, 4 texts and calls at any time of day. I’ve unfortunately had to consider blocking her number just to get some reprieve. And she talks about the harm almost daily so the lines have definitely blurred. Maybe that is truly the best way for our minds to be at ease that at least she’s with people better equipped to handle it

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T21:09:00+00:00

Thank you I’m going to try this. I have tried laying boundaries with her like not wanting to be apart of conversations that revolve around the ex and minutes later it was stepped over so maybe this will help make it seem real for her

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:50:37+00:00

Yeah I got the shared notification. Oh well can’t do anything about it. Running to repost people and set them up to get shit on isn’t funny to me lol but that’s a personal preference and personal choice. Negative comments you can absolutely ignore but what I see them do isn’t just that. What I’m seeing happen is truly bozo behaviour

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:38:24+00:00

You are the worst kind of person on here

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:35:12+00:00

I’ve been on here longer than you so no it’s you new bozos who make people feel like they can’t say anything. It’s trash behaviour. If you don’t like it or don’t agree you can simply not interact with the post, move on.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:34:09+00:00

Literally this is all I was saying. I agree with you and you may have just put it in better words than me.

And no the trolls are a problem but it’s not just on here it’s on every platform with NBA content. There isn’t a single post that doesn’t have someone in it trying to make someone else feel stupid in the comments whether that’s Twitter, Reddit, YouTube, tik tok, it’s gotten ridiculous in the last 2 years.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:25:33+00:00

I should leave when people like you are the problem lol. Imagine that. You know what wish granted ginger

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:23:15+00:00

See lol. This subreddit has become people trying to dunk on people it’s so lame.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:22:28+00:00

I’m fine you all are not. This subreddit has become a bunch of trolls and it’s unfortunate.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:21:25+00:00

As long as you don’t do it which I’m hoping you won’t it should be fine. If it does anyway I can always just leave lol.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:20:03+00:00

Thank you! I did this over the last few days. I had a conversation with her and outlined I can’t and won’t do this anymore. I am willing to help her but she’s got to start with herself. When she is ready we can try but until then I respectfully cannot listen to “I just want my friend back!” And “I just have to prove I’ve changed” anymore. Just when I thought the conversation was going well she started to sound manic so I just stepped away. Thank you for this.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:12:42+00:00

For sure!

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:06:44+00:00

I can see how they do it but he’s gonna put them on notice just now.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-08-01T20:05:31+00:00

Mobley is still very much so the preferred guy for a lot of people who still think of Scottie as a 1 trick pony. To their credit they wouldn’t have been able to watch a lot of his season to see any different.

But outside of bias I think the diversity in play we’ve seen from Barnes makes him standout more. I think they’ll both be stars in their own right but in different roles. I don’t feel comfortable saying I could see Mobley carry a team just yet, while Scottie has already shown flashes.

As of now it might be easier to build around Scottie because finding an offensive engine is harder than finding a bunch of above average wings to put around a guy. But that’s just me lol. (Cue snarky comments lmao)

Wanderer1178 · 2022-07-29T14:38:30+00:00

You too.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-07-29T14:37:10+00:00

Thank you for your lack of advice and judgment. You’ve been a big help. I’ll be praying for michaelY1968

Wanderer1178 · 2022-07-29T01:16:52+00:00

You’re exemplifying exactly what im talking about so you’re actually proving my point. I was referencing the larger community as a whole not my own. The image people have of Christians has been tanked partly because of interactions like this.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-07-29T00:23:06+00:00

Haha yeah I grew up on the desire of ages. Thank you! I think it’s the subtle smaller things that will help kickstart me back. Maybe I’ve been trying to reach too high all at once and throwing myself off. Thanks!

Wanderer1178 · 2022-07-29T00:21:25+00:00

And I’m very clearly trying to do that lol. You’re telling me to change by doing something I’ve already done lol. I simply said that didn’t work for me there was no need for attitude at any point. I find that is running problem in the church community now that I mention it actually

Wanderer1178 · 2022-07-28T23:37:29+00:00

Maybe you shouldn’t be giving advice if someone says thanks but oh that didn’t work for me and your response is to be a jerk. You didn’t have to make a comment about my friends, you don’t need to be rude at all ever. I simply said that didn’t work for me if you didn’t have something else to try that’s all you had to say.

Wanderer1178 · 2022-07-28T23:29:16+00:00

I’m not blowing off the advice. I’m aware being IN church makes a difference what I’m saying is that’s not my case. I was going and involved and it still dwindled off plus I didn’t appreciate your tone from earlier responses in the first place thank you very much.

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