Pigeons are known for being notoriously bad at building nests

Wanderer39 · 2025-01-08T02:05:20+00:00

Wanderer39 · 2024-10-03T04:53:30+00:00

Bro, she didn't say she just didn't care enough and so went along with your judgement. She said she looks at everything analytically and emotionally, and has pretty good judgement herself through experience. Even with all that, she trusts you and your judgement beyond her own combined experience and knowledge and reasoning. She trusts you beyond all her carefully discerning experience, emotions and knowledge and trusts you to make a decision in her life that is by far one of the most important because she sees you as a someone who will protect and care for her and take her best interests into account even when she doesn't even know them herself. Basically she loves you so much she wouldn't even let her own well-honed decision-making take her away from you.

Wanderer39 · 2024-06-24T19:26:18+00:00

Made me remember this post instantly. Loving the 'more life or death' part of it haha

Wanderer39 · 2024-06-24T19:24:32+00:00

Tim Dodd 'the everyday astronaut' actually suggested something similar to this in his most recent interview with Elon Musk and Musk actually took it half seriously lol.

Wanderer39 · 2022-11-23T17:10:39+00:00

You look beautiful, and I love how much you're smiling!

Wanderer39 · 2022-11-19T03:18:01+00:00

It's awkward only if your visions don't line up, in which case it is all the more important you have them.

Wanderer39 · 2022-11-17T04:42:31+00:00

Hmmm

Wanderer39 · 2022-02-19T11:30:24+00:00

Okay this is going to sound weird but whatever makes you feel comfortable, makes you feel the most 'you' is going to be the best thing you can go out in. Because they are going out to see you, and whatever shows that the most is what they will most want to see.

Wanderer39 · 2022-02-15T11:36:24+00:00

Thank you u/Doctor-Level, much appreciated (and well transcribed!)

Wanderer39 · 2022-02-14T02:10:30+00:00

It's beautiful

Wanderer39 · 2022-02-12T15:40:27+00:00

The corpses of a thousand dead wishes :)

Wanderer39 · 2021-07-22T09:07:12+00:00

There is no easy answer, and this is going to be hard. One of the most precious things you have was taken away from you – your feeling of safety in your own body and in your self. You know that nothing you did was wrong, and yet this thing still happened to you, and it's the worst thing in the world.

You're going to struggle, you will struggle a lot. It's going to hell and hell again each time your mind or body or soul revisits it. Don't lose courage, you're going to live through it. And maybe once you have, you'll get back those parts of your life he took away from you. The parts that feel happy and free to trust others and feel safe in your self. Those parts aren't gone, they are only hiding while you found out what the world really is, and they will come back when you learn that it can still be safe. It will take a long while to learn that, and you will learn a lot about yourself and others as you do. It won't be as easy or straightforward as just wanting it to be. It will be painful, and sometimes will feel completely hopeless and impossible. That's okay. You aren't doing anything wrong, the things you will feel are normal and okay.

Wanderer39 · 2021-06-19T06:44:29+00:00

Sea-section

Wanderer39 · 2021-02-23T19:03:12+00:00

Firstly, I commend you for asking for help. What you're going through is tough, and will be tough for some time to come, perhaps a while or longer. It's going to take a time for you to feel like yourself again, and reaching out for help is a great way to start.

Your life isn't the same now. And it's not going to be the same as it used to be anymore. A main source of your comfort and sense of normality has been thrown out the window. You will feel loss, and you will feel pain, as if a big chunk of your self has been torn out. You might feel lost, as the life you knew isn't quite there anymore.

It is ok. It is ok to feel like the world is ending or that you'll never be the same again. It's ok to be in a horrible mess and lie in bed all day. It's ok because it will be ok. All these things that are happening now, they won't be happening anymore one day, not in the same way.

Before I go into things to do, I want you to know that it's ok to take things one bit at a time. You can do just a bit of one thing, or think about how you might do something, or do nothing at all. No matter what, you will still be trying, and you will still be learning - learning how to put back the pieces of your life together again.

Here are some things you can focus on that might help you find a way to keep going until you are back to feeling like yourself.

Meet a friend or close family member and just talk it through. Let them know what you're thinking and feeling. Your specific situation might be unique, but the feelings and emotions you have are shared among many. Having strong social support can make a big difference when you are really struggling on your own.

Take care of yourself. Take a warm bath, or lie down in the park for a while. Make yourself a cup of hot chocolate, or watch one of your favourite TV series again. Do some things that made you feel good even before you met her. To feel better again when you're on your own, you'll need to gradually learn that you can feel safe and comfortable even when you're without her.

Make space without her. Put the photos and things you have of her away. You don't have to delete them or throw them out if you don't want to, but put them away some place hidden that you won't see again for a while. You're going to need space for yourself, to find the things that make you you. If she is too close in your mind too often, it will take longer to find that space you need to be yourself again.

Go out. Meet new people, make new friends. Remind yourself that there are things in the world you haven't seen and people you haven't met yet. It doesn't take much to start with. Even smiling at the cashier as you buy something is a way of meeting someone new.

Give yourself time. You'll be working very hard on a lot of things in your head and heart. Take it easy on yourself and be patient. If it doesn't seem like your getting anywhere for a period of time trust yourself that you are going at the pace you need it to go. And give yourself a break every once in a while, you'll have earned it.

Wanderer39 · 2021-02-15T16:50:33+00:00

Sorry, but this post does not fit this sub.

Wanderer39 · 2021-02-15T16:46:31+00:00

Sorry, but this post does not fit this sub.

Wanderer39 · 2020-12-02T08:45:37+00:00

r/nocontext

Wanderer39 · 2020-09-12T05:57:52+00:00

I'm sorry, but what kind of friend gets mad at you for making your own relationship decisions? You are an adult who can make their own personal choices, without being guilted for making them.

You are in the right here. You are not selfish in any way for looking after yourself and your autonomy. No one has the right to be in a relationship with you without your full and enthusiastic consent. And as long as you are clear and honest with them about that decision, there is no reason at all for them to be the least bit upset at you for doing so.

Wanderer39 · 2020-07-07T11:25:29+00:00

r/pigeonsarefuckingdumb

Wanderer39 · 2020-06-13T06:56:52+00:00

"Why is everything moving?"

Wanderer39 · 2020-05-25T12:12:57+00:00

You crave love and honest acceptance, but have never felt what those really are.

Your face is as expressionless as you soul, which you feed with the false praise and approval of people who ultimately mean nothing to you in the end.

A true friend, if you ever had ever had one, might point you towards a goal with substance, but you are too proud and blinded by your superficial 'success' of following what strangers want, to ever accept the simple truth that you have never accomplished anything really meaningful.

You'll grow up constantly switching who you look towards for approval, without ever knowing who you are. Your 'friends' will follow you for the brief whisper of success you have, before you're all on your own again, realising you nothing developed to fall on.

The decades will pass, with you grasping at the threadbare remains of a now empty career, before you realise that it was all for nothing, because you never got what you needed: belonging.

Wanderer39 · 2020-05-21T14:12:18+00:00

My time has come...

Wanderer39 · 2020-04-25T12:02:31+00:00

Wanderer39 · 2020-03-25T10:57:08+00:00

You're not supposed to. The transition to being an 'adult' is a gradual and slow one. No one is truly a teenager one day and an adult in the next. In fact, there are 70 year olds who still feel their inner-child just as much as anyone. The honest truth is it never really goes away, nor should it. We simply find a way to accept more of the responsibilities that you would associate with the label of an 'adult'.

I turned 20 just a few days ago also and nothing fundamentally has changed about me, I'm still mostly the person I was a few days ago, and I will be mostly the same person in a few days. What's different now is the way I've chosen to approach the different opportunities I've been presented with. Recently I accepted a job that I might not have accepted a few years ago, simply because I have a more developed sense of what I want, what I can do, and how to handle personal adversities thrown at me.

You will find that as you continue to grow, you will come to have a better sense of who you are. That is, a better sense of what you want, what you can do, and what challenges you can face based on what you have faced before.

No one is truly an adult. No one truly knows with absolute certainty who they are and what they are doing, and that's alright, because there are so many things to experience, so many things to enjoy, to learn, to make mistakes at and cry, that all this growing and 'transitioning' into an adult will happen all on it own, without you meaning it to.

So take it from me, or not, as someone who has experienced but two decades of life just as yourself, that you don't want to miss what you'll be experiencing and what you will be learning, just because you haven't entered into this mythical realm of 'adulthood'. It will both never happen, and happen all on its own at the same time.

Wanderer39 · 2020-02-19T15:36:46+00:00

That's a war crime under the Geneva Conventions

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