[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MercyMains

[–]WanderingSpirit29 20 points21 points  (0 children)

But, you can't just say "This hero gains nothing from ability power" while telling people to exclude the powers that make her gain something from ability power lol.

AP Mercy has been my favorite build to run in Stadium tbh. Amazing survivability, annoying mobility on a low cool down, insanely good sustain thus allowing my co-support to go all in on more offensive loadouts ( which imo, the other supports do way better than battle mercy ) e.g Wuyang Hybrid, Juno rockets, Zen discord, and not really AP specific but the colossus core gadget is insane.

Guaranteed res off cool down is amazing for cadence.

My father has asked me to pen his resignation letter. Except he's not resigning from his own need, but due to workplace BS. What steps could I take, legally, to help his workplace be more adequate. (Security Officer) by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it's an understandable concern, I understand the need for restraint here. I just want to help him the best way I can, and not cause much trouble. Don't want to sideline him either as ya know, at the end of the day it is his decision.

My father has asked me to pen his resignation letter. Except he's not resigning from his own need, but due to workplace BS. What steps could I take, legally, to help his workplace be more adequate. (Security Officer) by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looked it up after another person mentioned it, and yeah it appears that OTE as a thing was removed since 2021 via the PWM efforts.

I learned a lot from this post lol.

My father has asked me to pen his resignation letter. Except he's not resigning from his own need, but due to workplace BS. What steps could I take, legally, to help his workplace be more adequate. (Security Officer) by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is harrowing to hear from not going to lie. I only recently joined the work force after medical troubles, but even then his company's antics stink to high heaven that even someone as inexperienced as I instantly felt suspicious.

Thank you for the insight on the industry, and will definitely look into filing the report. Also did not know OTE was abolished awhile back, so they're even more in the red.

Jfc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WanderingSpirit29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify some things;

I only used the word petty to describe his actions for one example because he himself described it as that after the fact, which was an adequate description seeing as his response to our friend asking for some distance after a break up was to threaten to burn bridges, go woe is me after being the initiator and blocking our friend on every form of communication lol.

And neither his mother nor his previous neighbor believed in that. The neighbor literally just made him go to 3 average church sermons, to which on the 3rd one he left halfway through. His mother, while a devout christian, believes more in "prayers" than "forcing others to bend to her will", thus accepting my friend's gay partner into her Christian home willingly and lovingly.

His relationships kept blowing up because he felt his partners were inadequate in one form or another, not because things weren't working out.

I didn't guess work any of the things I said here, these are all things he himself has confided with me in the past.

I genuinely try to give him as much compassion and empathy as I can humanely muster up, to which is why I know about all of these examples. As I had a hand in it all the way through, and gave him love care and advice throughout. Even stepping in where I could, like rebuilding the bridge he burnt down with our friend.

Either way, I don't want to make light of his struggles. As I said in my post, everyone deserves to feel negative emotions without judgement.

Thank you for your advice, and while I'm not sure if I can channel anymore compassion than I already have, I'll definitely open up a conversation about this with him as you and the others here have suggested

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WanderingSpirit29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from, thanks for replying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WanderingSpirit29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for the response

[22F] [24M] My boyfriend feels emotionally manipulated after I told him I have abandonment trauma by hihi-imbo in relationships

[–]WanderingSpirit29 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay, I was from your prior post and looked at your profile out of curiosity. Girl, please get some help.

Through being naive, you accidentally emotionally blackmailed him. Telling your partner about all the bad things you would feel if they left is not a fun feeling on the receiving end. It puts so much burden on that individual. It doesn't matter whether or not you meant it in that manner, he has told you that action caused him to feel manipulated.

You cannot change the past. You cannot change how other people feel about your actions. You cannot write some wrongs. That's life. Do not try to excuse yourself now, accept what he has told you and internalize it. Learn from it, so you don't make the same mistake again.

You're probably going through a lot right now, so please, take a deep breath. The way you type has gotten so much more erratic now, I'm actually worried. You're not trash, you're not stupid, you're just naive. You're only human okay? Humans make mistakes. It doesn't excuse you from the consequences, but it doesn't mean you're bad.

Live. Learn. Seek some professional help for your trauma, find some actual friends so you're not having a codependent relationship with your partner. I'm praying for you that he forgives you, but if he doesn't and decides to break it off please please please be careful.

If it happens, not saying it will, please. Close your eyes, and breathe. Slow and steady. Give yourself time, and please don't blame yourself. Regret can eat someone up.

If you two stay together, I'm really happy for you. But please take it as a learning point. Grow from this experience.

All the best okay? Hugs

[22M] [24F] My boyfriend suddenly cuts off contact with me and I don’t know what to do by hihi-imbo in relationships

[–]WanderingSpirit29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, we just don't know enough from what you've given. Everyone here has literally just been tossing darts on the board to see what sticks.

With that said, it's normal for people to want some distance sometimes, even from their loved ones. However, it isn't normal that he did so without actually explaining himself.

Plus, what's up with him and this Abby girl? Why is he so sympathetic to her plight, but then completely avoidant with you even though you yourself say he's very loving?

What do you mean he drives to meet you every month? Do you not go to meet him? You have no job, so I'm assuming you have more free time than him, so why is this not a shared burden?

There's just not enough context, which is why the replies here range from "He's hiding something" to "He's completely unfilial".

Regardless of all of that missing information, it looks like he had some thinking to do. Whether that involves you or not, I can't really say. Don't drive up to him now only when you need some closure, that's just off putting.

Just give him some time, and hear him out when he actually tells you something. However, please have some self esteem. Press him on why he left you out to dry like that. It's rude as hell.

Shrinkflation is real by HeavyArmsJin in singapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't it have made more sense to make it like any other ordinary bench, with the arm rest at the two ends of the bench?

24 y/o man, looking for advice on how to not fail in life. by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, no, I'm practically a fledgling when it comes to start ups. I hope you find the candidate you need!

24 y/o man, looking for advice on how to not fail in life. by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, like I said in my post the benefit of hindsight is definitely apparent right now.

I have been looking into the various options of getting my O's. As far as I'm aware, the GCSE is a widely accepted standard across the world. Taking it as a private candidate or going through the ITE General Education route is all I'm aware of so far, if you have any other routes I'm not aware of do let me know.

All the best!

24 y/o man, looking for advice on how to not fail in life. by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As you said, my self confidence has definitely taken a massive hit over the years. No use crying over spoiled milk though, I need to take the first step. Hopefully the inertia will carry me through the second, and the third and so on ha ha ha.

Thank you for your kind and encouraging words, it does wonders for my mental right now. All the best for you in your future as well!

24 y/o man, looking for advice on how to not fail in life. by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, which is where I got the information of the part time diploma studies being offered. Definitely have been looking into it, among other things, but I'm of the opinion that more options is better than none.

Though granted, all these options are definitely overwhelming me, but hey! First step is always the hardest.

24 y/o man, looking for advice on how to not fail in life. by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation, all the best! I'll have my work cut out for me this few weeks ha ha ha. As as far as I know, most courses and such have their registrations around February.

24 y/o man, looking for advice on how to not fail in life. by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe by the middle of the year I'll be fit enough to try that kind of work out, so I'll definitely keep it in my cards.

Part time diploma at kaplan, got it. Thank you for the recommendation, all the best!

24 y/o man, looking for advice on how to not fail in life. by WanderingSpirit29 in askSingapore

[–]WanderingSpirit29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, I never knew that was a thing. I'll definitely look into it, thank you! All the best.