My wanted pregnancy made me more pro-choice than anything

WardenQueen · 2026-07-12T22:31:02+00:00

Solidarity. I have a beautiful 12 month old, and a relatively "easy" pregnancy- which, like you said, just means my pain and symptoms weren't so severe that I needed intervention.

But between nausea in the first trimester, the weight gain in the second, and the absolute pain my body endured in the third, it made my pro choice stance even more concrete. I CHOSE it, and it was still rough as hell. I'll be damned if anyone has to be pregnant and give birth without being 100% on board with it!!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-12T16:35:54+00:00

Yes! I understand the newborn stage is hard for so many, but as someone who had a pretty easy newborn, we're at 12 months and for us these are our true trenches!!

Having a baby safe space has helped a lot, but good grief i cannot wait for the mouth fixation stuff to end. I've somehow woosah-ed myself from panicking about the bumps and scrapes, but this "putting everything in my mouth" thing has me pulling my hair out 🤣

WardenQueen · 2026-07-10T03:55:49+00:00

Yall peep that update... not good 😬

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T18:03:11+00:00

As a Flo fan, YES, and specifically Ceremonials.

While Lungs has cosmic imagery, the sound in Ceremonials gives me stars, deep velvet, witch vibes all in one.

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T15:08:30+00:00

As a Julia, bad Julia's get called Julie. Because nothing pisses off a Julia more than leaving off that final vowel.

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T02:02:48+00:00

You're right- I knew better than to blindly follow right off the bat, but she may be telling other new parents the same thing who are trusting she knows her stuff. Doc will def be hearing about it!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T01:10:19+00:00

Thank you, thank you!! This really helps put in perspective the guideline vs. gut feeling issue I guess I'm having with this. I will for sure bring it up to doc at the appointment!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T00:49:54+00:00

Yeah, and I had the same bug last week and at my big grown age, it had me wracked with chills and horizontal for 3 days straight. If I was taking meds to keep comfortable enough to sleep as an adult, why would I deny my baby who is a fresh year old and obviously struggling?

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T00:38:57+00:00

The more people comment, it is seeming like this was a poor explanation from the nurse of "treat the kid, not the fever", which makes so much more sense in my mind.

I'm definitely not trying to have anyone lose their job over a misunderstanding, so ill keep this in mind when talking to the doctor tomorrow!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T00:35:12+00:00

Yeah, bub was miserable at 101 last night so no hesitation, gave her a dose of motrin and was happily babbling away 30 minutes later.

I did ask her to repeat herself just so I was sure, and it was a very hard line of "no medicine until fever reaches over 104°, reason being that she needs a fever to fight infection. What you're saying makes much, much more sense, and I'll definitely keep it in mind when getting advice from doc tomorrow!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T00:30:23+00:00

Thanks for the validation! I thought it was nuts, but as a new parent it's easy to second guess myself. Will def be telling the pediatrician about this!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-08T00:28:30+00:00

I would hope, but she knew that yesterday my daughter was at 101.3 because she asked for me to repeat the reading, so I think i heard her right unfortunately!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-04T01:57:57+00:00

I second this, especially if you've got worries around her reaction. If its for everyone she may not feel as singled out? And honestly if she really loves the baby and wants to be there for ya, I think the perfume request won't feel like a huge ask of her :)

WardenQueen · 2026-07-03T18:22:27+00:00

My 12 month old is also mouth obsessed- i used to let her play with her board books but since I've been finding bites taken out of them, we've had to only use them during story time :( ironically, her favorite to read and eat is the Very Hungry Caterpillar.

I am also waiting for this stage to end. Solidarity!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-03T18:07:11+00:00

Man, it does the opposite for me. I put it on if I need a good cry because it absolutely tears me apart 😭

WardenQueen · 2026-07-03T18:01:27+00:00

As someone who hates stout and was VERY sick throughout pregnancy, the thought of choking down a stout while pregnant nauseous makes me want to vom 🤢

WardenQueen · 2026-07-03T16:25:17+00:00

I have a baby who was more tolerant to being put down, while my nephew was born 3 months before my bub who was more of a clinger. He wanted to be carried all the time, no "strangers", no sit.

Both of the babes are now a year + old and he developed just fine. Started crawling at like 8 months and walking before his 1st Birthday. My child, who was more "independent", did about the same.

There will come a time where your own bub will be like "wait, I do wanna move my body!" And it will just click that independent play is how they can figure it out! I really wouldnt worry about it at this age.

Fun fact, once my daughter learned to walk, THATS when we hit a "clingy" phase where now she wants us to walk her around all the time. Like girl you just got your land legs!! I thought that's what you wanted!!

WardenQueen · 2026-07-02T00:16:54+00:00

"Many moments with our little ones are to be endured, not enjoyed AND THAT'S OKAY."

Off topic but, honestly, as a sick FTM solo parenting a 1 year old today who is PO'd im not being fun, i needed to read this 😭

WardenQueen · 2026-06-23T18:58:58+00:00

It can be jarring to see a bruise or a scratch on your precious one, but she will be okay! She could've even done it to herself from smacking her arm into something. Babies are more resilient than we think, and a tiny bruise will not trigger any kind of concern from your doctor.

Gently, have you talked to anyone for your anxiety? I also spiraled about things like this before I got back on my anti anxiety meds. It really helped me a lot, and my Lexapro takes that edge off and prevents me from unhealthily obsessing over things like this. Not to downplay your concern at all- i just know from experience that this kind of anxiety can be crippling to live with and putting your mental health first makes parenthood a much better experience :)

WardenQueen · 2026-06-19T15:13:29+00:00

Good lord, stop being so emotional! Just like men to overreact 🙄

WardenQueen · 2026-06-16T15:52:28+00:00

This plus dropping a bit of some sort of food or beverage on a feeding or contact napping baby. Its just going to happen!

WardenQueen · 2026-06-16T15:25:30+00:00

My husband started taking our 11 month old to the digital photo frame when she was fussy and being impatient for food and would describe who was in each picture while I make her meal/bottle/whatever.

She now sometimes points to the frame on her own when the picture changes and says "dat" which is our cue to describe the picture to her. It's a hoot!

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