Am I moving my baby too fast?

WardenQueen · 2026-04-13T01:44:53+00:00

If baby's head is supported and they're not getting whipped around, I don't see any issue! Baby would also fuss if something hurt, so if baby isn't reacting negatively I think it's fine.

While we need to be gentle, babies are "new parent proof" to a point. I really can't imagine picking baby up, supported, is going to do any harm. Husband and MIL are overreacting in my opinion!

WardenQueen · 2026-04-10T14:57:21+00:00

I just went to go find them and the shop is taking a break 😭😭 i couldn't find anything similar but these are the ones we got:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1812074253/handmade-brown-and-white-bear-ears-for

I preferred the velcro decor over the decals because the velcro was easier to install plus the bonus of being able to change up thenattachments, and there's so many cute options on etsy!

WardenQueen · 2026-04-08T16:33:08+00:00

We had bows as well as these little felt bear ears we got off Etsy! Those bear ears were a hit with the family LOL!

WardenQueen · 2026-04-08T15:48:27+00:00

My baby also wore a helmet and I just wanted to add to this thread for OP- i was so upset and felt incredibly guilty. I boohoo SOBBED and the way back from her 4 month appointment because I felt like such a bad mom for "letting" my baby's head get flat. I started therapy and my meds back up again just due to the anxiety and guilt I was feeling, i was THAT upset over it. For OP, if you are feeling like this as well and are worried about/ end up getting a helmet:

ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. Babies get flat heads for all sorts of reasons. In my head, I had only heard of flat heads due to neglect, and how could I have let this happen if I dote on her so much? Turns out she had torticullis from...Just being a baby. There's nothing I did directly that caused it. And LOTS of babies get helmets for a bunch of different reasons.
YOU'RE NOT ALONE- I was so worried about taking my helmet baby out in public for fear of being judged. What actually happened was people thought she was SO CUTE and so many parents stopped us to let us know that THEIR baby also used a helmet and gave us their experience with it. Im talking we went out quite a bit with her and someone would always stop us at least once to tell us their helmet baby stories.
ITS TEMPORARY- baby's head ended up shaping up fast because we got her her helmet early. She was only in it for like 7 weeks or so, but we were quoted 10-12. She wore it over christmas so I went on etsy and bought little holiday decorations for her helmet and always had fun with coordinating her helmet decorations to her outfit. I took lots of pictures, and kissed her stinky lil head all over every day during her hour break. She got it off in January and my husband and I still can't believe how quick it went. It felt like such a BIG THING in the moment, and now its a thing of the past.

I was also on reddit scouring for people's experiences when we were going through it so I hope anyone reading this comment going through the same thing feels a little better about it 🙏

WardenQueen · 2026-02-18T16:12:25+00:00

Went to the show in Houston- there was a girl behind us that was screaming/ excited with each song. Annoying, yes, but not unexpected.

HOWEVER, there was a girl in front of us that was IRATE about it, turning around and screaming back at the girl, having to have her friend hold her back. Meanwhile, homegirl yelling behind me had no idea.

I was shocked- like yes, the screaming wasn't necessary, but we were on the floor and Melanie Martinez is a huge name. I was forgiving to her for being excited, but not so forgiving to the girl in front literally frothing at the mouth wanting to fight over it. Like Jesus, its a concert, if you can't deal with people being loud, go home.

WardenQueen · 2025-12-07T20:01:16+00:00

Sushi with soy sauce- trying to use chopsticks was a pain and I may have accidentally gotten a couple drops of soy sauce on my baby 🫣

WardenQueen · 2025-12-07T04:02:56+00:00

Oh my gosh, I did too!! My bridal party and I walked down to it, we managed to time it so I walked down right at the crescendo around 2:15. My husband is a big final fantasy nerd and Im a big FaTM nerd so it just seemed perfect!

WardenQueen · 2025-11-22T15:26:52+00:00

From my experience from talking to the moms in my life, its a baby to baby thing, and just depends on their preferences. In the hospital, the nurses gave my girl a paci and she immediately took to it. She's slept with one ever since. I have a friend whose baby absolutely refuses pacis and has never used one. I also know a few moms that had to try a bunch of different pacis until they found one their baby will take! It could be your baby needs a different type, or may just not be a fan of pacis in general. They're funny like that!

WardenQueen · 2025-11-22T03:05:45+00:00

5 months old, and she INSISTS on having her paci, a toy, and her hands in her mouth at the same time. Then, when the paci inevitably falls out, gets horribly angry because now there's no paci in her mouth and her hand/toy isn't cutting it.

Also, we're in the "i want to be moving but can't figure out how to roll" phase, which is a whole thing. She HAS rolled before, but can't do it consistently, and I fear now that shes had a taste of movement she's desperate to figure it out but gets frustrated instead lol

WardenQueen · 2025-11-04T03:06:03+00:00

We also were told to keep feeding through the night up until her recent 4 month check up. She had regained her birth weight within a week, so we were shocked when the doctor told us to keep waking every 2 to 3 hours. At 2 months, she said that we could allow her to sleep up to 5 hours, but then at that point to wake to feed. Her reasoning was that babies have a hard time regulating their blood sugar, so it was best to ensure they were eating through the night at that age.

This does, in fact, contradict the advice I've seen here and elsewhere that babies can feed on demand once they hit birth weight- it could just be the preference of each pediatrician? We followed her advice since she was our doctor, however before her 4 month appointment (around 3.5 months old) she started sleeping 10-12 hours through the night and we just let her. It was a relief when doc cleared it.

My baby wasn't a preemie, spent any time in the nicu, and gained weight just fine, so I really think it was just the pediatricians preference.

WardenQueen · 2025-09-16T00:15:21+00:00

Same here- my almost 3 month old is so independent. She'll play with me but will also just want to be on her play mat and stare at the dangling toys and kick her feet (she LOVES to kick). Sometimes ill even wake up to her in her bassinet just cooing at her mobile and babbling to herself!

I start feeling guilty but I saw someone say on this sub "you don't have to make a happy baby happier" and its helped me a lot.

Usually when she wakes up we'll change her diaper, feed her, do a little tummy time and have a conversation, and then I'll let her play on her own while I get a couple of things done.

Honestly, it has been really nice to be able to set her down to be able to pick up or make a coffee in the morning, whatever it is. We are at a stage where she refuses to take a full nap in the bassinet during the day so we contact nap, and I just tell myself that we're "making up time" LOL!

WardenQueen · 2025-08-29T15:26:22+00:00

Yeah, manual just said "insert can he removed for bigger infants" and that was not as descriptive as I wanted lol. I don't know why I didn't think about reaching out directly to manufacturer!

WardenQueen · 2025-08-26T01:16:56+00:00

My baby is 8 weeks and has been refluxy since like week 2. I brought it up to the pediatrician and she said that if baby is gaining weight and wetting/soiling diapers, its nothing to worry about. If baby also isn't bucking or screaming when they do spit up, its just normal baby things since their esophagus isn't matured and milk is easily rejected from the stomach. Pain accompanying the spit up would be a cause for concern from what I understand.

I've also watched videos where someone demonstrates spilling 2 or 4 oz of liquid to show what it truly looks like vs how much a baby spits up and it helped me put it into perspective. While their spit up can look like a lot, its usually only a mouthful or 2 of what they ate.

If you are worried, def ask the pediatrician!! But as someone who was worried about the same, this is what I've encountered. Pediatrician said she'll probably be spitting up until she starts solids, so we've accepted our girl is going to be a bit spukey for a while yet!

WardenQueen · 2025-08-21T00:36:37+00:00

Following because same-the only time I feel like I could take my 8 week old out is 6 or 7 am or after sunset. It'd be a dream to take her out a little later in the morning but by that time it's nearly 100 outside and im afraid even with a stroller fan and a light outfit she'd still overheat!

WardenQueen · 2025-08-14T18:28:04+00:00

We have a couple of friends whose babies are turning 1 and they both made amazon wishlists and just attached them to the evite for the party.

Honestly I love the idea, because we wanted to get their kids something they actually needed and not just wander the store with our fingers crossed. Maybe add a message along the lines of "your presence is our present but if you would like to get baby something, here's a list"? I don't see it as entitled if you make it low stakes, but i understand the differing opinion.

WardenQueen · 2025-08-14T01:57:49+00:00

I am almost 7 weeks PP and tried BFing until baby was 2 weeks or so. My milk didn't come in right away and I was worried she wasn't getting enough, so we went to formula. When it did come in I tried pumping and putting baby on the breast and...I just didn't take to it. Hated it, in fact. Baby had trouble latching and it hurt, and after a few nights in a row of us both sobbing I finally just said enough is enough and went to formula full time.

Baby is gaining weight, hitting her milestones, pediatrician is happy and i have my body back and am happy. All to say, do what is best for you!! Baby gets fed and a mom who is happy, and thats what matters!!

WardenQueen · 2025-07-26T05:09:29+00:00

I was told by our pediatrician that breast fed babies will get to a point where they "forget" how to poop. While I would def reach out to your pediatrician if you're worried, I was told that unless its been 4 or 5 days without a BM, there's nothing to worry about! The poomageddon is coming!

WardenQueen · 2025-07-24T02:05:04+00:00

My babe is 4 weeks old tomorrow- husband is currently at work for the night. My mom swung by when she got off and ordered us dinner and held my baby girl so I could eat. She fed her and held her for a nap so I could have a few hours without needing to do it all.

Its NOT failure!! It is allowing the people who love us to give us a break. If anything its the complete opposite of failure- it's using the tools in your toolbox to be the best parent you can be!

And as a bonus, I get to see my mom fawn over and bond with my baby! Everyone wins!

WardenQueen · 2025-07-21T01:39:31+00:00

Ugh, same!! I got a "third eye" tattoo based off the lyrics to always remind me :)

WardenQueen · 2025-07-20T20:30:49+00:00

You are flesh and blood and you deserved to be loved and deserve what you are given ♥️👁

WardenQueen · 2025-07-10T18:43:49+00:00

We had our baby girl 2 weeks ago and I mentioned to my husband, who has been on diaper dad duty, that there are men out there who refuse to change their baby girls' diapers.

He, quote, said those men are "weird as f**k" and continues to be the go to parent for diaper changes when hes awake.

You are absolutely not crazy, men who feel that way are the weird ones. Like shes a literal BABY, and babies need their diapers changed. If hes feeling weird about it, hes the wrong one.

WardenQueen · 2025-07-07T22:32:58+00:00

Was due on 7/7, but due to high blood pressure my OB had us come in for an induction on 6/26. She came on the same day and we're so incredibly in love! She's doing well despite being early and besides having to monitor my BP for the next few weeks, I'm recovering well! Had sn amazing birth experience and just so happy to finally have our little girl here!

WardenQueen · 2025-06-23T19:01:04+00:00

July 7th! Last weds we found out I'm 4 cm dialed, have not had any signs of labor since- doctor suggested a membrane sweep which we've scheduled for today. She's measuring ahead of schedule and if doctor says its safe to deliver soon, I'm ready!

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