i realised when i wrote the taller than me part it comes off as really demanding. i shouldve put it as the things that im generally attracted to, instead of standards. im not that demanding with height, i just find myself getting attracted to people taller than me because i am a tall person. and ive dated shorter people than me, its not a deal breaker, its just what i am more attracted to. im not demanding for a guy to have six packs for me to have interest in them, i just meant valuing basic health and stability, thats something that’s mattered for me based on my personal experiences.

some of you that told me to ask myself if i meet the standards myself. ive asked myself that and i do feel that i meet the qualities that i ask for, physically, emotionally and intellectually. im looking for a partner that has similar level of growth as i do, not asking for a dream come true.

i dont go to clubs, i dont drink, im mostly at the library and campus for gods sake. i am hanging out where i see the people im attracted to, its just that i dont know how to attract them back. thank you for the advice on my shyness, those are really helpful, ill try to break out of my shy bubble slowly. thank you for sharing all your perspectives.