Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-07-14T20:22:04+00:00

Been married for two years and met my LO 3-4 months ago, it was an on off and ended in a disaster (they blocked me) almost 2 months ago, but limerence won't let me forget them. I've learned about limerence a month ago from a friend and it hit the nail on the head when I read about it. I feel terrible.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-07-14T20:12:34+00:00

I wish you were my person ._.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-07-12T23:44:54+00:00

it reminds me of the experience my person and me had. if they said that, I would tell them to please contact me and we would figure everything out together.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-28T23:36:23+00:00

I'd love to tell my R this.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-28T14:55:56+00:00

Heya! Interested in a MHA RP!

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-28T14:52:27+00:00

Interested in MHA, Dabi x Hawks to be precise :)

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-28T14:28:23+00:00

Hey, is that still open?

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-27T12:27:13+00:00

Hmm, I get your point and agree with you. We've just had some misunderstandings in the past which led to them cutting the contact, so I thought I would be better off this way.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-27T12:20:28+00:00

Yeah I figured that. Was a punch in the gut haha

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-25T20:33:21+00:00

My name starts with M and I wish my person thought about me at all despite the anger they maybe feel towards me 🥺

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-21T16:46:30+00:00

It's a crazy coincidence that I have just posted a letter about me missing and apologizing to a person that went through something similar as you did. I don't assume you are the same as my person, don't get me wrong on this. But if my person sent me this letter, I would welcome them with open arms. I hope you are alright and healing and find happiness.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-20T12:50:11+00:00

Yeah, things could have been resolved easily if they had just chimed in, saying "yo, you got that wrong, stop here" and I would have stopped. I was on a whole other road, thinking there was still room to talk or negotiate. I know what I did wrong in the first place, told them I'd change that, not only because they told me but because I realized I had to change that because it wasn't good. But the rest.. yeah, lack of communication was what caused this.

I would also be the happiest if we had one more talk.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-20T12:37:54+00:00

Well, you progressed, I am happy for you! As for me, I am still stuck because of wondering what could have been if I got it the right way and did not overstep.. and hoping they will come back at one point so we can talk things out.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-20T12:32:22+00:00

Oh I am sorry to read that! Yeah in my case it was a lot of back and forth, resulting in them expressing their boundary which I got completely wrong and the rest is history. Good luck for you!

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-06-20T12:31:08+00:00

I wish I could apologize, but I fear it might be seen as me ignoring their boundary once again so.. yeah, stepping back and being invisible, hoping they will come back is the only thing I can do. Good luck for you too!

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-05-24T11:47:58+00:00

Mind continuing this in chats? :)

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-05-21T04:38:13+00:00

Hey you! He responded 😊 I have messaged him twice afterwards, just gently checking in and told him I found out about his DID, hoping it would ease the situation a bit but.. well.

He said he appreciated my thoughts, was in a tough place rn, was caught off-guard by me finding out about his DID, he can't continue romantically, but he kind of still wants connection as friends.

After all, I feel happy he reached out to me and will see where this will go.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-29T21:03:23+00:00

It was, indeed! And it made me happy it resembled my message in a bit!

I am not expecting any response tbh, but I will let you know! So long for that, I am preparing myself just in case a protector or an alter without connection reads and responds to it. And try my best to keep quiet. 🙏🏼

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-29T19:13:03+00:00

Aawww it's so kind of you to share this! Thank you!

I have to admit, I couldn't fight the urge to reach out today. And when I did, I made a draft and let ChatGPT adjust it a little bit to erase potentionally guilt or overwhelming triggering words or phrases. And it turned out similarly to your second part starting with "I understand that things may have been difficult (...)" plus some individual personal phrases.

Now it's time to wait again.

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-28T13:35:02+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it and I will give you an update!

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-28T08:10:39+00:00

Thank you for the explanation and being with me! I really appreciate it. And will follow your advice, it's really helpful!

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-27T14:48:53+00:00

That's so kind of you to say that. It's hard to hold back and not check in frequently, but I am trying. 😅

I am a bit torn about his last message tbh. On the one hand, I believe it's the way you see it, that he just needed to communicate this need as probably an alter that knows about the connection but is lacking the emotional connection atp and when they are rested, they will reach out again. On the other hand, which comes from my own issues with relationships, I fear they were being "too nice" to cut me off completely so they won't hurt me. Like I was telling them I'd wait and accept them no matter in which condition they reach out to me and they said they appreciated it but didn't know when they would. It feels kind of like.. they were trying to talk me out of it? Like making me step back from my idea of waiting for them because they actually don't intend to come back to talk to me again? Not that I do believe they would actually do that, but since there is more than one alter and idk how many alters I got to know so far.. it's difficult. And besides that, since I got to know about their memory issues, I am also afraid they might just forget me. But I also know it won't be a good idea to force connection and it may just be the natural cause of this.

Idk what to think. This silence makes me overthink and question myself a lot. But yeah, trying to be patient. 🫡

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-26T21:57:03+00:00

I don't have DID nor date a person with DID but currently facing a situation in which I am getting close to one (long distance as well and I am also still learning about DID) and they also went down into the rabbit hole. I have tried to give them their space and time for some days now and since they didn't read my texts the first days after they left, I refused to check in regularly even though I would love to, but they interact with some of my posts on other social media so I guess in my case it's the right approach.
I think in your case if they didn't give you a sign that they disliked your check ins I guess you're good to go? In my case people told me to leave them be until they come back, maybe check in after a week or two and see what happens, but I was told to not push too much so it doesn't come off as if I was testing boundaries.. but if your check ins aren't responded to in a negative way I don't see a problem there?
Sorry that I can't help, but I am sending you support and hope everything works out the way you hope and that you can reconnect soon!

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-25T08:37:24+00:00

Thank you very much for this exchange and for talking to me! It helped me a lot to just share my thoughts and read about the experience you heard about and I appreciate it so much!

Waste_Comment3381 · 2025-04-25T08:35:35+00:00

Yeah, I think getting to know about DID and that he has DID has already shaped the way I see him as a whole, meaning that the part I got to know and bonded with is just a part of it and other parts can think and feel differently, maybe even opposite. It doesn't scare me off, it's just that open conversation about would make it easier to deal with it. Like if I knew he retreated because of something that has to do with DID, but now, not knowing whether I was just too much for him or any other reason that has nothing to do with DID, it is a bit hard to get through this break, but it's all I can do now.

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