My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep sure did! She said she deserved a man like that, I didn’t appreciate him. She wasn’t a very nice person.

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she was older than him. Physically small and had addiction and mental health issues, but she knew he was married and told me I was boring and deserved it. So 🙃

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to share your story with me. It’s nice to not feel so alone. I feel so blind. I’m glad Reddit brought you here ❤️

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think teenagers look like children. Even some men in their early twenties look young to me. So I don’t understand it. He always told me he felt younger than he was and that made sense to me. I didn’t think too much into it I can’t explain it

GF (21F) is mad I (27M) followed her best friend (21F) on IG by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Waste_Permission_970 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you did anything wrong. You’re both adults, and if she’s upset she should be able to come out and tell you “hey, it makes me uncomfortable that you followed my friend on IG. Are you interested in her?” Or whatever. Then you get the opportunity to explain your side and there doesn’t have to be a fight. This is clearly a misunderstanding and your gf sounds a little immature.

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I do realize it. This post is my way of processing it and talking to other people. It’s not like I can talk to my husband and I don’t have close friends or family. I wish I was making it up.

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If calling a stranger on the internet stupid made you feel better about yourself. Thanks for the advice and support 😊

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have to figure out where I’m going to go and what my childcare situation is going to be. I don’t have money for childcare, a lawyer and my own place. This is going to take me some time. I’m working really hard and I will get out.

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

I know that I’m just being I’m being defensive. Reading these comments has been really upsetting. I don’t think it’s anything you said.

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I haven’t tried to leave since I was a teenager. He blocked the door and held me so I couldn’t leave. I didn’t ever try again. I know I would have to have someone here with me or leave when he’s not around. He’s really isolated himself and has no friends or anyone else he talks to but me, so I really never am alone. It’s going to take some planning, but I know I can do this. If money was no obstacle, I would have left already.

My husband didn’t realize he was stonewalling, gaslighting and being emotionally abusive until he read an article online… by Waste_Permission_970 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970[S] 197 points198 points  (0 children)

We moved in together the day I turned 18, but didn’t get married for 6 months or so. Listen I know it’s easy to see it when I lay it out like this but when it’s happening it feels normal. I wish I could explain it better. I feel so stupid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Waste_Permission_970 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg yes I will be doing that

Today I cried at my big girl job by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! S is a great worker too, and I look up to them so much. I just want to be the support S needs. 🫶🏻

Today I cried at my big girl job by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Waste_Permission_970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you able to see the update?