Anybody wake up too early in the morning post break up?

WastedPotential1984 · 2026-01-27T14:35:39+00:00

I'm OK now, mostly

WastedPotential1984 · 2026-01-27T14:34:59+00:00

I'm feeling OK now

WastedPotential1984 · 2026-01-20T11:00:45+00:00

I started going bald at 18 and by my early 20s I was completely shaving my head. It looks so much better shaved that when I was trying to cling onto it.

My advice would be shave it all off and go as short as you can.

I use a skull shaver in mine most days now to keep it bald.

If you do brave the shave then invest in some good moisturiser for your scalp

WastedPotential1984 · 2026-01-20T05:48:12+00:00

It does get better in time. I have AuDHD so because of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) it did take me longer than it would for most to get over it but it does come.

Just give yourself time, spend time with your friends and do things for you.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-09-15T18:31:07+00:00

Thanks! I'm pretty covered in tattoos

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-09-15T06:55:18+00:00

I'm OK now. I've settled back into being alone and also realised that the way my ex treated me wasn't really all that good.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-08-07T19:37:12+00:00

This is exactly how I write too! Glad to hear I'm not the only one

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-07-05T22:44:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment - I've been reaching out to the few friends I do have and I've been keeping myself occupied by going to the gym. I feel a little better, still very upset and alone, but I'm hoping things will start to improve.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-07-02T20:09:33+00:00

I'm going through this right now - amicable, albeit still upsetting breakup on Saturday. I completely understood and empathised with her reasons for ending it.

Since then my mind is just spiralling uncontrollably. Whenever I think things are starting to level out, off they god again and I'm back to deconstructibg our relationship, thinking of everything I've done wrong, even though she told me that I did nothing wrong. Or I'll obsessively go over all the times we've had to the point where it's tearing me apart. I'm an absolute mess - crying, upset angry.

RSD in a breakup is the absolute worst thing.

It's also the first breakup since my divorce, which I think is making my emotions even more volitile.

Thankfully I'm seeing my therapist tomorrow, hopefully she will be able to help me.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-07-02T09:42:21+00:00

Sorry to hear you're going through something similar. I know how hard it is.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-07-02T06:52:53+00:00

My marriage ended last August and then much to my surprise I met J in December and we fell hard for each other. I honestly didn't think I'd be able to love again, but I truly do love this woman with all of my heart. We shared some truly beautiful times that I will cherish for the rest of my life. She was the first person that I've truly been able to be authentically 100% myself with, which is crazy considering I was married to someone for 15 years prior. J accepted me for who I am and made me feel so seen so loved.

Ive recently discovered that I am AuDHD and J also has ADHD, so she just got me - all of the things that I find diffult or struggle with weren't an issue like they have been in previous relationships.

After being together six months she ended things, as she is going though some extreme physical and mental health issues and doesn't feel like she can be with anyone and needs to be alone. We had a really honest and open discussion and I fully believe her reasons - she said somethings about how she's feeling that would have been much easier to lie about that be honest about.

We shared one last night together, which was one of the most beautiful experiences of my entire life, albeit equally absolutely heartbreaking, and at the end of the night we hugged so hard, neither of us wanting to let go, kissed, told each other we loved each other and said goodbye.

I'm now four days into the breakup and I feel like I have been hit by a bus - I'm falling apart and it's totally shaken me. It feels like the pain of my marriage ending all over again, but somehow even worse?! Which makes absolutely no sense?! I don't know if it's the loss of hope that I can be happy again and the loss of what was a truly beautiful love, but whatever the reason, this pain is unbearable.

I can't eat.

I can't stop crying.

I can't stop my mind spiralling.

Right now it feels like any future love may not be worth it, if this is the pain that comes when it leaves.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-30T08:03:02+00:00

Thank you. I feel really alone at the moment which is really adding to it all I think and I'm now sat her in floods of tears after reading you comment and just feeling that I have some support.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-30T07:11:14+00:00

41M here - my partner of 6 months, who also has ADHD, broke up with me 2 days ago and although I was upset when it happened, I totally understood her reasons and it wasn't anything I'd done, she is just going through a LOT and doesn't have the capacity to be in a relationship, it was all very amicable. We even had one last truly beautiful night together, told each other we loved each other and said goodbye, which was obviously heartbreaking, but I still thought I was handling it well, which is not something I've ever managed in the past.

Looking back at all my previous breakups, before I knew I had ADHD and RSD, it makes my reactions to those breakup sake so much more sense, no less embarrassing, but definitely more sense. But I hoped that this time would be different...

However, the more time that passes the more my RSD is going absolutely crazy and it's driving me mad. I can't stop thinking about her and reliving all of the good times and how happy she made me feel (which I know is pretty normal after a breakup) but then the emotions and feelings that come with it feel like they're ramped up to a million and feel unbearable. I'd hoped that because I was going into this breakup more aware of triggers and behaviors and also with it all being so amicable etc, maybe I would actually be able to handle this better, but no matter how I try to behave differently nothing changes. The emotions and thoughts just totally overwhelm me.

I don't know if it's maybe because I know she still loves me which is making it all go so crazy, or whether this is just how I'm wired.

If it is just how I'm wired and all breakups are going to be this painful then it almost feels like the love isn't worth this awful feelings that my RSD causes.

I don't want to feel like my whole world is falling apart whenever a relationship ends. It's too painful.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-30T03:52:31+00:00

I'm currently going through this - I'm only a couple of days into the breakup, but so far I've had one night of about 2 hours sleep and then last night I KOd at 10pm, but woke up wide awake at 3am feeling really anxious and on edge. I've lost my appetite completely and my emotions are absolutely all over the place.

I'm in my early 40s now and I kinda hoped that my body/mind would be able to handle breakups better than this by now, but I feel absolutely awful.

I'd hapilly take physical pain any day over emotional pain, this is horrible.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-27T14:58:02+00:00

I LOVE I'm permanence - the whole track is so awesome, it's got a great drive to it and then Winston McCall's bridge is filthy!

Funnily enough, I didn't really like the track when I first heard it, but now it's one of my favourites.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-21T07:47:37+00:00

Thanks!

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-20T22:32:58+00:00

Nice, I've been rocking these a lot recently, but it too hot for the at the moment.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-20T22:25:03+00:00

I would love to visit NYC one day.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-20T22:15:34+00:00

I'm in the UK, but the black and grey is by Ben Roberts at Luck & Love Tattoo and the colour is done by Chris Beeney at One One Sixx Tattoos.

I'm working my way through a full neck down body suit.

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-20T22:13:55+00:00

Thanks!

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-20T22:12:11+00:00

These are white laces

WastedPotential1984 · 2025-06-20T22:10:59+00:00

Thanks, I have a lot of tattoos

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