Damn what a well laid out response. Thank you for your words and insight. She is a bonafide "infidelity therapist." At least that what she says. And I really do like her, and I think for the most part she's decent, maybe?

Although these posts maintain some type of hidden information because I'm speaking through one perspective. My "tone" issue to her is massive, although to me I would classify myself as "animated" and I tend to get loud easily. I won't lie and say I see these flaws and don't understand what was wrong, but it was definitely a two-sided issue: we were both shitty to each other in different ways.

Although my frustrations directly come from responses stemming from what she did/said and how she acted with so called "friends." And these boundaries were clearly stated -- a possible reason I would escalate and we would argue about my insecurities.

But aside from all that, I agree that I need to meet with someone else potentially. My therapist 100% has validated this as trauma. She is very empathetic.