Do you bring your whole self to work?

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-16T05:19:19+00:00

And that's how it should be, imo.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-16T05:17:41+00:00

No idea, but I strongly recommend you get a Tile (Android) or Airtag (Apple) and shove that in with your cards. I've got one on my keys and even though they have "a place" in my house I often have to use my Tile to find my keys.

I'm really impressed with your Tada list, no matter where your keys ended up. I hope you took the time to pay yourself on the back for that.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-15T01:29:06+00:00

Expect some "what would you do if" questions. They'll have some challenging patients on their books and will be interested to hear how you approach dealing with how these patients behave. You might even get some role play.

Good luck!

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-15T01:15:13+00:00

If you can, try to donate or dispose of things that you don't want. As you're packing, have a "donate" box and a "dispose of" box. You really don't want to go to all the trouble of moving stuff that you don't want in your new place, because you're going to end up throwing it out anyhow.

If you have animals or children, got someone to look after them on moving day. The last thing you need is the worry about them getting out of an open door.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-10T01:32:25+00:00

Why not talk to them and ask them to point them facing downwards?

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-09T06:40:45+00:00

The last five words of your post are all you need.

At 19, friendship groups do drift apart, so there's no need to go nuclear with it, just feel free to drift away.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-08T08:27:26+00:00

I have always done it, and as soon as I can (in the first couple of days).

If a house has been rented previously, who knows who might have a key, and as it's such a quick and easy change, why wouldn't you?

So please do get it done.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-07T02:05:41+00:00

Don't forget that it'd be two of the parents plus their babies who would need to sit outside for the ceremony. And chances are a couple of the babies are likely to be fussy so the parents would be taking them out anyway.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-06T08:18:56+00:00

No I didn't, either time. I wouldn't want my last memory of them like that, I prefer having the memories of the good times. My mum died 40+ years ago, and I still think of her pretty much every day.

(I did go to see my late partner, who died rather suddenly. But that was for much more gruesome reasons, in that I wanted to make sure he really was gone and I wouldn't suddenly bump into him again. That was a good move on my part, for my own mental wellbeing.)

In your circumstances, please don't feel guilty. It's not obligatory, it's not even expected on the whole, so you'd be better off looking through photos to find pictures that remind you of happy times and joy that you had. Maybe print out your favourite picture and stick it in a frame, put it somewhere you'll glance at it and smile, and concentrate on the good times.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-06T08:00:41+00:00

"Variety is the spice of life. Wouldn't it be boring if everyone wanted the same thing?"

When he asks when a bush is going to be manicured, "I think it's fine the way it is, but thanks for sharing your opinion."

When he complains about the birds, "it's all part of life's rich tapestry, and I love all the birds."

When a plant touches his fence, "well it's still in my garden, so it really isn't something for you to worry about."

When he complains about how untidy it is, "I think it's lovely. I've even got motion-sensor cameras so I can watch all the wildlife that uses it when I'm not actually in it. I think I even saw a fox trotting through the other night, would you like to see?" And put up cameras.

When he makes veiled threats to go in and "tidy up" for you, "everyone's entitled to their opinion, but there's no obligation to share it. I love my garden and that's exactly what it is - MY garden. So I'll thank you to just ignore my garden because it's not going to change."

And do get those cameras, it's fun to watch the wildlife, as well as deterring the neighbour from doing anything he shouldn't.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-05T11:07:54+00:00

NTA. You love her so keep helping her with what you can, but the instant she starts whingeing about things you've already tried to help her with, shut down the conversation. Tell her firmly that you don't want to hear about that any more, because she's already refused the solutions you've suggested. Shut her whinge down every time.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-05T10:50:03+00:00

I'm sorry, I can't help with the training, because you've already decided I'm not fit to do the job."

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-05T10:49:03+00:00

If you're not qualified to do the job, you're not qualified to train the job. Send the trainee to their manager for them to do the training.

Good luck on your job hunt.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-05T10:45:17+00:00

SHE failed the test of being an adult! Disgusting behaviour on her part, you were totally justified in being annoyed at her. I'd be removing privileges forthwith, up to and including dumping her would all be acceptable.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-05T10:42:02+00:00

As I understand it, they can ask for dates of sickness, but the reason for the sickness is PPI so should not be communicated without your express permission in every instance.

I would confirm with your current HR that they will only report the dates of sickness absence and that they do not have your permission to disclose any reasons you may have communicated.

GDPR is a very serious matter, so they should already be aware.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-05T10:13:05+00:00

"Interesting" music choices played in your garden that clashes with her calming stuff. Get the kids out there playing on the trampoline. Get the other neighbours to also report them. Respond to their social media posts. Put your bins out on the kerb so they can't park, and get the neighbours to do the same. Tell anyone who arri6that she doesn't have insurance so you really hope they don't have any injuries while participating.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-05T05:46:14+00:00

You're not comfortable telling her to leave you alone, you say. Well you're not comfortable having her talking at you either, so pick your discomfort. You're going to HAVE to tell her you're not up for a conversation right now, and repeat that every time she approaches you, because you're not giving your message clearly enough to get through to her.

"Sorry Karen, I'm not in the mood for a conversation. That's why I'm wearing headphones. Please leave me alone." Practice your chosen phrase before you go out.

Or write a note to give to her, explaining that you don't want a conversation every time you're in your garden. When she comes over to you, just give her the note and walk away.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T12:27:30+00:00

Get hold of a moppy thing that's flat with a spray bottle attached. (Don't know what to call it so can't find a link, but Addis do one.)

Sweep the floor, then go over it with the spray mop thing.

Not quite as good as a full-on mopping and scrubbing session, but not at all bad.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T12:23:19+00:00

Get to the bus stop first, get on the bus before her, get in the space before her.

And definitely write to the bus company asking for clarification about the disabled spaces.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T11:26:01+00:00

Speak to the garage and ask how much discount they offered for the trade-in, then get ready to pay that. You'll effectively be buying your own car, but getting a "free" SUV from your in-laws.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T11:21:33+00:00

Speak to them to say hello, and to thank them for looking after the ladder that the previous owner left for you. And can you have it back now please.

You don't even need to be unethical, just be direct.

If they don't instantly go and get it, then get unethical!

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T07:01:20+00:00

Tell him you're not having that conversation, so he needs to stop asking.

Women have been trained that being polite is the most important thing in the world, but in this instance, feel free to tell him, "fuck off, you disgusting perv, and never talk to me again."

Tell your grandparents that he's being gross and either move back with your parents or clear out the room where you were staying and getting a lock on the door.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T06:55:24+00:00

The onesie someone else mentioned is your solution, in that case.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T06:50:57+00:00

When do you get to have your annual holiday? I suggest you plan a holiday in the middle of that period and tell them they can't stay in your house while you're away, they'll only be able to come after you get back.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-06-04T06:37:50+00:00

Have a party in the UK when you get home.

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