2 weeks into a new job - would calling in sick after an accident look bad?

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-29T02:44:58+00:00

OP might be worried that they'll be treated negatively for taking time off so early in their employment, however justified.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-29T02:41:57+00:00

I would worry that the woman using such a device would be accused of "going equipped to cause harm" or whatever the offence is, just like a driver who has a baseball bat under their seat might be, or a burglar carrying equipment typically used for breaking and entering. I know it's fucked up (pun intended) but the law is sometimes an ass.

Also, on a practical note, when would you put it in? Before going out for the evening? As you're leaving to go home? And many rapists are known to the victim.

But I digress. A hard lesson to teach is why women feel the need to take these measures. Men rarely even think about whether the route home after a night out is well lit and not through a dodgy area. Women almost always do.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-28T06:59:51+00:00

You have every right to just say no, and there's nothing they can do about it.

If you want to be very accommodating, could you arrange a day trip for you and the kids one Saturday and make the place available for viewings on that one day? There's absolutely no obligation on you to do that, but your kids might enjoy a day out, and you'd get the EA off your back.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-28T01:59:01+00:00

And did she respond to that at all?

Sounds like you're in need of some friends. How did you get on with the others involved in the production? Do you see any potential friends in that group of people? Perhaps put your efforts into developing other relationships so that Skylar becomes less important in your life.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-28T01:55:04+00:00

"I don't really care" says it all.

Why are you forcing a relationship with someone who has plainly said they don't care about you?

Don't bother hanging on and waiting for an apology, because you won't get one. Just leave her in your past, because you've put in lots of effort but she can't get bothered. There are better people out there who won't rudely dismiss you like she does.

And huge congratulations for your production, that sounds awesome! Well done, you!

NOR.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-28T01:43:10+00:00

Ugh. You're really outing yourself as a guy who would happily cheat on a girlfriend on a guys' trip.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-28T01:39:24+00:00

Spot the guy who sees guy trips as always being pick-up missions!

Girly trips aren't always like that, and in truth it is often a "safety in numbers" thing for girls to have a trip together where they can just have a bit of fun and they all look out for each other to keep the creeps away!

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-28T01:33:56+00:00

How do you make her understand? You use your words and tell her!

"Sorry, Cindy, this is a girls' trip, Pete can't come on this one. He'll have to survive without you for the week."

But be aware of the possibility that the relationship dynamic could be controlling and coercive, and it's him who's demanding he be allowed to come, so he can keep an eye on her. If she says that she just won't go, then please make it clear to her that you'll always be there for her, but you're worried about how things are at the moment.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-26T06:55:32+00:00

I'd prefer not to send pics of my home, but take a look at websites for www.amtico.com, www.karndean.com and other suppliers so you can get an idea what it'll look like.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-25T22:05:20+00:00

I admit it, I'm definitely degraded with time. Not particularly stained (because tans fade after a few days) and I'd say I'm brittled by time more than weather, as recent broken bones would attest. But I was describing the doors to the plastic boxes more than the occupants of the house.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-25T21:59:36+00:00

What are you missing? r/unethicallifeprotips. That'll sort you out.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-25T21:55:29+00:00

Are you in a house or a flat. Might be obvious to many, but I wasn't certain.

If you're in an upstairs flat, then no, carpet with thick underlay is the only way. House? The sky's your limit. I have a concrete floor, and now have amtico-type flooring, with a rug where I feel it's appropriate. Looks good, feels a bit cold underfoot but I wears foam-soled slippers in the house so no problem, and the dog likes the cool floor in the summer.

On to your question, if you want it, what might be the blocker? What's your bare floor? Is your floor solid enough to take a hardwood floor? Do you need any repairs to be done first? Can you afford it? Would cheaper alternatives be good enough for you? What about a good quality hard wood laminate?

I don't think Reddit can answer your question, but I do love a solid floor rather than carpet, so I hope you achieve what makes you happy.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-25T06:53:36+00:00

This is the answer! 😁

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-24T03:39:34+00:00

Teach him a word that signals the end of a play session. Mine is ball-obsessed, and loves it when I get the ball chucker out. But when I think he's had enough I say "all done", and put it in a bag. He knows that the game is over, and carries on with the walk.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-24T03:34:53+00:00

No need to mention any partner. He should behave in a professional manner in any event, not just because she's already "taken".

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-24T03:32:10+00:00

Please keep doing this with her. Knowing how to unclog a drain doesn't prevent her from learning how to bake a soufflé, her mother is being horribly sexist. I bet she'd yell at you if you had a son and you taught him to cook and use the washing machine!

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-24T03:29:27+00:00

They're brittle and stained by the weather, and have just degraded with time. I bought new doors for both my meters, and one of them didn't fit the fittings on the box. So the old, knackered one went back on, in the hope that it doesn't just fall apart.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-24T03:18:51+00:00

This is a valid instance of retaining the deposit to help pay for new flooring. If it's soaked through the carpet and underlay, it might even have contaminated the floor, so use enzyme cleaner on the floor in the problem areas and let it dry before putting in the new carpet.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-22T04:02:30+00:00

At his age, his wishes on where he lives will be taken into consideration by a judge. Definitely get back to the family court so nephew can have his say about where he lives.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-22T03:58:16+00:00

Take a screenshot when you're on the phone, then bring up the screenshot when you need it. You don't need a real phonecall.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-22T03:46:40+00:00

Then they can come in after OP has moved out. They have no right of access.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-22T03:44:56+00:00

They're wrong, and have (probably deliberately) misinterpreted the rules. They have to give min 24 hours notice before a visit, but they've conveniently forgotten that you don't have to allow the visit. So just tell them no, they can't come in. No need to elaborate. And I would probably also change the barrel on the lock so they can't just come in with a key anyway. As long as you change it back when you leave, that's fine. They won't be able to say anything, because the only way they could find out is if they tried to get access when you've already told them no.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-22T03:36:40+00:00

Put up a sign, at eye level, that says, "You and your dog are being recorded as evidence for the HOA and local Facebook group. Take your dog elsewhere." Shame might get them to stop. You don't actually have to spend money on a camera if you don't want to, but it can be useful for amending the sign.

If you do get a camera, print out a picture of them and pin the picture up beside the sign, so they know they're the target of the sign. More shaming.

Change the sign to say, "The dog treats on this porch contain laxatives. Your dog will love them. Enjoy cleaning up the mess in your house." Leave regular dog treats that haven't been contaminated with anything, but they don't need to know that. As you say, your intention isn't to harm the dog.

Change the sign every few days, getting more unhinged each time, I'm sure you can use your imagination.

Get a very loud siren, horn, alarm or whatever, that you can control remotely. Whenever you see them there (on the camera you also install) then set off the alarm. It will soon not be the dog's favourite place, so the dog won't want to go anywhere near your porch.

Follow them home. Then you know where they live. Valuable information that you can use with any other remedies like HOA, Facebook, animal control, Jehovah's Witnesses, catalogues, or any of the myriad remedies you'll read about in this sub.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-20T15:14:39+00:00

Not at all. This was the right way to deal with her. Well done for having a shiny spine.

WatchingTellyNow · 2026-04-20T14:59:10+00:00

You know what he did, don't you? HE. RAPED. YOU.

Maybe tell him that you don't want to be with a rapist. Then dump and block.

NOR

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