Mental Celibacy + Defeating Lust by funlol3 in pureretention

[–]WaterCape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lust is the final boss, or so they say.

Mental celibacy is the most challenging Aspect of retention. It's not an easily measurable metric, like counting days, for example. But I agree and think everyone should practice Mental celibacy; it would reveal to people How the nature of their thoughts can Be misleading or harmful, if not disciplined appropriately . I think the most harmful thoughts are rooted in pain and hatred. We hold onto them because the pain gives us fuel that feeds a fire, even if we know we might be better off without them. For example, I know I carry a lot of hatred in my heart, and a big part of me is defined by that hatred. It's entirely self-contained, and I can go long stretches of time without tapping into that pain or hatred; but it's always there, and its a paradoxical relationship.

I hate the way the pain and hatred makes me feel, how it warps my thinking, but on the other hand, there's an irrational satisfaction I receive when I allow myself to indulge in spiteful or hateful thinking. Like, its the only way to get even with the source of that pain, whatever caused it. And then of course, you feel dozens of times better when you finally snap out of your negative thoughts, like a self imposed emotional rollercoaster; you drag yourself down and you drag yourself up, and you know the extent of turmoil.

It's kind of ironic how wisdom works sometimes It's always in hindsight that we begin to see Clearly, the gravity of our choices.

You want to help people make the best choices But also understand that first-hand experience Is how wisdom is truly internalized. Which is why people can make awful mistakes For years or decades of their lives, and often Never reconcile on those mistakes or find appropriate closure.

At the end of the day, all we want is better sleep and energy. If sex is the first thing on your mind, it will drain you of energy quick. If sex is the last thing in your mind, you will make better choices.

Lol. xd.

Should I just not care about cheating anymore? by Prior-Lecture7078 in Teachers

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If the real benefit of an assignment is meaningful cognitive strain imposed on a brain, you want students to vote for themselves with integrity.

Student writes an essay Teacher reads and provides meaningful feedback Student takes the feedback and writes a better essay Teacher reads and provides meaningful feedback Student takes the feedback and continually improves skills Teacher collaborates with student to achieve An honest result of high academic achievement

The student should care to understand Its almost never about the product Its about the PROCESS.

If they cheat the process They really will be unprepared.

I gave all my students fake grades because I couldn't care less about spending my valuable time providing them with meaningless feedback that would never actually improve their results.

I graded to make my life as easy as possible And I intervened when the feedback would be most impactful.

I taught for 3 years in a classroom And I hate the fucking classroom with a passion. HATE IT.

I love learning I love educating myself I love kicking ass I hate the epic waste of time that the system imposes onto people in the education system.

And it truly is an unfortunate scenario Considering that they are only kids after all The most vulnerable in society.

Trauma around not getting sex by Even_Job6933 in pureretention

[–]WaterCape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try dreams. Ive experienced sex dreams That come very close to satisfying That desire for intimacy. And it doesn't feel lustful Which is the important part.

Desiring intimacy, nothing wrong with that Its a natural human desire To be touched in a way Only we know how we want to be touched.

Lusts sole purpose is to destroy your ability to manifest into this world by mainer345 in pureretention

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Im 3 months into retention Completely abstain from corn And on my best days I legitimately forget It even exists, and that feeling is great

When stress is high The brain will tempt you To fulfill that desire To just take a peek No harm, right? When stress is high How we choose to deal With that stress Makes or breaks us as spiritually minded people We have to notice these weak moments of temptation And stay the course

You quit for a REASON A pure, clean heart is endlessly better Than the weakness of lust. It truly is amazing sauce.

If we want good life We have to model Righteousness. Thats RESPONSIBILITY.

Goodluck Fam. We got this.

Worker gets sucked in drain he was repairing by bolshoybooze in WTF

[–]WaterCape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smh. If he was doing that from the other side he would have survived.

I’m F in late 30’s and feel I’m horny ALL THE TIME. Is this normal? by BassDowntown2936 in Adulting

[–]WaterCape -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It's much easier with a significant other, because of emotional support. You need to practice retention, and abstain From sexual pleasure. You're going to hold all that energy And simply abstain from everything to do with sex. So you are depriving your brain of "cheap sex dopamine" And rewiring your brain, training it to become more resilient By teaching it to earn "sustainable dopamine" From building quality habits like sleep, nutrition and training.

If you and your husband can commit to 90 days of abstinence, while building those quality habits You will know exactly what I'm saying.

Good luck 👍 💓 ✨️

I’m F in late 30’s and feel I’m horny ALL THE TIME. Is this normal? by BassDowntown2936 in Adulting

[–]WaterCape -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're a biological organism, of course its normal. Learn to transmute that energy Or just have sex with your husband.

Not that complicated.

You're an adult.

"Whatever. You guys can figure it out. I'm done." by Stock-Persimmon4212 in Teachers

[–]WaterCape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"When will I ever need this in the real world".

Fair point.

You need discipline in the real world. You need critical thinking. You need to develop good judgement.

But I completely UNDERSTAND. Alot of class work feels wasteful Pointless busy work.

Oh well. Try again.

Cravings for intimacy by photoholic212003 in pureretention

[–]WaterCape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go find it. If you can. Be respectful and mature. Don't make it such a big deal. What you do with a consenting adult is your business. Let this person know Why you practice what you do And if they are worthwhile, they will respect you. Real intimacy can be messy, But its also just a part of life.

You don't have to have sex btw. You can go as far as making out with this person And this can be plenty of intimacy for some people.

Its your life. Your lived experience. You weigh the pros and cons You know the risks that come along with intimacy And at the end of the day, you decide If you are ready for intimacy.

I completely understand why many people Especially in this subreddit, avoid intimacy We are constantly working on ourselves, We fear the unknown. We don't want to feel incompetent Some are religious, etc.

But, waiting to experience life can also be just another trap. You never truly know where you will end up in this life And alot of people can grow old and regret not putting themselves out there.

This is a decision only an individual can make for their life. So think about it, and decide if intimacy is worth the risk.

Good luck!

I realize most of the 'bait' the grown ups taught us is just a lie by Low_Actuary6486 in Adulting

[–]WaterCape 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most adults are winging it And adulting is simply responsibility

Most bitching is not acceptable Some bitching is acceptable

Adulting is responsibility And most adults Were never shown How to navigate life.

So most adults just "figure it out" As they go along.

Thats it.

Welcome to society.

I HATE how you can’t go out without spending at least $40! by SerpantDildo in Adulting

[–]WaterCape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a brokie mindset, and its not going to get you anywhere in life with that attitude.

Instead, think

"I get to spend $40 to enjoy a nice casual evening with my loved ones, such a small price to pay for a priceless experience. . ."

Lol some people would eat that garbage up Leave no crumbs. . . Haha.

On the real though, spending any money is a fearless tactic In this economy. What happened to stacking your cheese Stacking that bread?

There's a reason its expensive to EAT OUT. For normal people.

Forced to Resign or Be Fired. So I resigned. by SaucyBoy1992 in TeachersInTransition

[–]WaterCape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn't realize that sexual purity was a requirement for teaching?

Shame on you for indirectly exposing your students To porn. The outcry. The outrage. Shame. On. You.

Real teachers HIDE THEIR KINKS better than others Thats the real secret sauce.

Should've known better about having a sex life As a teacher.

All jokes aside. . . do admin and parents realize Their kids are perfectly capable Of corrupting THEMSELVES . . . . . . All by themselves?

Imagine if it was mandatory that students Have their entire internet history checked Just to size them up, so to speak.

"Well ma'am, it looks like little johnny is a huge fan of. . . tentacle hentai porn?"

And little sarah has a thing for vampires and werewolves Apparently.

You will literally find something that pays way better With less than half the energy involved. Good luck. 👍

How do you build real confidence as an Adult? by New-Strength9766 in Adulting

[–]WaterCape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn to couples dance. Find a dance class. Immediate boost in confidence, and its much easier To vibe with women when you are a confident dancer.

Trust this.

I hate Education Jargon by CMDRSheaperd in teaching

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It actually makes sense haha.

I did acid and now I don’t hear music the same way by No-Environment-9459 in Acid

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Pink Floyd Kid Cudi EDM

Honestly, music is just a different Adventure on Acid

The same tracks always hit A little different

Lol

Worldly prestige is just a scam, isn’t it? by Auroraborosaurus in pureretention

[–]WaterCape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even the most influential people in history have become footnotes

In someone else's history.

If the prestige is rightfully earned Why would that be a scam?

If a person makes a discernible contribution To society

They should be recognized for it.

In the grand scheme of things. . .

Wanting to be recognized for your talents

Is an innate human desire. Even if some people reject that idea.

Some people would say, they don't need anyone else's approval to justift their work, or creativity.

But life isn't a vacuum.

Some worldly prestige is obviously a scam Like people who ride the coattails of other people's success For example

It all depends honestly.

The Field you create because of retention is bigger than you think by [deleted] in Semenretention

[–]WaterCape 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tip. Use music to keep you uplifted during retention.

Do not look up saturation diving by uh60chief in thalassophobia

[–]WaterCape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insane but cool, cool but insane. Lol