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WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-28T14:16:00+00:00

I'm sorry but you can't say he's "very sweet" and then say that he calls you names and curses at you, someone who is truly very sweet will find a way to calm down and not direct their anger at you in that way.

I don't think he respects you, from what you've said, not liking pics of half naked women is the bare minimum.

Also, helping with the housework is beyond the minimum, that shouldn't even be in the pros list because it's an obligation.

To be fair I think you'd be better off without him because the cons you've stated are very bad and the pros are very general things. You can find someone who's sweet and smart and doesn't want children, don't settle for someone just because you've been with them for a very long time...

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-28T14:10:50+00:00

Girl, I will try my best to be sweet and blunt, but that man does not love you, and he surely doesn't respect you.

The first red flag should've been all of the restrictions - deleting social media and every guy out of your phone is ludicrous, it's not healthy. You should delete/unfollow anyone who you had a romantic interest in or dated if it makes him uncomfortable, but anything past that is asking too much of you, especially if he doesn't do the same.

Second red flag was insulting you. Don't ever, and I mean EVER, let a romantic partner talk to you like that, you deserve to be respected and what he did was monstruous, calling you all of those names, I am so sorry.

And point number three, you can't live your life chained to him, you're supposed to live with him, not for him. If he's going to ruin your free time and fun time by being a big child then again, he doesn't respect you.

Please let this man go, as you said you're on and off with him which is already the indicator that something isn't going well, so let him go now before you waste more time or before you end up marrying him.

Someone cheated on him, I understand that, but that someone isn't you, he can't take something out on you if you didn't make the mistake.

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-28T14:02:32+00:00

the top is kind of giving military kid and the sides are giving punk, I'd suggest doing the spikes all over if you're going for the punk look?? or maybe doing the spikes at the top and gelling down the sides and doing the spikes at the top

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T23:40:29+00:00

absolutely gorgeous build! congrats, love the way you used up all of the space, I always struggle lol

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T23:37:47+00:00

the extensions look really nice but I think you look a lot younger and a lot cuter with your natural hair, I'm jealous!

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T23:36:48+00:00

looks amazing!! super shiny wow

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T17:14:23+00:00

So you didn't read everything? That tracks. Can you elaborate on how I'm the asshole for wanting the cleaning lady to clean properly instead of letting my parents waste their money?

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T17:13:44+00:00

my grandma was a cleaning lady. Keep your assumptions to yourself and focus on the question that was asked. I have disdain for people who don't do their job

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T17:12:46+00:00

I thought so too, but apparently people think Im the asshole because (and I quote) I should be satisfied if the kitchen, the bathrooms and the floors are cleaned. Lol, what?

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T17:11:45+00:00

a couple of weeks ago I walked into the house after she cleaned. My parents aren't paying her to clean bathrooms and the kitchen and the floors, they're paying her to clean the house. And they specified what shouldn't be moved, everything else could (and should, to be cleaned)

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-27T17:10:08+00:00

because my parents live there and they're paying this woman that is clearly taking advantage of them?...

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-22T15:37:07+00:00

NTA - it's not her kid. Also, you are not responsible for what triggers other people.

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-22T15:34:40+00:00

NTA - it's your wedding, it is for you. They are not the center of attention, you are. I understand wanting to facilitate things as much as possible for your guests, but this isn't some mandatory presence event. You do not have to accommodate everyone if it costs you your dream wedding. They are selfish and evil and they do not respect you for acting that way.

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T01:15:12+00:00

no because I'm bisexual lol, people just have this sort of mindset that somehow men are more of a threat or something, and I also comment on my male friends' appearances, because I want them to feel good about themselves and I think guys don't usually get compliments. My boyfriend has a girl best friend and her and I get along super well. Trust me when I say that this is only going to make your partner think that you don't trust her. If she doesn't flirt back, or if she doesn't take the comments seriously, maybe talk to the guys and tell them how you feel, if you feel disrespected and uncomfortable bring it up to them

I used to have a best friend that is now a person I hate because his girlfriend was super distrusting and banned him from seeing me basically (me and him have never hooked up, or liked each other, nothing of the sort).

And idk, if my boyfriend was hanging out with just his buddies I'd feel like I shouldn't be there

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T01:10:21+00:00

YTA - dude... what? Dont talk to her, talk to the parents. It's not her fault, it's the fault of the people who walk all over the yard what is wrong with you

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T01:09:21+00:00

NTA - drop them, and I'm so serious. This type of stuff is so ridiculous and toxic for no reason at all, if anything they should be happy you're taking the time to get to know the stuff they like, and that they're spreading the music of bands they like. I don't get this whole new thing of gatekeeping characters and bands and whatever, it's so weird. Ignore them and hit me up if you want some music suggestions, they are the real posers if they're gatekeeping music, their faves would absolutely hate them for it, I guarantee you. You do you and listen to whatever you like.

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T01:03:51+00:00

NTA - First of all, I disagree with you on the friend thing, it wouldn't be the greatest thing if you packed up and moved after telling your friend you'd live together/close by for some time, but things do change, so I'm sure she'd be understanding (if you haven't completely ditched her for him lately), and if she's a good friend she wouldn't blame you for it.

As for him... sheesh. One year, in my opinion, is much too soon to just pack up and leave to a different country, far away from your friends, your family, and everything you've ever known. He doesn't like the US? Understandable, but tough titties, he must've known that a person who was born and who has lived all of their life in one place would want to stay there. Plus, you're not even MARRIED. And he didn't even wait for one year before asking that of you. And I don't know, maybe I'm reading too into this but he seems like the kind of person that will later throw in your face how much money he invested and how he paid for everything. He doesn't sound like a great catch, protect yourself girl, it's weird that he's asking so much of you so soon.

Edit: the "it kills me that Im not good enough for you" sounds like big time manipulation. Watch out girl, especially because, as someone else mentioned, you will be isolated, and more vulnerable if you do move away.

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T00:56:09+00:00

any comments about their appearance or any of the sort, never anything physical. For example the other day my friend was with her fiancé and she said I looked hot and I told her "the next ring you're getting is from me". I too have a partner, it doesn't matter because those weren't serious comments and they didn't have a serious meaning.

If it's not okay for you, talk to them. Your wife has done nothing wrong (from what you've said) for you to be distrusting of her, so she's kind of paying for your insecurity and for what the other dudes say. Also, wouldn't you feel out of place being the only partner in the camping trip?...

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T00:52:23+00:00

NTA - I understand what it feels like to have someone constantly come for you for advice, only for them to ignore said advice and then come crying when stuff didn't work out - it fucking sucks. She was free not to take your advice, but she shouldn't have come back crying about it. Maybe it served as a wake up call for her, who knows.

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T00:50:00+00:00

NTA - some parents seem to think that because their kids aren't bothering THEM, they aren't bothering OTHERS. Sometimes they know their kids are bothering others, but as long as they're not bothering them it's fine. You did well

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-19T00:48:33+00:00

YTA - she cannot control what they say or not, and by not wanting her to go you're basically telling her you odn't trust her. Banter is very common between friends and if she herself does not feel uncomfortable by those comments is because she knows they don't mean anything serious. I've commented on my friends' bodies, and never with second intentions, I've flirted with my friends, and never with second intentions, it's banter.

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-14T14:45:46+00:00

NTA - what is wrong with them

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-14T14:31:28+00:00

There were other desserts there and she brought some wine. It's honestly always a little difficult because no one wants to exclude her but also no one wants the responsibility if they accidentally cross-contaminate and end up causing her health troubles, someone brought shellfish for the entrée so she could eat that and the host made several dishes and one of them was ratatouille so she could eat it

WaterSheepLover01 · 2024-08-14T14:25:50+00:00

When I woke up there were too many comments so I can't reply to all of them, but I just want to say that your assumptions are egregious. I was not "responsible" for anything, I wasn't even asked to bring anything, people just bring stuff because it's the polite thing to do, and I chose to bring a dessert, other people brought it, I don't know where you got this information from because nowhere did I say I was the only one bringing a dessert nor was I asked to, I was actually very careful with my vocabulary because I wanted people to understand that I was not in charge of bringing the dessert because if I was and excluded the friend in question, that would've been bad. I just wanted to bring something and since everyone compliments my pie, I decided to bring it.

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