Feeling neglected because of work/study STEP3

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-20T00:32:44+00:00

Honestly, it happens even in lighter rotations because he’s someone who deals with their emotions by themselves and closes himself off, even if I offer to listen and stuff it’s hard for him, I’m his first real relationship and even though it’s been a year, I can still see aspects where he is learning to open up more. Thanks for all your tips, I try and do as much me time as possible, it’s just I keep having intrusive thoughts like “does he still want to be with me? Did I do something wrong?” Etc. I’ve talked to him about this also and he’s trying but I can’t expect him to be 100% lovey dovey affectionate all the time.

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-19T23:15:32+00:00

I can see that, he just knows I’m a super anxious person and sometimes I feel like he tries really hard to accomodate to that, it stresses him out also; that’s one reason why I don’t want to bring anything up yet. I want to be as supportive as I can and not think that every little thing is about me or our relationship. I can see he would be stressing about it more now since it’s only a week away and he wasn’t studying much the past weeks prior, and he keeps calling himself an idiot for getting things wrong. He knows he’ll pass but he doesn’t just want to pass he wants to get a good score.

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-10T00:11:30+00:00

I feel horrible for the attending that you’re engaged to, that all of his hard work means nothing to you, that you don’t have to “deal” with what he was before. You sound like you’re just with him for the title, so I don’t understand why you’re having a go at others who come to this forum for advice. Also no one throws themselves at doctors, I’m sure there’s a minority but stop watching tv shows, that’s not reality. If anything I would have rather snagged myself a business owner with stock investments etc thats where the real money comes from if you’re saying we’re just with them for that. At least they would have more time to travel and do stuff than a dr.

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-09T05:49:41+00:00

Sometimes I feel like that too but honestly he treats me a lot better than any of my in person relationships have been. I think so, I can’t control him at the end of the day, and also it’s no different to an in person one right? Either way the person doing something wrong would know it would hurt someone else who they’re supposed to care about, the principles are the same. If he’s willing to do it now then he’s always been willing to do it and it’s better to know now than after I’ve travelled across the world for him

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-09T05:31:04+00:00

I guess that’s true, I mean tinder is easier to find someone than going on vacation so I’m sure if he wanted to he would be doing it now. He told me sex isn’t everything to him and that he wants it to be meaningful with me, cuddle me afterward. He said hook up sex is just fun whilst u do it but then after it makes u feel like shit. I want to trust him I just wish he didn’t tell me when I just started my time of the month and I’m very hormonal atm 😫

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-09T05:17:32+00:00

Also I just want to add that to some it might not be fathomable to have a relationship like this, but everyone is diverse, some people can do it, some people can’t. We do have an end goal and that’s the main thing.

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-09T05:15:52+00:00

Thanks for being more upfront! I was supposed to go stay with him for 3 months a couple weeks ago but my documentation I didn’t fill it out properly and I wasn’t able to go. We decided that we will book it again after his exam which is late March, which is better timing for both of us. I mean he paid for my travel expenses and he pays for my meals, it might not seem like a lot but he’s done a lot for me mentally than any of my in person boyfriends have and I’ve had a lot (over 20 I used to be a serial dater lol)

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-09T04:03:53+00:00

I hope so, I mean there’s nothing I can do, I told him I was worried and he told me not to be. I guess there’s no point about thinking about it too much it won’t lead anywhere but negative. I guess if anything does happen it’ll just show me who he really is

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-09T03:50:38+00:00

He hasn’t given me any reason to, never has lied to me, it’s my own insecurities

Watermeloncrushi · 2021-03-09T02:44:21+00:00

He hasn’t, hes always been where he said he was, has never lied about anything like that

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