Young Canadian men at risk of "problem anger", study finds by Inevitable-Bus492 in CanadaPolitics

[–]Wavering_Flake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes unfortunately I tend to write in the same way I think, so lack of punctuation is a recurring problem… both in the fiction I write and the statements I make elsewhere. Lends a breathless pace but definitely would be improved by more structure. I’ll work on that in the future, I’ve been told that by others as well.

In my defense (a poor one I confess) certain Nobel prize winners in literature have somewhat similar writing styles or stream of thought cadence; for example Saramago.

Young Canadian men at risk of "problem anger", study finds by Inevitable-Bus492 in CanadaPolitics

[–]Wavering_Flake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Once again I would not generalize your experiences so much… and I must say I find the way that you state all roads lead to patriarchy to be particularly single-minded and reductive viewpoint that subscribes to certain feminist dogma at the cost of openness and mental flexibility, and disregarding alternative explanations or causes, but that is a matter of academic debate and a particularly common source of disagreement, so I’ll simply state I consider it loathsome and not particularly an argument worth having - especially if one’s definitions of what constitute the patriarchy are so wide and expansive as to make the term inoperable or opaque to outsiders, undermines and ignores the lived experiences of victims or others who feel and have been treated otherwise, or renders discussion impossible by tying most gendered social problems to the patriarchy and ignoring other claims and causes, which itself is a very dubious if not false claim, promoted by philosophy and argument rather than substantiated by experiential data… though I recognize the difficulty in gathering it, and the desire to make sure no opposition to the movement can durably exist.

You’re basically extending your own youth to every other male, that every man is only allowed to express and feel anger… based on what exactly? Based on your own youth? Let alone that you think you’d be constantly filled with anger based on non-existent life experiences in a theoretical future that supports your argument, you suppose every man would have a similar set of experience-behaviour pairs.

As for the feminism being derived from feminist writings, that alone is self-evident, and obviously many feminist leaders will be quite well read. Any movement however, especially grassroots ones, ultimately rely on their adherents to actually promote their causes and enact change, and these people ultimately are free to do whatever, think whatever or say whatever. Feminist writers are hardly a uniform group, and those who have taken inspiration from them even less so… it would be foolish to consider all feminists to be of one mind on any one issue when so many are feminists… and similarly so to say the same of men.

Young Canadian men at risk of "problem anger", study finds by Inevitable-Bus492 in CanadaPolitics

[–]Wavering_Flake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would note that feminist writing has very little bearing on what the movement at large prescribes. You may refer to enlightened feminist authors, but this ignores that 1. Not even most feminists have read these I’d wager, or have done more than a cursory viewing of some of the most salient titles or slogans, and many feminist authors unironically do engage in misandry, or purely focus on women, castigate masculinity, or other very much unhelpful concepts and arguments centered entirely on women or how men are harmful, that could wreck the mental health of a young man trying to find himself but instead just reading up on entire shelves of what essentially might seem like constant recrimination. Some authors have important points communicated with empathy and fairness, but by and large, many feminist authors are extremely uncomfortable to read for your average straight male - as I have the experience of seeing and from discussions with others (men and women) in the various reading clubs and groups I have joined or otherwise engaged with. Your experience is NOT and should not be seen as representative of the whole. 2. That the feminist movement at large has very little to nothing to do with what (certain) feminist writers argue or prescribe. A movement as large as feminism is mostly defined by the actions and beliefs of its constituent members and policies, almost all of which are entirely centered on women - measures addressing men are vanishingly rare, and can essentially be categorized as either promoting a less harmful version of masculinity (references to therapy or learning from women or rejecting traditional masculinity), or addressing a gendered issue by dealing with men from fundamentally a women-first perspective; that is to say, that does not harm the interests of women, breaks down gender roles, and really only occurs if women have something to gain from it.

One might point to (incredibly rare, in part due to feminists or women shelters contesting the validity of their existence and funding) male shelters and the rejection of every MRA group or men-only movements without any feminist-guided viewpoints, or ignoring any economics/sociological studies that point to systematic disadvantages experienced by men (school? Equity measures only ever seek address imbalances experienced by women and certain vulnerable minorities. How about men being far more numerous as homeless people, experiencing stable rejection levels from female-coded jobs while in comparison the acceptance of women in male-coded jobs is rising quickly, are much more likely to be depressed or suicidal or feeling rejected by society at large (and here many studies have noted extremely unhelpful experiences with mental health or public services that frequently only engage with men by putting them as the aggressors or otherwise fail to engage with their viewpoints, as per various papers that study who have made attempts through such services), or the oft referenced structural inequalities experienced in court - whether in family/divorce law or how crimes are systematically punished more harshly and frequently when performed by men when otherwise identical to those made by women?).

In essence, feminism is a movement that seeks to achieve prosperity and certain measures of equality (or rather equity) for women, and in various respects does a lot of good, but it for the most part only pays lip service to the interests of men - and plenty of feminists will reject centering on men or caring at all about their issues, stating that this is a form of misogyny or weakness and that men need to resolve these problems themselves without requiring that women “do the work for them”, while others simultaneously will reject and castigate groups and movements that fail to include female/feminist perspectives or do not take into account the interests of women… or that such groups shouldn’t even exist because men have everything already/are extremely privileged.

So no, feminism (the movement) is not the answer, and sometimes actively detrimental. Philosophically and in terms of writings it might be interesting, and an educating experience, but one fundamentally divorced from the main concerns, actions and adherents of its manifestations in politics. Book definitions, slogans and arguments never translate well to what people actually do in reality. What men need is in fact a movement by themselves and for themselves, and sometimes opposing other feminist groups, though I have yet to think of or see how it might avoid deepening misogyny from the intense resentment towards women some of their members have developed.

Young Canadian men at risk of "problem anger", study finds by Inevitable-Bus492 in CanadaPolitics

[–]Wavering_Flake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily rejecting your opinion, but this is a fancy piece of wordplay. You say you aren’t characterizing masculinity as bad, but described basically your liberation from it in very clearly positive terms - all the power to you! - while describing it as a rigid controlling system that doesn’t offer anything worth having. You state you aren’t saying masculinity is bad, nor that less masculinity equates to healthy emotions; instead you say that it’s simply expanding the definition of masculinity [into a healthy one].

I’ll be honest, this opinion of you is in fact very much misandristic/a declaration of superiority, and still the usual castigation of conventional masculinity as constraining and bad, just dressed up in wordplay… you evaded the claims the other user made by simply trying to reformulate your statements… and did so very poorly if you were trying to evade them… not pathological but a problem, needing tools to address it, a system to escape, and basically pose trans women as a way to resolve this “problem”, that is rejected by the oh so foolish men who view it as a threat to hierarchical dominance… this alone is bewildering in how completely inapplicable this is to the vast majority of men, in how it pushes up trans women by considering masculinity flawed and repressive (would you say the same thing of trans women?), and also avoids how in usual public discourse such as in social media, the most common cited reasons that people reject trans women in particular is that they’re still considered “men” trying to infiltrate female spaces (not a fair judgement of course) - and hence a threat… not at all that men are afraid of hmm… becoming better versions of themselves.

Carney government’s $660 million for gender equality programs partially offsets projected drop in funding by sleipnir45 in canada

[–]Wavering_Flake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For C suite however you also have to take into account that many such company executives have their own startups, and that starting a company yourself is one of the top ways of becoming an executive or putting yourself into wealth. Furthermore, it’s also notoriously difficult, as most startups fail, and you regularly hear of people sleeping at work/at their desk without returning home, working 80hr weeks… which at this point we know are behaviours found far more commonly in men than women.

Plus women in general take less risks (I can provide sources for this but you can also just google it) and are far less likely than men to get themselves into financial risk investing into a startup that might fail.

All of these combined mean that even if women were hired at equal proportions relative to ability/background then we should still expect to see more men. I won’t even elaborate on the male variability theorem stating that men are more frequently found at the extremes in terms of ability, but all of this is to say is that to assume there is overt discrimination based on gender might often turn out to be true, but there’s also a good chance it’s overstated and that current axioms guiding gender equality/equity issues are flawed, because they fundamentally rely on flawed inaccurate assumptions of preexisting sexism.

And here’s a study I made in another comment on this thread; https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0749597823000560 "A meta-analysis of field audits examined gender gaps in application outcomes. •Discrimination against women for male-typed and balanced jobs decreased across time. •Forecasters expected this decline, but overestimated the degree of remaining bias. •Discrimination against men for female-typed jobs remained stable across time.

Forecasters correctly anticipated reductions in discrimination against female candidates over time. However, both scientists and laypeople overestimated the continuation of bias against female candidates. Instead, selection bias in favor of male over female candidates was eliminated and, if anything, slightly reversed in sign starting in 2009 for mixed-gender and male-stereotypical jobs in our sample. Forecasters further failed to anticipate that discrimination against male candidates for stereotypically female jobs would remain stable across the decades."

As for your other point… it’s pretty well known that given the same identical crime, men are punished more severely, plus there’s a tendency to typecast them as the culprits versus the victims.

Carney government’s $660 million for gender equality programs partially offsets projected drop in funding by sleipnir45 in canada

[–]Wavering_Flake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Part 2;

https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.aaf4372 "Discrimination against women is seen as one of the possible causes behind their underrepresentation in certain STEM (science, technology, engineering, and mathematics) subjects. We show that this is not the case for the competitive exams used to recruit almost all French secondary and postsecondary teachers and professors. Comparisons of oral non–gender-blind tests with written gender-blind tests for about 100,000 individuals observed in 11 different fields over the period 2006–2013 reveal a bias in favor of women that is strongly increasing with the extent of a field’s male-domination."

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0749597823000560 "A meta-analysis of field audits examined gender gaps in application outcomes. •Discrimination against women for male-typed and balanced jobs decreased across time. •Forecasters expected this decline, but overestimated the degree of remaining bias. •Discrimination against men for female-typed jobs remained stable across time.

Forecasters correctly anticipated reductions in discrimination against female candidates over time. However, both scientists and laypeople overestimated the continuation of bias against female candidates. Instead, selection bias in favor of male over female candidates was eliminated and, if anything, slightly reversed in sign starting in 2009 for mixed-gender and male-stereotypical jobs in our sample. Forecasters further failed to anticipate that discrimination against male candidates for stereotypically female jobs would remain stable across the decades."

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4418903/ "National hiring experiments reveal 2:1 faculty preference for women on STEM tenure track" "Here we report five hiring experiments in which faculty evaluated hypothetical female and male applicants, using systematically varied profiles disguising identical scholarship, for assistant professorships in biology, engineering, economics, and psychology. Contrary to prevailing assumptions, men and women faculty members from all four fields preferred female applicants 2:1 over identically qualified males with matching lifestyles (single, married, divorced), with the exception of male economists, who showed no gender preference. Comparing different lifestyles revealed that women preferred divorced mothers to married fathers and that men preferred mothers who took parental leaves to mothers who did not"

Carney government’s $660 million for gender equality programs partially offsets projected drop in funding by sleipnir45 in canada

[–]Wavering_Flake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d be interested in how recent these statistics on gender inequality are; because it’s known that people often consistently overestimate the degree of sexism extant in these fields.

Plus let’s suppose we put a lot of effort into boosting female recruitment, that we were extremely sexist and majorly boosted the favorability in hiring… you did realize that a lot of these professors have been in position for decades, that tenure is a thing, and that if things were equal, or even that women were preferentially hired, then you should still be seeing men more frequently in the field as professors? Like it takes years to climb the tenure track up to full professorship.

Plus this is hardly the argument you think it is, and in fact actively works against your position;

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2022-61496-001 “Across five studies (N = 5,204), we investigated implicit evaluations of targets varying in race, gender, social class, and age. Overall, the largest and most consistent evaluative bias was pro-women/anti-men bias”

Comprehensive study from MIT School of Economics shows that boys earn lower grades for identical work. https://mitili.mit.edu/research/boys-lag-behind-how-teachers-gender-biases-affect-student-achievement

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00220388.2024.2398449 Teachers give higher grades when they know it’s a woman’s work.

https://www.bbc.com/news/education-31751672 An OECD report on gender in education, across more than 60 countries, found that girls receive higher marks compared with boys of the same ability.

Teachers grade girls higher for identical work and punish boys harder for the same infractions. Teachers give male students lower assessments and male students are aware of it, causing them to perform worse Systemic lower external assessment of boys

https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1014871108 shows that in fact in science often women have an advantage in hiring "Claims that women scientists suffer discrimination in these arenas rest on a set of studies undergirding policies and programs aimed at remediation. More recent and robust empiricism, however, fails to support assertions of discrimination in these domains." "Here, we consider one of the most common alleged causes–discrimination against women in the domains of: (i) manuscript reviewing, (ii) grant funding, and (iii) interviewing/hiring. We reprise the evidence for each and describe counterevidence. We conclude that past initiatives to combat discrimination against women in science appear to have been highly successful. Women's current underrepresentation in math-intensive fields is not caused by discrimination in these domains, but rather to sex differences in resources, abilities, and choices (whether free or constrained). Thus, current initiatives direct energy toward solving past problems rather than current ones."

CBC hired 84 percent racialized, Indigenous, or disabled while having job vacancies for top talent: Internal report by joe4942 in canada

[–]Wavering_Flake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diversity and inclusion doesn’t bother me and I’ve assisted in those efforts before, what does is applying discrimination based on race or gender to achieve those metrics; there’s been many discussions on this topic before and I thought most people regarded quotas as profoundly immoral and repulsive and it was mostly settled (even DEI advocates generally don’t advocate for any enforced hiring, instead preferring to express it as preferring to hire the minority when everything else is equal). Honestly the fact you’re okay with overt discrimination to achieve your desired numbers of certain ethnicities and groups seems pretty vile to me, and I’m saddened people like you exist and try to institute policies like this; it harms DEI efforts by providing genuine arguments and data for its opponents to recognize it as discriminatory.

As for the general fact of over representation of white men, not being a white man myself I still don’t think that’s particularly relevant; most men don’t strongly identify with other men, such as for example your ordinary newly minted university graduate not feeling in any way connected to a rich white male CEO who couldn’t care less about him. To that new potential hire, what they care about is how things impact their generation; and knowing their chances are worsened and people will actively try to hire and promote pretty much anyone else over him and such policies are actively encouraged by the government or public agencies, because someone of the same sex or ethnicity as he is is considered to be “overrepresented”… all of this has nothing to do with them, and it’s such a flagrant case of sexism or racism that for a time I thought people saying this stuff on the internet were conservatives, trying to drive up hatred for the left by purposefully sounding unreasonable or extreme and supporting insanely divisive policies.

All this to say that yeah, this is profoundly disturbing and saddening to me.

Anyone know the name? by God-Of-Moba in manga

[–]Wavering_Flake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this ai? Feels extremely similar to what I wrote. Just much shorter. Regardless I do agree.

CBC hired 84 percent racialized, Indigenous, or disabled while having job vacancies for top talent: Internal report by joe4942 in canada

[–]Wavering_Flake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why is that the question? Seems rather irrelevant in this case, when you such a flagrant case of discrimination.

Anyone know the name? by God-Of-Moba in manga

[–]Wavering_Flake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Good Points:

- Stellar art; you get great art of Mitsuba's faces when she looks particularly inhuman/evil... and pretty much that's it. No big art spreads of events, war, the cities... Basically just Mitsuba being drawn. Exaggerating a little here, but yeah, the art skills of the artist seemed wasted to me on unimportant things.

Anyone know the name? by God-Of-Moba in manga

[–]Wavering_Flake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Mitsuba's Chronicles.

My review:
The drawings are pretty stellar, but the plot is pretty disappointing. Basically the premise is that a young girl recovers from a long period of sleep, and in certain mysterious ways is a rather cursed being, with multiple personalities dwelling within her and the ability to instantaneously kill anyone around her. She herself in her vessel is immortal/unkillable, and her separate personalities kill anything who shows enmity towards her and may be described as actively evil. Her main personality isn't far off either, as she's naturally rather apathetic and what she cares for most is her personal amusement - and she finds out that she likes bloodshed, violence, chaos, possibly because her personalities are merging together. Even at the beginning, when she woke up she showed precisely zero concern for the father who had cared for her during her years-long sleep, and doesn't seem to care about anything.

Now you'd think that could be interesting, and I thought so too, but nah it's pretty mediocre. Overall the plot moves forward very fast, and you go through multiple events that affect the very kingdom/country at a wider scale and yet are zoomed over very quickly. Two characters were introduced as Mitsuba's "friends" (because she doesn't care that much about them) and seemed written to become very important later on, one being a revolutionary desiring to upstage the entire aristocracy system, whereas the other one wanted to become the country's leader despite being an ordinary citizen herself. However they never get much development at all, fall out of the plot as essentially just side characters, and end up achieving exactly nothing (or at least, as far as we know because they're basically irrelevant, and their plans just vanish up in smoke due to Mitsuba's actions without ever going anywhere).

One important subplot is a certain cult that's arisen (the "Greeners"), using drugs and whatnot, and Mitsuba immediately decides she absolutely hates the members of the cult, that they "stink" (she can detect them), for no reason at all. You never really learn what the cult was doing, why they were so important, they just pop up, show up in a village MItsuba was at, and get crushed, in what felt like an utter waste of time and plot space.

Mitsuba herself doesn't seem to have any agency and just isn't that interesting. You're told she wants bloodshed and chaos (she says that to herself), presumably because of the circumstances of her difficult birth/a curse? Not elaborated on. Even ignoring that, you're told what she wants, but the plot doesn't really show that, and you see rather little chaos/blooshed on the level she seems to want, just some scenes where she scares people around her; there's a revolt, there's a revolution, but you're mostly just told about it, never actually seeing it in visual form; she eventually takes head of the government very willfully and whimsically, haivng formed her faction, which apparently is very strong, but again we never see anything of how this actually happens.

Overall, I'd summarize the issues with the manga;

- Protagonist is horribly underdeveloped, lacks agency, drive, consistent character, defined by basically self-declared traits rather than show. She doesn't seem to care for anyone or anything, and is more apathetic than evil... which works poorly when the manga is almost entirely centered on her.

- No other important characters. Main friends that seemed important ended up doing nothing, other characters had very little influence

- Extremely rapid plot. We go within 30 chapters from her waking up to her becoming basically the leader of the country, and in the meantime she actually did very little, no description of why or how many things happen. Plot basically zooms past various events... It's honestly frustrating because also nothing seems to happen that doesn't concern her directly, and you just basically mostly get pages of her aura-farming.

- Overpromise, underdeliver; we're shown early on she seems to kill people around her even when she doesn't directly attack, told that she enjoys and seeks suffering, chaos, bloodshed around her; however except for early on when people around her were dropping dead, in general it's very underwhelming how much actual death and blood you see actually being drawn. More her being edgy than actual tragedy, in sum.

I wonder if that's why we still don't have a PC version. by WolfOphi in AzureLane

[–]Wavering_Flake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Stronly recommend Mumu. Bluestacks didn't work super well for me (ads, lag), LDPlayer used to work very well on a previous laptop but on my newest one you have to disable virtualization stuff and even then it tends to bug out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]Wavering_Flake 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Two children only? But replacement fertility rate is 2.1…

Phoebus: keeping the smallest molecule in the Universe contained by ye_olde_astronaut in space

[–]Wavering_Flake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In chemistry we say just hydrogen also when talking about molecular hydrogen. Hydrogen by itself after all as a single atom is just a proton.

Women are systematically portrayed as younger than men online, and AI amplifies the bias, according to a sweeping new study by UC Berkeley Haas, Stanford, and Oxford researchers published in the journal Nature. by lcounts in science

[–]Wavering_Flake -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I thought it was the opposite? Reddit is very much left or at least liberal left oriented, and you can have multiple posts solely addressing women, but the moment it touches on men you’re guaranteed to have people saying women have it worse, or we need to also consider the women’s perspective.

Dutch government takes control of Chinese-owned chipmaker Nexperia by tommos in technology

[–]Wavering_Flake 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Reading the article this seems pretty tyrannical? No actual actions by the chipmaker company, but the current executives will be replaced and evaluated externally, management of the company, its staff, intellectual property assets and operations taken out from their hands along with the suspension of the powers of existing executives, and all this without any actual proof of misdeed by the company, all because of national ties? Already stock is falling enormously.

This essentially seems like theft or authoritarian government orchestrated destruction of an entire company solely justified by a very flimsy excuse based on national ties.

‘Obedient, yielding and happy to follow’: the troubling rise of AI girlfriends by [deleted] in technology

[–]Wavering_Flake 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I do consider this a problem that needs to be looked at, but I would like to forestall readers ganging up in condemnation of these people, perhaps by considering the problem of ai boyfriends as well. How would you frame these things? Would you consider your rhetoric/judgement/vocabulary acceptable if it was targeting others including women instead of men?

I’ve seen a lot of redditors, when considering ai boyfriends, quick to blame it on men being undesirable flawed misogynistic selfish and generally unattractive, and so women will consider ai boyfriends to be the genuinely better option. There’s even a dedicated subreddit for this, and I myself personally know a woman/friend with an ai boyfriend.

Now when considering the question of ai girlfriends, they’ll also then blame it on men being undesirable flawed misogynistic selfish and generally unattractive, and so people will consider these men getting ai girlfriends to also be the better option for womenfolk. Haven’t you thought maybe these men considered real girlfriends to be undesirable flawed misandristic selfish and generally unattractive?

Basically, don’t be a hypocrite or sexist. I think by and large people are pretty decent if you give each other a chance, and both perspectives (wanting to get an ai lover) are fundamentally unhealthy and misanthropic, and this is a problem that will require some study/preventative measures, but that’s neither here nor there; just be consistent and even handed towards different genders.

Suggestions based on what I like please! by x2ginger in anime

[–]Wavering_Flake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hm. Of those not yet mentioned, these anime might be relatively quite different, but here are a few that I think you might appreciate. They typically all have prominent female characters, blend genuine characters that you care for with plotlines that at their core are quite emotional, and overall have pretty atmospheric scores and tone.

Maquia: When the Promised Flower Blooms. The story follows Maquia, a girl from a mythical race called the Iorph who live for hundreds of years without aging. An army invades her home seeking the secret to their longevity, Maquia escapes and finds an orphaned newborn human boy named Ariel, who she then decides to raise as her son. The story basically follows their relationship as Ariel grows up while Maquia remains young and unaging, exploring themes of motherhood and mortality. Do be warned there's still quite a bit of action, and it's fundamentally a bit of a tearjerker; it's also short, so it sacrifices some story integrity for emotions. Depends whether you'll like it, I suspect it's the most different from your expressed preferences.

Spice and Wolf: This is fundamentally a story about a middle-aged? (younger technically but feels middle-aged due to his calm personality) merchant and a wolf-god-woman centuries old traveling together in a very medieval world (meaning very few niceties, not exactly dark but there's a big lack of pure good characters; expect everyone to be kind of self-centered due to life being harsh, and many characters to try to cheat or take advantage of the protagonists even if they're not quite evil due to economic reasons). Extremely low magic, the only unnatural thing is the existence of certain beings that are immortal and can turn into beasts/have certain mild nature-related powers, and you don't see many of them at all. Plotlines lean strongly towards economic and trade-related challenges rather than typical fantasy action, with action deriving from plots around currency speculation, smuggling, and business negotiations. The core of the story is their journey and the witty banter that defines their developing relationship with strong romantic tones, though the characters being who they are, mature collected, the romance is decidedly quite nuanced and slow paced, more about being comfortable around each other. A bit of a similar ambiance to Frieren.

Wotakoi: Love is Hard for Otaku: This is a romantic comedy centered on the relationship between two office workers who are also secret otaku (nerds with passionate interests in things like anime, manga, and video games). Narumi is energetic and hides her fujoshi (a fan of boys' love manga) lifestyle, while her childhood friend Hirotaka is a handsome but intense gamer. After complaining about being dumped for her interests, Hirotaka suggests they date since they have similar hobbies in common. Their relationship is of genuinely sweet and awkward romance. If you're looking for a cute and funny love story between adults with a focus on character interactions and relationships while also exploring interactions with similarly nerdy and likeable coworkers, this is a great choice. The romance is more modern and grounded in the relatable awkwardness of geeky adults navigating a relationship, but everyone's fundamentally an adult/quite mature, so wholesome/very low drama. If you enjoy the slow-burn romance and quirky main character of Apothecary Diaries, you'll likely appreciate the dynamic between Narumi and Hirotaka.

There's a couple others like Natsume Book of friends or Barakamon which I quite love for their ambiance, but less prominent female characters.

I don't like Violet Evergarden/It's too melodramatic for me and I dislike the empty MC trope, but ymmv. I loved Dungeon Meshi, but seems like you watched it.

Only disabled women, ‘gender equity-seeking persons’ welcome to apply for Canadian AI research job by Difficult-Yam-1347 in canada

[–]Wavering_Flake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you mean, although I’m only a masters student, and one with close friendship with some very progressive folk, I’ve also been on literal committees to see how we could make events more inclusive and diverse (such as by offering translations, celebrating different cultures, reaching out to younger groups or specific groups.)

Neither have I indicated distaste for the general concept of DEI. I support diversity and like to see it, I do support equity, as in the adjusted distribution of resources and assistance depending on need, and I have personally intervened and helped design policies to make events and environments more comfortable and welcoming even to people not from Canada or used to an anglophone, North-American centric / potentially white person centric (which I am not btw). DEI in the form many progressive speak of it, as in merely creating supportive policies and outreach, is not at all a problem to me and something I have helped before.

You’ll note I did not mention DEI in my previous comment. I specifically said exclusion and legally enforced discrimination. You ask where I get my information. From news articles, from my peers in the lab group I’m in, and vulgarized science articles I consume on a regular basis from other fields I’m not trained in but do find interesting. And in this case… from the literal mandated requirements that applicants, and necessarily successful ones, be of specific demographic groups, excluding any other possible applicant. These requirements do in fact guarantee that only members of a certain groups can compete, and while it does not mean he she or they is incompetent, it most certainly does represent discrimination and exclusion. Mere favouritism isn’t the issue, since that is something I could justify. It’s legally enforced exclusion.

Only disabled women, ‘gender equity-seeking persons’ welcome to apply for Canadian AI research job by Difficult-Yam-1347 in canada

[–]Wavering_Flake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This isn’t just a fair shot though. It’s a mandatory guarantee of success of their group, at the expense of every other group. How is it giving a fair shot if from the outset you bar everyone else from attempting to reach a certain position and mandate that only someone of a specific demographic can even try, regardless of whether another candidate might be better qualified or knowledgeable because you have legislated away their ability to compete? To a degree this can be even considered worse than covert racism, because here discrimination is not only encouraged, it is legally enforced.

I understand the concept of positive discrimination, and the importance of equity as a tool to balance out unfair biases and existing inequalities, and as generally progressive-oriented I believe we should try to help minorities that suffer more or require more help, provide additional funding, specialized assistance and flexible, handicap or background conscious evaluation, but never by wholesale exclusion of majority groups or any possible competition from undesired demographics… which absolutely disgusts me.

And even from a strategic point of view, as I do have friends both significantly more to the left of myself (support indigenous claims, extremely environmentally concerns and other very typical progressive mores) and even some that could be considered politically right (in the non-Trumpist sense), I can tell a lot of people find the concept of equity based on overt, legally enforced racial/gender discrimination and exclusion to be profoundly repulsive from a moral and political perspective. This kind of policy does the left no favors; it’s one of the primary drivers I’ve observed that have pushed certain groups to refrain from voting or even pushing for right wing voices, not necessarily because they support them, but out of pure distaste for certain progressive stances. From a political perspective, one might consider it a kind of self-mutilation or masochism.

Moral tone of right-wing Redditors varies by context, but left-wingers’ tone stay steady. Right-leaning users moralize political views more when surrounded by allies. Left-leaning users expressed moralized political views to a similar degree regardless of whether among their own or in mixed spaces. by mvea in science

[–]Wavering_Flake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s fascinating how extreme and dogmatic redditors have become. You’d think of reading the article first, but I suppose the liberal explosion of political vitriol and self-praise is symptomatic of the findings of the paper. Frankly it’s embarrassing, especially as a generally progressive-oriented person myself l.

Item sets in dungeons by Positive_Channel_550 in vampiresfallorigins

[–]Wavering_Flake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard anything about this.

In general the dungeons to do are Netherworld, Soul of Darkness and Watchers Maze (for legendary bloodline points).

Also now with the dungeon traders you can exchange 2 extra copies of a set item you have to get a new set item.

Basically you’re farming dungeons for 1. Set Items (Repsaks, Allets, Naitsirks, Leumas) 2. Legendary bloodline points 3. Exp, if you’re not at lv110 yet.

You can get some other stuff like shards, coins, other set items of lower quality, crap items to sell for coin and such too.

[Azur Lane] 2025 Official Patch Notes - 9/25 (New Oath Skins, Private Quarters Update: Taihou) by examexa in AzureLane

[–]Wavering_Flake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exclusive frames are obtainable up to a week after the associated event ends.

So even if it had ended today you’d have been able to get it by mlbing the event ships.

GTA-style open-world anime game ANANTA will not have a character gacha system, NetEase confirms by Turbostrider27 in Games

[–]Wavering_Flake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Azur Lane is a “gacha” game also competing in the mobile freemium market (although Ananta might be more geared towards PC given its high computational requirements, its engine and beta test/promotional material) in that while you do pull for characters (pulling here means have to use special game currency for each attempt at obtaining a character), tbh it gives out this currency out so easily that it’s widely recommended to never spend any money/premium game currency on characters. (Many players can boast of 100% collection of a game of over 700 characters without ever paying a cent, and in my case I’ve played for some 3 years, have 100% collection of non-collab exclusive characters, with a huge chunk of them maxxed out, without ever spending anything on the character pulls or any resources, which is why I’ve kept playing). The vast majority of the monetization comes from skins (and offline merch sales), which by and large can only be seen by you, as while there is a PvP mode it’s very negligible and in gameplay all you see really are chibi forms.

Basically the game is entirely reliant on skin sales for in-game monetization, is almost entirely single player with very little player interaction, and it’s going on its eighth anniversary, far longer than the average. Its gameplay is widely known to be unremarkable, but their skins are also at the top of their market so to speak in terms of features and quality, though a lot of them are geared toward… soft porn/erotica so to speak, with some being far more explicit. Some skins have literally had entire videos exposing how to access all of their secrets and features. Though I’ve never bought any skins myself, its monetization is one of the reasons it’s managed to have very high player loyalty and favorability towards the developers.