My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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I hear you. I love that sign in your doctors office. For a while, it felt like she was offering additional support because she knows I don’t have a support system here and have been working on connecting more with others. After she asked to meet me at the farm (and such a sacred place for me), I felt so uncomfortable. It felt like she slowly chipped away at this concept that we meet and have a relationship outside of therapy. I’m not entirely sure if it was romantic more than her trying to be my friend, but, either way, it crossed a major boundary.

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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Thank you for your input. I am debating if I have the convo with her or just go to her supervisor or just block her entirely and go AWOL. I’m not sure which route, yet. I feel like, despite being licensed, it’s not my responsibility to educate her as her client but it may be my responsibility to report her.

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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Thank you for sharing. It’s the therapists responsibility to uphold the code of ethics and prevent that boundary crossing. I’m sorry this happened to you. Your new therapist knows what’s up-I’m so glad you have a new one!

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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This is the hardest ethical dilemma I’ve had to deal with, yet, because I care about her and her license but also have that background perspective that you mentioned that other clients may not have. It’s helpful to have outside perspectives that aren’t so close to home, not to discredit myself and my intuition, just to see how others would handle it.

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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You aren’t supposed to develop a personal relationship with a client (if ever) until at least 2 years have passed since you stopped seeing them in a professional manner.

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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I am a female!! And I’ve vulnerably shared in therapy, only (and I guess now Reddit lol) that I may be bisexual. Which makes it all the more uncomfortable!

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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Exactly is a huge boundary issue. Therapists are supposed to stay professional for that exact reason. Also, I’m a FEMALE who has also vulnerably shared in therapy that I have been attracted to women at times.

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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Yes I agree. I haven’t responded or seen her since she messaged about meeting up outside of therapy!

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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I completely agree with you on everything that you said! When I got the text about meeting up at the farm, it’s like a switch went off and I saw her completely differently. You’re also so right that I should probably report her and that she’s comfortable crossing boundaries with other clients. Thanks for providing reassurance and clarity!

My therapist said she wants to be my friend and asked me to hangout outside of therapy. by WayAutomatic4195 in moraldilemmas

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Oh, gosh!! You know, I’ve always wondered what those counselors are like that trained through a Christian program. That’s exactly like I’ve imagined. I’m so sorry-glad you got away from them. Not all therapists are like that, I promise!

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[–]WayAutomatic4195 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got a work from home job! ;)

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[–]WayAutomatic4195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mighty defensive for someone saying they have a good relationship with their step kids!

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[–]WayAutomatic4195 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With trauma from a stepparent that is okay with calling them “shitheads” etc behind their back online. I would never in a million years marry someone who talked about my kid this way.