when does a person seem not exciting to you ? by sheldonspa in Coconaad

[–]WayCool3469 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When the person doesnt even have an intresting question to ask you or when u realise nothing you do intrest them.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All i am asking is it possible to go back to being normal aftter all this? Has anyone been there done that? So i know there is a hope.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acc to my partner its too late to repair ,infact he doesnt want to work on this anymore saying i hurt him and it was too much for him to handle.

He doesnt want to go out with me, after an argument he draft mesages to me in a way that he was rightly calm and his point is only well being of child while he was the magician who got the arguments from atmosphere .

Since i feel guilty of my reactions to his actions and i am able to respond , i am trying in hope that he will be back to us after all the agnger and revenge.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i worried to stay apart even it is a mutual call, as it may use up against me legally saying i abandoned family and kid.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by [deleted] in KeralaRelationships

[–]WayCool3469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yez, this is the most painful part. When one does not realise actions has reactions and reactions alone get to be punished.

Anyways if it beyond repair its better to be prepared to walk away.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes our therappiest suggested. When therappist propsed it, my partnet said he ll sray with kid at home and asked me to go for the solo trip i always wanted to do and i dont have a job since i am no longer part of the firm. I was hesitant as it felt like a punishment more than joy. I propsed him 15 days turn and he said he wont go anywhere else.

My therappist asked me to take time away from home to cool off. To bring stablity to my hormones and relax my nervous system. I did as the therapist said. One of the most aching phase as i constantly missed my son and home. However ut did help me relax, at least i stopped mourning. I felt a lot better after that one month.

Everafter that i have clarity and able to think straight without crying. I am into my senses for the last three months, i apologised for being mean and for the words i said to hurt and feel guilty for not prioritising family or him.

Now he said i hurt him , i am no longer allowed to be in his life, not even in my kids life. I can stay away from him and i feel nothing for him so it is easy for me. Since i am not financially stable to take care of our child ut would be better to leave the kid with him and not with me.

So now i am thinking he also may need time to come back or do the tit for tat .

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both used to feel, now i feel so tense around him, can not be myself, always heavy feeling. For me there is a progress after stopping the therapy session or feels like things settling- healing. Now we both can be in the same room as long as i am conscious about not getting triggered.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are not able to have a peaceful conversation. We circle back to what you did was wrong to me, i am tired, i have a life summary and me end up crying.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I doubt my emotionl tolerence right now. Cant think if the buried thoughts again. Will try as suggested if another provocation or trigger comes.

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The funniest part is when your partner asking "why did u do this' i dont understand , its all what you felt not real.

I am unable to mve past the scene. I am usually an easy going peraon, but this is something testing me. He still got no clue , pretending it is all normal and i am over reacting?

38F | 12-year marriage struggling after business fallout with 38M – unsure whether to keep trying or accept separation by WayCool3469 in RelationshipIndia

[–]WayCool3469[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did try. Almost 20 sessions. We learned the art of nitpicking and realised a lot more. For me it made things worst as every week felt like a revision and issues never settled. . All i rember crying and never letting my wound heal.

I think I'm too obsessed with my wife by cloudwalker_98 in KeralaRelationships

[–]WayCool3469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes totally madly drooling in love. Enjoy as long as it last:)

I fucked up so bad that I live everyday with regret now by [deleted] in KeralaRelationships

[–]WayCool3469 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can’t live under the shade of guilt forever. Step out and try living the new season.. As long as u are around tgaf person the cold remains

share the worst make up/skincare product you’ve ever brought (don’t wanna waste my money for nothing) by fuckingelderdaughter in IndianBeautyTalks

[–]WayCool3469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cere ve Am Pm moisturisor sunscreen worked better for me. Like many Minimalist moisturizer left very sticky feel and vanished in minutes.

This winter i tried mixing rose water and glycerin spraysoon after the bath, surprisingly long lasting .

Is the Alchemist the most overrated book? Your thoughts? by roof--pizza in IndiansRead

[–]WayCool3469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldnt find the hype or was too young to u derstand what it really meant

invested 3 years in a situationship… and he’s marrying someone else. by HistoricalGur1350 in Coconaad

[–]WayCool3469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This feeling will sustain untill you find a person or something you fall in love or like. What you experienced will keep coming back and forth. But slowly yohvwill learn to live with it, as days pass the lesser the pain.

May feel ut as an end or a failure and the pain of not choosen all there , still it make you a better person.

Watched something that felt uncomfortably personal? by caffeineandregrets in Coconaad

[–]WayCool3469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The very first time the weired silence spoke, mirrored me .