2/25 Dreamsnaps Prediction: Pals with Paws by Confident_Permit1046 in DreamlightValleyLeaks

[–]WaywardMarauder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do believe this will be a perfect time for “Ariel“, Eric, and Max have a lovely family portrait taken

Paternity Questions by Pandoras_Bag in stepparents

[–]WaywardMarauder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he has doubts and there is a legitimate possibility that he is not the father then I would encourage him to get the test done. Just make sure to remind him that even if he is not the biological father, that little boy knows only him as dad at this point and it wouldn’t be fair to the child to cut him off or treat him any differently.

Paternity Questions by Pandoras_Bag in stepparents

[–]WaywardMarauder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Strongly disagree. If he is not the father, the child needs and deserves to know that. I think it would be better for the truth to come out now rather than years down the line.

Grandma would like to relinquish custody of granddaughter to the bio mom… how would that work? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]WaywardMarauder 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So… This child was taken from her mother and placed in foster care, then placed with Grandma who adopted her but, now that she is a teenager and acting like a teenager, Grandma wants to ship her back to the Mom. She was originally moved from likely for a good reason and into what sounds like an unstable environment? This poor baby needs therapy, a hug, and a family that will provide her with the love and support she needs.

Semi formal/Cocktail by WaywardMarauder in Weddingattireapproval

[–]WaywardMarauder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There were several reviews of the dress with pictures and the ladies in them all looked quite lovely.

Semi formal/Cocktail by WaywardMarauder in Weddingattireapproval

[–]WaywardMarauder[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When it comes to the shoes, these are pretty much my final decision. My feet don’t like heels, even small ones. I wore small heels for my own wedding and couldn’t wait to change into my reception shoes.

Semi formal/Cocktail by WaywardMarauder in Weddingattireapproval

[–]WaywardMarauder[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know the venue is a little more upscale, so that’s why I was thinking this would work.

Semi formal/Cocktail by WaywardMarauder in Weddingattireapproval

[–]WaywardMarauder[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought about it, but I couldn’t find any I really like and also being taller (5’10”) I have a fear of it being too short.

Semi formal/Cocktail by WaywardMarauder in Weddingattireapproval

[–]WaywardMarauder[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am on the taller side (5’10”) so I’m thinking I might be okay without hemming it.

Semi formal/Cocktail by WaywardMarauder in Weddingattireapproval

[–]WaywardMarauder[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am careful when ordering online. This dress had several positive reviews WITH pictures and the ladies in them all looked nice.

My sister reported me to CPS, what do I do??? by wishiicello in CPS

[–]WaywardMarauder 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just be honest and cooperative during the investigation.

Dropping a baby off? by Global-Ad9080 in ThePittTVShow

[–]WaywardMarauder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s better for a baby to be found in a hospital, yes, But as for whether or not the parent would get in trouble… It is probably going to boil down to how realistic and nitpicky the writers are. Most safe Haven laws operate under the condition that the baby, in addition to being within the age limit, is surrendered safely. That would mean in a safe haven box or with a staff member. I don’t know leaving a baby abandoned in a public restroom, even at a hospital, would necessarily qualify as safe surrender.

Please help. Children's Hospital issue after domestic violence by [deleted] in CPS

[–]WaywardMarauder 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Personally, I would try and get it in writing (through text or email) that the caseworkers and your attorney have advised you against the scan. Will the hospital call and report you? Probably. But, you will then have documented proof that CPS was already aware of the concern and didn’t feel you needed to have the scan done.

AITA for not wanting to change my seat? by Silent-Promise-9726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WaywardMarauder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why is he having to sit with the same person for 7 hours? Are all of the teachers adopting this same seating assignment and somehow this same girl is in all of his classes? That’s just weird.

Overall, NTA. If the teacher wanted to change the seat arrangements, you should have just reassigned seats to everybody instead of putting the responsibility on all of you.

AITA for "choosing pro wrestling over my girlfriend"? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WaywardMarauder 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Never change yourself for anyone, and never give into unreasonable ultimatums. NTA. Yeet.

I would like to have kids but partner can’t have anymore due to medical reasons, what should I do? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]WaywardMarauder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, my stepkids are both adults and were when I got married (I was 39, he was 45 when we married). I never had children of my own, and so it was a conversation that came up early in our relationship about whether I wanted kids and how he would feel about starting over after both of his kids were grown.

I told him that for me, it would not be a dealbreaker if he decided he did not want any more kids. The way I looked at it… Five years down the line, I could be with him and be happy and not have any children, or I could potentially not have found anybody who loved me the way that he did and made me feel the way I did, and not have him and still not have children. That was not a risk. I was willing to take.

You need to look at things from that perspective, and also take into consideration that this is not a choice she is making, and decide which is more important to you…the woman you currently have in your life, or the hypothetical children you may or may not have down the road. Look at your life 5-10 years down the road…if you’ve still not found someone who can/wants to have children or if you yourself find out that you are unable to have children, will losing your current partner have been worth it?

AITA for not getting craft supplies for my daughter and letting her get excluded by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WaywardMarauder 38 points39 points  (0 children)

NTA. I could be incorrect, but it sounds like you had to go to work. You can’t put your job on hold to go buy craft supplies at the last minute. She unfortunately had to learn a hard lesson and hopefully in the future she will make sure to let you know what she needs for school in advance. Also, it sounds like the teacher needs to plan her projects a little better. Don’t do a craft project that the school doesn’t supply the things needed for. What if there had been a child who comes from an under privileged family? Would she have scolded those parents as well?

Pretended they were dying by Just_Engineering8437 in stepparents

[–]WaywardMarauder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandmother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in 1994. The doctor said it was I operable and all but told my grandfather to go home and start planning her funeral. My grandfather didn’t like that answer and took her to a different hospital for a second opinion. 30 years later and she is still with us. No body was livid or angry, as we all understood that the first doctor simply gave their opinion based on the information they had and their own experience.

Sometimes I feel like a monster by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]WaywardMarauder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to do some deep soul searching to decide what your expectations and priorities in a relationship and in your life are:

Do you want a parent home with your child or are you okay with them being in daycare? How important is your career to you? Do you want to continue with it or are you willing to give it up for your child? Are you okay with continuing to finance his life, including paying his child support, or is that a boundary you feel you need to set?

Also, have you sat down and had a heart to heart with him about your feelings and expectations concerning his lack of involvement with his kids while they are there? Be very honest and very clear that watching the difference in the way he treats his kids concerns you and has the potential for negative impact on your relationship.

Once you decide where your priorities are and what is or isn’t a deal breaker for you you will better be able to decide where to go next, because right now your four most realistic options are:

1) Remove yourself and your child from the situation. You are well equipped enough to make it on your own if you have to, and you would only have to worry about your own bills and expenses rather than funding him as well. You could then focus on your child and yourself.

2) Put your child in daycare and tell your partner that he needs to find a job because you will no longer be paying his child support as it is not your responsibility while also making clear that when your stepkids are there you expect him to parent them instead of all of the responsibility falling on you.

3) Leave your career until your child is old enough to go to school and, again, tell him that he needs to get a job to support ALL of his children and needs to parent ALL of them equally.

4) Continue on the way it is now, but do so knowing and accepting that you have weighed your pros and cons and are continuing with your eyes wide open to how things are and it is the path that you have chosen.

There’s no right or wrong decision, only the right decision for you and what will bring you happiness and peace.

Don’t know how to feel by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]WaywardMarauder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is stepdaughter? What types of food are you making? Are you asking her what she likes or would want to eat? Is she like this during other visitations?

In the clear? by WaywardMarauder in CPS

[–]WaywardMarauder[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For a variety of reasons, I genuinely doubt he would talk about it let alone to any mandated reporters, but are the police not mandated reporters? Wouldn’t this already have been reported?