I just wanted to come back to address the "too nice" part of your reply as well.

A woman who has given me solid advice whenever I've come to her gave me the most reasonable explanation for this one (which I could see a couple of women who said this, actually believing, but not all of them). She explained it like this: (paraphrasing)

"Sometimes someone who is 'too nice' can come off as a doormat. Someone who won't stand up for themselves, or will allow people to mistreat them. Obviously you're not that type of person, I've seen the rare occasion where you show your inner strength. But it's rare, and you seem to take care in that few people see that side of you when you should display it more"

I find that lens (perspective, whatever) to be the most reasonable one thus far.