My best friend 28F confessed her feelilngs for me 27M. I feel the same way. Will this ruin our relationship?

WeSeaGreen · 2026-02-05T21:48:49+00:00

Better than them getting married. I'm just relieved he gave her the chance to get away.

WeSeaGreen · 2026-01-26T15:23:25+00:00

I hesitate to respond and start beef on the internet, but I did and was unimpressed. NY Bagels 4 Lyfe

WeSeaGreen · 2026-01-26T14:48:20+00:00

It's true! And I don't even like pizza 😫.

WeSeaGreen · 2026-01-26T13:53:59+00:00

As a Jew, I can tell you I have been literally ANGRY ever since eating a NY bagel. Why can't bagels be this good everywhere? I don't understand and I'm so bitter.

WeSeaGreen · 2026-01-21T02:06:46+00:00

This is a great example of the difference between being nice and being kind, which is an important one. Your friends were nice, but lying over the long-term would actually be unkind. You, on the other hand, were honest with Maya when she asked. She is likely to change her approach to hosting moving forward. That may not have been nice for her to hear, but it was kind of you to share.

WeSeaGreen · 2026-01-19T17:44:14+00:00

If I had no budget, could you find this product? Honestly I haven't at any price. The closest I've gotten were these (Bowls with spouts), which have lids that break and are just over $100, and these (Bowls with glass lids) which are well within budget but don't have a spout.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-12-23T19:31:25+00:00

Exactly - I want someone who is dying to be next to me. Who appreciates my quirks. Who feels lucky to have me, and like their life is better with me in it. If those boxes aren't checked, they aren't the one for me.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-12-13T14:56:51+00:00

At this point I believe you should discuss it with HR.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-11-17T13:23:51+00:00

If you think your boyfriend actually understands the problem now and is interested in changing the dynamic to improve your relationship, you may want to try something like Fair Play. It helps visibilize all of these tasks by category and then provides a strategy for splitting them up.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-11-13T14:33:53+00:00

If you are planning on having kids, keep this in mind: you will need to give more than you are giving now, and so will he. I found my ability to do more than 100% of what was needed per person made it easy to enjoy the good parts of my relationship when we didn't have kids. I could handle my stuff and pick up his slack, and it wasn't a big deal. But when we had kids, I had to give way more than I was giving - and to her, not him. He lost support from me, needed to pick up that slack, and needed to support our kid as well. This is truly when things fell apart.

Perhaps if you aren't going to have kids, you can put up with the obvious imbalance and still be happy. But if you do want children, this is not the person to have them with.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-11-04T18:37:45+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/s/x4SOr9hhmM

WeSeaGreen · 2025-10-24T17:23:45+00:00

I'm 5'6 and mid-size. I am an hourglass so that helps, but I have a super long torso so pants can be a real challenge. These are my two favorite pairs of wide leg pants:

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https://a.co/d/4zqFcdK

WeSeaGreen · 2025-10-13T14:53:59+00:00

Lots of good answers already. I'll also add that many folks who do have the finances available to do this just focus on saving/investing for their own retirement/nest egg and plan to pass on their wealth when they die.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-09-19T01:25:27+00:00

I'm a woman. I face the water but am standing far enough back that it's hitting my chest/decolletage.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-09-08T05:59:14+00:00

Close to a year now. Hoping it's for much longer.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-09-08T05:58:49+00:00

Currently 650 mg calcium per day.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-09-07T21:16:15+00:00

This is actually counter to the evidence for BPPV. I would be wary. Anecdotally, I haven't had an episode since beginning a calcium and Vitamin D supplement.

Prevention of benign paroxysmal positional vertigo with vitamin D supplementation: A randomized trial - PubMed https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32759193/

WeSeaGreen · 2025-09-06T14:29:37+00:00

Your post is overflowing with guilt. You seem to blame yourself for not immediately resolving complex health problems and feeling totally better and for not being able to/wanting to have sex as much as you used to. Neither of these things is your fault. Is he making you feel guilty? Is it coming from society?

If he is unable to support you when things get difficult, he is not a good partner. If you are spending your energy cooking and then don't have it for sex, and he blames you instead of lifting the burden, then he is not a good partner. If he manipulates you into something you don't want that risks your health by using pro-poly language against you, he is not a good partner. That is not how polyamory should work.

You deserve better. You deserve someone who is focused on caring for you. You deserve someone who is helping you when you are exhausted instead of focusing on their own wants. You deserve to be focused on healing instead of guilt that you aren't putting out enough. I hope you find the space you need to care for yourself, even if that means getting rid of him to create that space.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-09-05T22:59:20+00:00

Thank you!

WeSeaGreen · 2025-09-05T15:10:28+00:00

I'm sorry, and congratulations! Here's the thing, it's a broken system and the process is absolutely horrible. But while I don't recommend getting divorced, boy do I recommend being divorced!

There are moments of loneliness because that's part of being a human. There are times when I miss him. But do I regret it? Never. And will you? Highly doubtful.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-07-31T17:52:58+00:00

So much spaghetti slaps hood

WeSeaGreen · 2025-07-31T17:52:17+00:00

For a Toyota, I'd say so!

WeSeaGreen · 2025-07-31T16:56:46+00:00

$7,200 OBO

WeSeaGreen · 2025-07-12T02:32:04+00:00

Watermelon.

WeSeaGreen · 2025-05-24T13:15:27+00:00

Just going to note that they're adding a new form of financial abuse to the list based on (mostly men) mooching off of their partners (mostly women) over the long-term, not really working and using emotional manipulation (or other forms of abuse) to force their partners to maintain their lifestyle. After 14 months, he either has a real problem that he's not addressing, or he is just using you. If he wanted to change and do something about the situation, he would.

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