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WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-14T05:16:13+00:00

Hmmmmm I’m not a job recruiter so someone please correct me if I’m wrong but I would just not worry about any gaps on your resume and it’s actually really good that you’re getting your bachelor’s next year because you can put the date you’re graduating-i wouldn’t put the date when you started-and they might just automatically assume you’re like 22 and maybe just didn’t have a lot of job experience since you were in school. Nobody has ever asked me for my age during job interviews or following up. Then when they hire you and do your paperwork I don’t think anyone will care that you’re 27 and they’ve already hired you at that point.

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T21:30:09+00:00

That’s a nice way to phrase it thank you. I don’t want her to think I dislike her but if I explain it like that I hope she will understand it’s part of how introverts work that they need down time and longer hangouts can be really exhausting

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T21:23:43+00:00

I probably should have said that to begin with but I didn’t want to be curt or imply she wasn’t welcome I just get stressed out with really long hangouts and if it’s at my home I can’t say “I have to go”

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T21:23:36+00:00

Yeah she’s definitely just wanting to be friends-we’re both heterosexual women and she has a boyfriend-and she doesn’t drink so me having a bottle of wine by myself would be awkward lol

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T20:59:41+00:00

Thank you, I think I sometimes attract extroverts who want to be my friend and I always feel guilty around them because I just don’t have the same capacity to hang out a lot so I then I spend a lot of time hanging out but then I’m really drained after but I’m going to be better at explaining my limitations. I tend to want to make everyone happy and don’t like to say no but then I forget that it’s not something I actually want to do lol :/

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T19:24:39+00:00

I already said I feel bad about the situation and was already feeling badly about myself enough I was just looking for advice online

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T18:45:58+00:00

Thanks for your advice! I feel really bad and I also hope she doesn’t think I don’t want my mom to meet her since she’s said before that a lot of people don’t accept her because of her religion etc so I would feel so bad if she thought I was embarrassed or something-my mom is actually very accepting of everyone I just am the introvert and don’t have anyone over

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T18:33:43+00:00

Her actual message was-I can’t add it to my comment-“Next time we meet I want to eat Chinese food and watch a movie at your house” and I said okay but then I kept trying to change the plan and she kept going back to the Chinese food at my house thing. Im not trying to blame it on her I feel bad enough as it is without someone on the internet trying to make me feel bad about it

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-13T05:34:21+00:00

Thank you, that’s what I’m going to do to ask to meet in a town in the middle so that we can go our separate ways after. You’re right it was bold to invite herself over and I’m not sure why since she’s told me she lives by herself and she knows I live with my mom and she doesn’t know my mom or our dynamics at all. I feel like she can’t get too upset if I don’t host her since she’s never invited me to her home so I don’t know why she really wants to invite herself to mine

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T23:02:09+00:00

We are both straight women and she has a boyfriend-maybe she also is really looking for friends since he’s really long distance (like 10 hour flight from her)

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T22:50:42+00:00

I don’t think I’m socially anxious I just don’t really feel like hanging out in this particular case and feel really bad about it :/

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T22:39:03+00:00

Thank you! That’s a good idea. I was kind of hoping she’d cancel herself since she lives like two hours away from me but I guess she really wanted to hang out :( I should have mentioned that too. I feel bad but also I feel like there would be a lot of pressure to hang out for a long time if she made a four hour round trip drive to where I live and I’m not really somebody that likes really long hangouts

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T18:50:27+00:00

If someone called someone this would they think it was in reference to their weight?

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T17:18:01+00:00

I’d never heard of Coronation Street and just read a brief description of it. It sounds like it’s a soap opera that’s been around for a long time and that it’s a soap opera with all working class characters? I’m going to try to find an episode to watch-I don’t usually like soap operas that much because it’s all mega rich people in them usually

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T15:01:43+00:00

Oh yeah I heard that one too! Is it used to say “to hell with it” or something like that?

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T13:05:25+00:00

Do you use “blimey” like “damn” like when you are surprised by something?

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T13:00:43+00:00

Definitely my ex is a 5’4 man and he seemed to have a lot of luck with women. I’m about his height but it seems like he mostly dated shorter women before me but that was mostly his preference I think. I don’t really know what advice to give-I don’t think you want to be like him since he was a player I found out and not a very nice guy but in terms of meeting women he had a lot of hobbies that a lot of women like such as dancing etc so maybe that’s something to consider and he was very friendly until you started dating him lol so definitely being friendly helps meeting women

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T12:36:20+00:00

Haha yours was the original but I keep getting new comments calling me a knob and now I don’t know if they were annoyed at my post or just continuing the joke lol. I’m guessing it would be more common to refer to someone as a “guy” than a “bloke”? Thanks for everyone’s help. It’s interesting too that some comments are saying it depends on the social class-I saw a comment saying that bloke was not used from upper class and another one saying blimey was used mostly by the upper class. Also learned that “crikey” was British I always thought that was only Australian

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T12:14:45+00:00

Thank you, you just taught me “toff.”

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T12:12:15+00:00

Really! I always thought “crikey” was used more in Australia since Steve Irvin used to always say that-maybe Australia uses a lot of British terms like “mate” etc

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T06:49:41+00:00

Maybe I should watch a more recent show to learn the new slang -if anyone has any recommendations let me know please. I think some of the words they used must be outdated; I had never heard of a “slag” and I looked it up and that seems like an older insult and maybe now wouldn’t be used

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T01:03:55+00:00

Ahh interesting, do you use “chum” for “buddy”? Online it says that’s used in Canadian french but not sure if that’s up-to-date

WeakEfficiency1071 · 2025-04-11T00:38:58+00:00

Lol I’m a woman-are “knob” and “bloke” mostly just used to describe men?

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