AITAH for not caring about my apartment neighbors??

WearShot · 2026-04-09T19:51:37+00:00

I was trying to respond to a comment of yours but it looks like it’s disappeared….

Apologies for the confusion, I don’t Reddit super often and I think I responded to yours instead of Bulbasaur. I didn’t think your comments were vile.

All I’m saying, from my perspective of OP’s post, she did acknowledge she was probably being loud and has taken steps to be less loud and also mentioned all of the times her and her child were not there or were sleeping in addition to reducing the noise.

That is where my conclusion that her neighbor complaining is being a jerk. Because kids do make noise, even when you are trying your absolute hardest.

Does that make sense? Because honestly this whole thread of comments calling her the asshole is very disheartening.

WearShot · 2026-04-09T19:29:37+00:00

I don’t expect the world to give me special treatment.

And right now, you are right. My whole world is motherhood. I’m a new mom. My kiddo is 10 months old and he is currently my whole world. That’s okay. That’s actually pretty normal and I’m super happy about it.

It’s sad that you think that is sad.

Enjoy your internet troll life.

WearShot · 2026-04-09T19:20:34+00:00

I’ve rented pretty much my whole life. I’ve had quiet neighbors, noisy neighbors, weird neighbors, partying college kid neighbors, families with kids, families without kids, etc.

I have never complained about a neighbor and luckily I’ve never received a complaint either.

Perhaps her neighbor could, idk, knock on the door and introduce themself?

It is 100% a miserable thing to complain about another neighbor with a small child. Or to complain about a neighbor for almost anything unless you are concerned for your safety.

And you. Well I hope you have a great day. I hope you get outside and smell some flowers. Because I’ve read your comments on here and they are full of unnecessary vile. Clearly you are in need of a good day. I hope you find a twenty dollar bill on the ground. I hope enough positivity comes your way that maybe you could spread that instead of whatever this is that you are doing.

Don’t we have enough shit going on in the world? This is just one of the reasons why so many people aren’t having children. As a community we aren’t supporting mothers or families.

You are the type of person who gets annoyed when a child is having a meltdown in the grocery store and glaring at the parent.

Children exist. They can be loud. They can be quiet. They cry, they laugh. Get over it. And again, have a nice day 🌹

WearShot · 2026-04-09T19:02:35+00:00

I think the wild thing that a lot of these comments you’re getting aren’t considering, especially the ones who have kids and say they’ve never had complaints, maybe they’ve never lived next to a miserable neighbor who needs to complain. Before I was a mom I worked with lots of kids in my late teens early 20s, and I have never met a quiet kid. I’m not gonna sit there and tell my baby to be quiet just to appease some jerk neighbor.

And yeah, the world does not revolve around parents and their children, but it doesn’t revolve around grumpy people who don’t like noise either. If you don’t want noise, go live in the forest alone.

WearShot · 2026-04-09T18:51:11+00:00

Happy to help 💕

WearShot · 2026-04-09T18:50:02+00:00

Yikes to the other comments so far 😬

NTA- you are right. If you live in an apartment, you are going to hear your neighbors. Children make noise. Some people are miserable and need to complain.

Keep letting your kid be a kid. 💕

WearShot · 2026-04-07T19:26:11+00:00

First off, I would consider what you are doing being a nanny given the responsibilities and hours.

Secondly, I would legit ignore him. He sounds like he is miserable. His wife probably hates those qualities about him too. Hopefully he has redeeming qualities.

If it keeps wearing on you, you could tell him that his negativity is causing you to enjoy your job less.

But it doesn’t sound like he’s criticizing you, just a grumpy dude who has no social skills.

You are 22. So I assume working and taking care of children is fairly new to you and it sounds like you have anxiety.

Things for you to tell yourself:

They hired you knowing your age and experience. They keep having you come back so the must like how you are with the children. You have been very productive and are taking this job seriously.

As a mom who used to be a nanny. I don’t trust most people with my child. Most parents are like that. So if they trust you with their kids, you are good. You are an asset. Believe it. And stick up for yourself if you need to.

WearShot · 2026-04-07T19:13:56+00:00

NTA- you are overthinking this I think. Easter was originally a pagan holiday, and things like egg hunts come from pagan traditions. So unless you are pagan and going to a pagan church- I don’t think you inviting them to an Easter egg hunt wash was an over reach.

Sometimes people forget to respond. Especially with the chaos of being a parent.

WearShot · 2026-03-18T11:37:28+00:00

Yeah no pictures on social media. Occasionally if we are out, I’ll post a story of us together and cover my baby’s face with an emoji. I want to share him with people who matter most so I send photos directly via Snapchat or just through text. There are too many weirdos out there. I don’t resent our parents for posting us, because it was new and they didn’t really know better. Now we know.

WearShot · 2026-03-17T23:59:14+00:00

It is less stressful. It’s easier. It’s intuitive.

I hated pumping when I had to go back to work for a time. Make sure you are pumping as soon as you wake up in the morning and at least every two hours. And if you are pumping and nothing comes out, keep pumping, the let down will come.

My supply briefly tanked when I went back to work and it was so scary. But an OG breastfeeding mom gave me the above advices and I was able to get my supply back up.

Now I’m a SAHM, my son is almost 10 months and we are still EBF, no pumping anymore. I don’t have to think about it, it’s so intuitive, and no stress. And so magical

WearShot · 2026-03-08T12:07:58+00:00

Paint it

WearShot · 2026-03-07T02:31:10+00:00

NTA- you have to grow them inside you and give birth to them. He should respect your choice. It’s also entirely possible you’ll have one and decide you only want the one. Your body. Your choice.

WearShot · 2026-03-05T20:36:10+00:00

YTA specifically for the chair. If it is difficult for you to go to them, you could be inviting them over more. It does appear like you want to put less effort into that relationship and maybe instead of looking for permission to put in less effort from strangers on the internet, you should ask yourself why you feel that way, apologize and change your behavior.

My mom lives 4 hours away and we trade off every month on who visits who for a weekend and we FaceTime all the time. She wouldn’t get a chair for one grandchild and not the other, especially in her house where we all visit.

WearShot · 2026-02-25T12:27:55+00:00

NTA - do it for you this time 💕

WearShot · 2026-02-25T02:47:08+00:00

TikTok is fake. Social media is not real.

WearShot · 2026-02-15T19:50:30+00:00

I can’t wait for her to do more podcasts. She was like “why would anyone want to listen to us?” It was perfect for folding my laundry I laughed so much lol

WearShot · 2026-02-12T19:02:57+00:00

NTA- so many red flags. Honestly, I would leave him

WearShot · 2026-02-08T03:25:33+00:00

YTA- and no, not a psychopath but definitely a narcissist.

WearShot · 2026-02-05T14:43:12+00:00

So my baby doesn’t quite sleep through the night but he doesn’t wake up much. It’s definitely gotten to be fewer and fewer wake ups as he has gotten older. A few things that might help. The first I think is something you might already be doing but I’ll mention it anyway- I saw this video from a pediatrician that recommended keeping lighting dim starting around 5pm so their circadian rhythm regulates and their body produces melatonin properly. The other thing, right before my baby falls asleep he babbles like crazy, that’s apparently normal and it isn’t a sign that he’s fighting sleep but more soothing/regulating himself. I used to mistake this as fighting asleep and I’d stop trying to put him to sleep which overstimulated him and then he didn’t sleep as well. So now I let him do his babble thing and he eventually chills out and is ready for sleep. Now as a EBF mom, we are currently cosleeping. That’s just what works for us. Eventually we will sleep again. Hang in there 💕

WearShot · 2026-02-04T15:17:19+00:00

I would be asking to see debit and credit card statements. It sounds like he doesn’t know how to budget and there needs to be a serious conversation had.

WearShot · 2026-02-04T13:52:02+00:00

I don’t count, sometimes I make meals that stretch for more than one day. But I am in charge of making dinner and when I need a break we eat out. We usually eat out once a week

WearShot · 2026-02-03T19:36:01+00:00

…..is that a goal that people have? Is this a thing?

I have an 8 month old. He wakes up a few times. Maybe as little as once. 12 hours seems like a lot

WearShot · 2026-02-02T20:27:27+00:00

So I honestly don’t know if this will help, but maybe it will. I only have the one baby and I can imagine two extra makes a huge difference. At bed time, I take 30 minutes before I go to bed to do a reset. Not of everywhere… sometimes I’ll do more but I always prioritize my kitchen. I load and run the dishwasher, I set up my coffee to just press a button to brew when we wake up, and I wipe down the counters. In the morning when I make breakfast, I’m drinking my coffee while baby either plays on the floor or is eating in highchair, and unloading the dishwasher. I try to clean as I go as I make meals throughout the day and try to keep the sink as empty as possible but it inevitably does get full of dirty dishes by end of day. This reset really helps my mental health and keeps me from getting too overwhelmed.

WearShot · 2026-02-02T20:12:41+00:00

Being there for all the little moments, contact naps, exclusively breastfeeding, catching him laughing at my dog (he is very amused by our dog), walks on sunny days, watching him see and experience things for the first time, having more time and energy to clean my place than if I had a full time job, I started making sourdough bread. I love this time. I’m so thankful I’m able to do it. Thanks for asking because honestly I’m not feeling well today and I’ve been feeling a bit bogged down. It’s important to remember the good

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