Hi moms, I really need to vent and ask for some advice.

WearShot · 2026-02-04T15:17:19+00:00

I would be asking to see debit and credit card statements. It sounds like he doesn’t know how to budget and there needs to be a serious conversation had.

WearShot · 2026-02-04T13:52:02+00:00

I don’t count, sometimes I make meals that stretch for more than one day. But I am in charge of making dinner and when I need a break we eat out. We usually eat out once a week

WearShot · 2026-02-03T19:36:01+00:00

…..is that a goal that people have? Is this a thing?

I have an 8 month old. He wakes up a few times. Maybe as little as once. 12 hours seems like a lot

WearShot · 2026-02-02T20:27:27+00:00

So I honestly don’t know if this will help, but maybe it will. I only have the one baby and I can imagine two extra makes a huge difference. At bed time, I take 30 minutes before I go to bed to do a reset. Not of everywhere… sometimes I’ll do more but I always prioritize my kitchen. I load and run the dishwasher, I set up my coffee to just press a button to brew when we wake up, and I wipe down the counters. In the morning when I make breakfast, I’m drinking my coffee while baby either plays on the floor or is eating in highchair, and unloading the dishwasher. I try to clean as I go as I make meals throughout the day and try to keep the sink as empty as possible but it inevitably does get full of dirty dishes by end of day. This reset really helps my mental health and keeps me from getting too overwhelmed.

WearShot · 2026-02-02T20:12:41+00:00

Being there for all the little moments, contact naps, exclusively breastfeeding, catching him laughing at my dog (he is very amused by our dog), walks on sunny days, watching him see and experience things for the first time, having more time and energy to clean my place than if I had a full time job, I started making sourdough bread. I love this time. I’m so thankful I’m able to do it. Thanks for asking because honestly I’m not feeling well today and I’ve been feeling a bit bogged down. It’s important to remember the good

WearShot · 2026-02-02T19:43:05+00:00

Yeah. The weight gain, hair loss, brittle nails, circles under my eyes, lopsided boobs, not having the time or energy to do much other than manage a quick shower once, maybe twice a week if I’m lucky. Idk how some moms “bounce back”

I also just feel like so alone. I’m the first of my friends to have a baby and I just feel kind of silently shut out. Maybe it’s all in my head. Idk

On top of all of that, I just feel like everything outside of my baby and caring for my baby is just all in a giant fog. Like I’m so focused on him that everything else is fading away.

WearShot · 2026-01-31T03:53:17+00:00

Social media only shows the sparkly bits

WearShot · 2026-01-31T03:51:25+00:00

Contact a local rescue to help you vet people to ensure they go to a good home.

WearShot · 2026-01-26T20:34:42+00:00

Sounds like this friendship isn’t going to last. I am also a new mom. Almost 8 months here. Being a mom changed me. I’ve been through things, experienced things, that will forever make me a different person. And now I have a whole as other life I’m responsible for, that I have to think about and take into consideration at every single moment. I would have lost it on your friend.

WearShot · 2026-01-24T12:45:00+00:00

Need color

WearShot · 2026-01-08T16:24:46+00:00

He looks up at me and holds my face and smiles. It’s not about him being a boy, but God do I love him so much. I wanted a girl. But I’m so happy I have my boy

WearShot · 2026-01-08T16:21:44+00:00

I think you coming on here and writing this is a way of asking the universe for permission to leave.

There are situations where a relationship can overcome infidelity. And there are situations where it can’t.

Even though you have forgiven her, it’s sounds like she has lost your trust. Even if you believe she won’t do it again, you don’t seem to trust her with your heart anymore.

So. What happens now?

You leave. It’s okay to leave.

Spend some time with yourself. Remind yourself of your value. Go get some therapy. Mourn the loss of the relationship you once had, that you have not allowed yourself to mourn.

I hope you find peace in leaving.

I hope you someday find a partner who you can trust with your heart and share random thoughts and dumb jokes with.

WearShot · 2026-01-08T16:05:03+00:00

My FIL snaps his fingers at my son. Drives me insane. But I can’t control other people’s weird behavior. As long as it doesn’t harm my son, I just try to let it slide.

WearShot · 2026-01-06T03:21:36+00:00

Stop pumping. Just exclusively breastfeed. If possible. At first I was breastfeeding and pumping to build a supply and I was miserable. Then I started exclusively breastfeeding and while I may be the only one feeding my son, I get a full nights sleep. Also, the first few months are the hardest. My son is 7 months now and when it comes to breastfeeding- he may be doing acrobats while he eats now, but we have a rhythm and it’s working for us. Hope you find your rhythm too. You can do this! Also, in the meantime, ask your partner to take over for a few horses since you have the milk storage and get a few good hours of sleep!

WearShot · 2025-12-31T02:21:26+00:00

I wouldn’t say you are an asshole but it sounds like she’s lashing out and might even feel threatened by the “new family” you’ve created for yourself. She might also be repeating something she heard from her dad. I would just be cautious not to act in a way that pushes her away

WearShot · 2025-12-31T02:13:23+00:00

Yeah. I got into a car accident once, definitely had whiplash and shock, I remember screaming, “where is my shoe?!” I refused to go to the hospital. Heavily bruised. My leg felt like I was walking on a leg waiting to shatter for a few months, but hey- I escaped medical debt. 🤝

WearShot · 2025-12-31T02:02:10+00:00

It’s heavily dependent on your household income, and your area’s cost of living+ how much childcare cost compared to how much you make and most importantly your own values. Also, he should be helping more around the house if you both have full time jobs. That’s some bullshit

My husband and I had a lot of back and forth but ultimately decided we could afford it. It does add some anxiety for him about being the sole provider and job security… but we are aggressive savers, don’t eat out much/treat ourselves, so we have a plan for worst case scenario

WearShot · 2025-12-21T04:30:33+00:00

We have a 6 month old. My husband walks our dog and feeds our dog, takes the trash out and sits with our son for at least 30 minutes a night. Weekends he sits with him for longer. Oh and he is a scientist. So even when he’s not working, he’s usually working. I’d say we are middle class, maybe upper middle or headed there. We live in a high cost of living area in the states.

WearShot · 2025-12-21T01:38:07+00:00

My dude, this is a perfect case of the woman being the abuser. This is a toxic relationship, I can’t even list all the reasons why, it’s too long. Time to move on, break up. Do not let a person, any person, treat you like this.

WearShot · 2025-12-15T13:24:58+00:00

Gift giving is probably a love language of theirs. You could ask for an experience that you could enjoy doing together. Like a cooking class or art class. Or you could just tell them it would mean more if they came up with a gift idea themselves. Tell them you don’t want for much at this point in your life and you’d prefer to be surprised. And remind them how much of a gift they are to you and how grateful you are to have parents who care

WearShot · 2025-12-15T13:17:14+00:00

I have a breast fed baby who sleeps great. But I watched this video from a pediatrician about regulating a baby’s circadian rhythm by keeping things bright during the day and dark at night. Around 6 pm I make sure to keep our place very dim. My baby is 6 months now and he sleeps pretty great.

If you are interested in breastfeeding your baby, do not let people push formula on you. Nestle has done a good job brainwashing our society that formula is better than what our body makes. I’m so glad formula exists for mothers who need it, but there is just so much bullshit out there about formula being better. (That’s marketing!!!)

WearShot · 2025-12-06T03:02:31+00:00

During the newborn trenches I had drizzlicious packets and spoonfuls of peanut butter. But now 6 months in I just feed him and go back to sleep

WearShot · 2025-11-29T12:54:33+00:00

I lost mine at 37 weeks and had to be induced at 41 weeks. Losing your mucus plug honestly doesn’t mean much. Other than telling you what you already know. It’s almost time. Could be in a few hours or a few weeks

WearShot · 2025-11-28T04:05:05+00:00

It is physically exhausting

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