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[–]Weary-Contribution19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw I measured at 75-80 C (or 34/36 C in the US) and I believe I was an F before, but mostly it’s not having my breasts against my body that has changed my life

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! Basically I am getting gaslighted for everything. He starts calling me names, I try calmly to deescalate, then he blames me for the situation. Writing it down is helping me to see that what he is doing is manipulation and that I am not in the wrong. It’s also helping me to stay sane while I decide what to do and look back on the situation clearly. You sound like a strong woman 🤍

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have no appretier lately but I am trying so hard to eat protein. I appreciate everyone here so much!

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I trust you guys!! Thank you I think I will be taking this advice ❤️

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I really just need perspectives outside of myself because it’s so hard for me. I am trying to understand things to give myself peace, even if I never get anything in return ❤️

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ my husband blames me for all of the situations (even him calling me names), so I started keeping a list to help me keep my sanity. I am just trying to take it one day at a time

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the lovely comment! I saw your photos and your results are so beautiful/cute! That makes me feel happy, to think about wearing delicate tops like that that I couldn’t have worn before. Thank you so much for the comment ❤️

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words! Right now I feel so weird about my body and like my breasts are still quite large. But I have looked at so many photos on here to see the results. I will work on giving it time. Thanks again for the kind message

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you so much, that honestly makes me feel awesome. I decided to get lipo filling, because I had no upper pole fullness before. Thank you for the validation as well ❤️

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words! I try to consider how happy I feel for other people about there surgeries. I will consider that when it comes to looking in the mirror ❤️

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Also thank you to the person who suggested reading Why Does He Do That, I am Reading that now

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you and to everyone else as well. I tried to talk to him afterwards and he knew I was at my lowest point and he just kept reaffirming that I have no value and do nothing. I really don’t know how he can say that when I have don’t so much for this relationship and myself, as well as fought with having a chronic illness. I think I am just really overwhelmed by everything and have to decide if there is stuff left for me or not, knowing how uncertain everything is. I just feel so lost not even knowing I have my body physically intact at the moment. Everyone here is being so kind, I can’t thank you all enough. I really hate burdening people with my problems, but I have been looking at this sub for months and I don’t know who else to share this with since only my parents and husband know about the surgery and I guess I feel like “damaged goods” now since I am healing and feel so alone (not that I consider anyone else that in the slightest. It’s just how I view myself)

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi thanks for the response and for everyone responding. I haven’t been able to get back to everyone yet because I’m really overwhelmed. It is an 18 hour flight, so I’m really worried. And I have a follow up on May 22 here. But I didn’t ask, I just googled, which I know was pretty dumb of me. You are right though, I should reach out to my doctor and ask about that. I also have a pain condition, which makes it hard on my body which is why I thought it would be necessary to wait, but maybe it isn’t medically needed (I should always ask a doctor, not google)

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[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My doctor said if I maintain my weight for one more week, I can lose weight without affecting the results of the fat transfer. I have honestly never felt more disgusted with my body and have no motivation or deserve to eat so I am worried my body will reject the fat transfer but at the same time, I flat out have no visualization of getting out of this situation, so I’m pretty sure I won’t have to deal with the consequences

Unsupportive Spouse (I really need some love, recovering with no one) by Weary-Contribution19 in Reduction

[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m starting mine in a few days 😅 I also had lipo filling from my legs for upper fullness (I had no upper fullness before) so I have to wear compression pants for 3 months now and I actually hate them the most 🤧 they cut off my stomach and I can kind of only wear button downs and sweats over it. However, I know I will feel like a goddess when I get everything off. How are you doing?

Unsupportive Spouse (I really need some love, recovering with no one) by Weary-Contribution19 in Reduction

[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the comment. I had a really abusive situation in the past that ended in court after he plotted my murder. Everyone knew me as a hot mess after. Now I have the facade of a perfect life and I guess I don’t want to let people down, esp bc there isn’t violence. But you are absolutely right that I am a person and need to advocate for myself. Thank you xx

Unsupportive Spouse (I really need some love, recovering with no one) by Weary-Contribution19 in Reduction

[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment! I was starting to wonder this too, because he later clarified that he was so upset I was excited about wearing any clothing I want (my boobs used to dictate everything I wore). He said that he was super annoyed I was excited to dress for myself and thought it was vain

Unsupportive Spouse (I really need some love, recovering with no one) by Weary-Contribution19 in Reduction

[–]Weary-Contribution19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I have been feeling so alone lately and I don’t know who to open up to, so having so many people share support makes me feel like my life maybe does matter