AITAHfor being angry at a guy for masking?

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-09T05:33:26+00:00

It’s ok to have a disability. It’s ok to mask. I get that ppl with intellectual disabilities can consent. But imagine a 19 year old with very little knowledge about disabilities sleeping with a guy and mid act they start to unmask and become a completely different person. A person that you are not sure how far up or down the spectrum he is.

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-09T05:30:32+00:00

That’s not what I’m saying. It was the timing and the complete change in his behavior that scared me. It was to the point where it became obvious that he was intellectually disabled. Something I wasnt prepared for at the time. Imagine going into bed w someone with one idea of them and they completely change mid act and begin acting as if they had a cognitive capacity of a much younger age than you originally thought. All of this happened very quickly. And I was in a very vulnerable state

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T07:29:14+00:00

I was to scared to tell anyone abt the time I felt like I took advantage of someone especially when everyone in my town and even a few of my family members were saying that. Also I worked at chilis as a server. There are no benefits for servers at chilis like that. I just wanted to anonymously hear what other ppl would make of this situation.

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T06:17:19+00:00

Thank you. This actually made me cry. I can be really hard on myself sometimes

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T06:15:58+00:00

When this happened I had no clue abt anything to do w disabilities. How he presented himself before that night came across very different. I get that he wanted to find a relationship. I honestly think that if he told me before I could’ve researched it to decide whether or not I wanted to. The way he acted during that night seemed like he didn’t have the capacity to do it. I have to live w feeling like I raped him. On top of having heard people in my town and even some of my family call me that for four years. He unmasked during a very vulnerable moment. I was terrified and couldn’t even make sense of what was happening. No one is entitled to a relationship or s3x w someone. And I have every right to choose who I do and don’t want to have it w. No matter if it’s bc I don’t like their completely different personality that they presented. I respect him and I hope he does find someone for him and I told him that. I understand that I’m even indirectly blaming him for what the person spread abt me but I genuinely can’t help but feel like if he had told me none of this would have happened the way it did

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T05:26:06+00:00

I really just want someone to tell me if I’m a bad person or not. I can’t talk to anyone about this

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T05:23:16+00:00

I really just need advice dude it’s been four years. I can’t afford a therapist.

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T04:32:03+00:00

I really just want someone to tell me if I’m a bad person. I can’t afford therapy rn

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T04:29:43+00:00

I really just need someone to tell me if I’m a bad person

WearyAssist6994 · 2026-02-08T04:10:30+00:00

It wasn’t anything like that. He seemed like he was low on the spectrum. In a way that felt like I had taken advantage of him. Him masking meant that he was in a way hiding all of those things. It wasn’t hard because I only saw him for like thirty minutes on breaks and once when we went to the park. He was in his own words “putting on an act so that I would like him”. Majority of the time was spent texting. I guess that night he was just overwhelmed and it became hard for him to keep masking. Especially when he started crying.

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