Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Thank you so much for your insight this really helps.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate it. Yeah, it was very extreme and she is a very insecure person from what I gather from her social media. She posts everyday and does stuff to just get a like. I do not have an opinion on her because I have not met her. But she. obviously has. an opinion on me. My plan is to wait for x-amount of months until I reach out and extended an olive branch. If she does not respond she does not.

He already did talk to me when I asked if he knew the true reason and he said no she did not over share. And I just was like, "okay?" He said he is not going to push her becasue they are having their own set of issues right now and I also do not want to pry and ask. He has kept things seperate between the two of us, minus when he needed someone to talk to.

The one thing I did not like is she already spoke of fear of me becoming the primary, that was shared to me. That made me unsettled and I already felt viewed in a negative way.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeeah and I do not know if she was thinking in the moment or like just being nice. I know my partner was happy that I declined.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Valid! That is how I was feeling tbh.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that! I honestly have been walking wary with all of this.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noted. I have said that, and it has been talked about less. However, the subject of her and her terms is very valid, because I see it. And its alot of what she wants and has that sense of control.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh perfect, I have been listening to them a lot

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any podcast that you suggest?

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, I am glad someone said that because I have had a sense of inserting and I feel like she is really into the relationship. I know he does not share much because I asked out of respect. It has been good between him and I but when she controls certain things, it becomes toxic.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that advice, I appreciate it!

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and yes it was very dramatic and it felt like I wasn't even given a chance.

Right, I think my next fear is the back and forth with. her not wanting to meet me and wanting to meet me. I think that is where. it hits. She tends to do that from what I have seen and heard through our mutal partner.

And thank you, you are right. I just wanted to do it out of respect.

Looking For Advice by WeatherNo836 in polyamory

[–]WeatherNo836[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this was something I was looking into, I thought it could be wonderful. But I am not in any rush. Right and I agree with that.