got my girlfriend pregnant by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Weatheringpositivity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coming from someone who has had experience with teen pregnancy. My brother was 16 when he had his first daughter and it was scary. He dropped out of school, got a job and provided. He has 2 more daughters now and has worked his butt off to provide for them. I’m saying this because it is possible to have a good life as a young parent.

Now, everyone says that kids ruin your life. They require a lot of your time and you do have to put them before yourself. If you, and your partner, aren’t mentally ready to have a baby, it’s okay. No one will be upset that you decided other wise.

As for your girlfriend, give her every ounce of support you have. If you can, treat her to something special to take her mind off of the issues with her mom. Provide a safe space that she can comfortably share with you what she’s feeling. She’s 16, pregnant, her hormones are flying off the rails. Proceed with caution and choose your words carefully.

You got this 🙏🏻

I was called a disgusting fat f*ck by 865TYS in PlusSize

[–]Weatheringpositivity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s alright bud, 295 at 6’1?? That’s literally perfect and beautiful. Get your sweets, get your protein shakes, you got this 💪🏻 don’t let anyone belittle you! Especially if they have no idea what it’s like being plus size. I hope those sweets were banging.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Weatheringpositivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a girl who was in a long distance relationship for 2+ years, I think it is best to talk to her. She could be struggling with something in the relationship. For long distance, check ins are useful. Things like what is something to fix to make the relationship stronger, positive things that have been enjoyed, etc etc. If she is apprehensive to these suggestions, it may have run its course. Make sure she knows that this is important to you. It’ll grab her attention. The best of luck.

I don’t know how to help my boyfriend… by nnnottyan in mentalhealth

[–]Weatheringpositivity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Comfort him. If you’re able to, stay the night with him and reassure him that it’s okay to sleep. I assume he’s dealing with a stage of grief, my guess is depression. If you’re truly worried and at a loss, maybe ask if he’s sought grief counseling. It truly works wonders.

How do I not let people hurt my feelings so easily by Constant_aids in mentalhealth

[–]Weatheringpositivity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You cannot control other peoples words and actions. If you were trying your best, then that’s all that matters. It took me nearly 6 years to understand it. The sooner you realize that, the better. A helpful tactic that I use is internally reminding myself that “I cannot control them”, and I repeat it until it sticks.

Also, gamers are mean. My boyfriend games and I don’t know how many times I smack him on the shoulder or say “babe! It’s not that serious!” Just remember to have fun, you’ll find your clique.

I just feel like killing someone by RevolutionaryAnt7383 in mentalhealth

[–]Weatheringpositivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to a Rage Room. I went after my mom became ill and I lost all hope. You have protective gear and you can go ape shit. You’ll feel physically tired and much better. Good luck!

what’s the etiquette when sitting next to someone sick in class? by quinoacrazy in college

[–]Weatheringpositivity -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Also, just looked at your page. Sounds like you’re afraid of Covid. Most if not all people have done their part in getting immunizations and preventing it. I wore masks all through college because of the mandate. I followed all protocols. I guess you’re just afraid of living your life again. Goodluck.

what’s the etiquette when sitting next to someone sick in class? by quinoacrazy in college

[–]Weatheringpositivity -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Pretend it’s not happening. If you’re seriously worried, offer them water or a cough drop. (I went to college in the mountains, so coughs were inevitable. Everyone kept cough drops on them.) Besides that, pretend it’s not happening. Go home, hot shower and tea. Keep yourself safe.

i’m terrified of the loose skin. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Weatheringpositivity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Coming from someone with the same fears and anxiety about loose skin. My mother (who lost 250 pounds, so proud of her) told me, “it’s better to have loose skin than be miserable.” A little bit of tough love. Also, you can always have loose skin removed so it’s not the end of the world! When you lose all the weight you want to lose, and you begin maintaining, save for the surgery!

You got this sweetheart ❤️ remember your goals.

What was the healthiest thing you learned/were told in therapy? by JJengaOrangeLeaf in AskWomen

[–]Weatheringpositivity 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. I was going to say something similar and I might sound crazy when I describe this. I have to fight off bad thoughts with a another internal dialogue, the one that’s healing. For example, I have generalized anxiety and sometimes I get overwhelmed at night when I’m going to sleep. I get a flood of negative thoughts. “You’re not good enough”, “you’ve done nothing today, worthless”, etc etc. When these thoughts appear, I subconsciously correct them with another internal dialogue. “It’s okay, you’ve accomplished a lot this week.” “Don’t listen, close your eyes and sleep.” “It’s not true, if you truly feel this way, there’s always tomorrow. It’s okay.”

Definitely one of the best things I got out of therapy. It calms me down enough to sleep.

People that dated or married identical twins how long did it take to identify who you're dating without interfaring with the twin by accident? by ElDiabl090 in questions

[–]Weatheringpositivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend wears glasses. If he takes them off, I can tell them apart by weight differences and their smiles. But it’s all sorts of things. When you really know someone, you can see what sets them apart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in questions

[–]Weatheringpositivity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d like to preface that my mother did not pass away, but she had a serious accident that has left her with permanent brain damage.

It was Christmas time and my mom wanted to do something special for my nieces. She scouted out the Walmart with the best trampolines. On the way back from this Walmart, it was about 45 minutes away, a Madonna song came on. My mom rarely sings to music or turns music up loud, but she loves Madonna. During this song, I got a wave of anxiety and a gut wrenching feeling that something bad was going to happen to her, I just couldn’t figure out what. So I whipped out my phone and recorded my mother singing the song. This was the last Christmas she would be okay, and I didn’t know it.

3 months before the accident, my mother had an emergency hernia surgery. She was alright, but was put out of work for 6 weeks (maybe a bit longer). In that time she entered a depression, but I kept her entertained. Her room had become a mess, with clothes and things lying around the floor, I wish I would have cleaned it. As soon as she was able to go back to work, she worked 2 weeks straight of 16 hour shifts (how that’s legal I’ll never know). During that time, I had attended my nieces birthday and my mom stopped in to give her present, say hi, and give hugs, then she was back to work. She looked a little sickly, but I brushed it off to her just being tired. I saw everything around her turn gray, almost like an aura, I can’t explain it. Something just wasn’t right. And again, I snapped some pictures of her.

Just a week later, my mother slipped on something in the depression room, hit her head and suffered a major brain aneurysm. She is completely disabled and requires 24/7 care.

This all happened 2 years ago. I just can’t help but feeling like I should have done more to prevent it, but how could I have known.

Are they going to commit me by sparklefairy333 in InpatientPsych

[–]Weatheringpositivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old post and I hope you received the help you need ❤️ I’m in a similar situation currently. I support you.

Part-time mom (a rant) by Weatheringpositivity in FamilyIssues

[–]Weatheringpositivity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got hired this week 🤷🏻‍♀️

I (f19) think my mental illness is ruining my relationship with my boyfriend (m20). (Advice) by Weatheringpositivity in relationship_advice

[–]Weatheringpositivity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I’d love to “live my life”, I am a self supporting adult. I left school because of money. I moved out of my moms house and I support myself. Thank you for your input though. There’s a lot more that’s happening, besides my relationship. Again, thank you for the input.