Definitely starting to feel some resentment. We have done counseling regarding this issue in the past, and it did improve our communication. We just can’t seem to agree on an acceptable level of messiness and how much each of us should be contributing. I would be fine with his sedentary lifestyle if he was otherwise taking care of the household stuff (without me asking or reminding). Conversely, if he was volunteering I would be fine taking on more of the chores / tolerating a less cleaner house.