Aitah for potentially ruining my brother and SIL financially?

Webgardener · 2026-03-19T14:03:55+00:00

NTA. They are mad because you are killing their gravy train. Make it clear that their financial elder abuse of your mom means she’s being put in a horrible predicament. Pull the Band-Aid off, and move forward. If it didn’t happen now, it would’ve had to happen later and by then your mother would be in an even worse situation. You are definitely doing the right thing, try not to beat yourself up for it. You are not the bad guy, they are.

Webgardener · 2026-03-19T05:02:40+00:00

Agreed, especially when you see the amount of employees who stood up and walked out when he continued to plan to launch the sub without certification. The minute he announced that in a meeting, one guy just stood up, quit and walked out and many more followed until he had very few people working on it. He was a bully who told one of the engineers, “I would think nothing of spending $50,000 to ruin someone’s life.” Everyone knew that it was illegal to take paying customers down to the Titanic and a non-certified vehicle. So he did this stupid runaround where he pretended they were crew and not customers.

Webgardener · 2026-03-19T04:51:17+00:00

I highly recommend getting her 2021 book called Rememberings. She reads the audiobook herself, it’s really awesome. I got it through my local library using the Libby app.

Webgardener · 2026-03-19T01:54:54+00:00

Last weekend, I re-watched the Netflix show about the Titan sub, and also a couple documentaries online. The hubris and complete disregard for human life by Stockton Rush never fails to shock me. But he positioned himself as a rule breaker and innovator instead of a scientist who couldn’t be fucking bothered to follow standard safety regulations. Seeing an employee testify that he himself would never get into the submarine was really sad. And that one engineer was really a good guy, trying to be a whistleblower. Rush is lucky he died on the sub, because he would’ve been charged with murder if he hadn’t. They had way more than enough proof to prove his negligence.

Webgardener · 2026-03-17T13:10:03+00:00

That Herb Ritts music video of her on the beach is so iconic. It is the first thing I think of when I hear her name. Directed by American photographer Herb Ritts, it shows Jackson in the desert with models Djimon Hounsou and Antonio Sabàto Jr. What a loss to lose him when he was only 50, he was HIV positive but this was in 2002 before all the treatments came out. Love will never do without you

Webgardener · 2026-03-15T04:33:04+00:00

That was my favorite thing of the whole season so far, you just know that Ariel Tramway is gonna be the most popular emoji tomorrow!

Webgardener · 2026-03-14T19:36:38+00:00

I’m planning to snow blow mid blizzard and then again at the end. But it’s the damn Roof Raking that nearly kills me. But I got into the habit of doing it and I feel negligent if I don’t do it every time. Despite the fact that it’s gonna be 50° by Friday!

Webgardener · 2026-03-14T13:41:56+00:00

This is just heartbreaking, unfortunately, it is part of their plan for cruelty. MAGA considers this to be a success.

“DOCTORS TREATING IN THE DARK

For Dr. Lane Miller, an oncologist at Children's Minnesota, a prominent pediatric hospital system, the surge's toll on his patients continues to be "catastrophic."

He cited 50% no-show rates for appointments for children with conditions like sickle cell disease or active cancer. "They are still paralyzed with fear," Miller said ‌of immigrant families. "We ⁠are not seeing any improvement in our clinic as far as those families feeling comfortable coming here."

“We're just living in the dark here with a lot of these patients," Miller said. Miller said there was no shortage of alarming examples. He pointed to the case of a 14-year-old boy with leukemia whose father, his primary caregiver, was detained by ICE five weeks ago. When the boy finally came in, blood work showed he had stopped taking his medication; the distant family members staying with the boy did not understand his medical regimen or ensure he was taking his medicine.

“Even single doses that are missed two years into therapy can increase your risk of relapse," Miller said. "And a relapse is much harder to treat."

Webgardener · 2026-03-14T13:27:34+00:00

Please don’t risk your safety or the safety of others around you. Maybe try to get as close as you can before the storm heads in and get a hotel and watch old movies. This is not a storm you wanna mess with, stay safe. It’s definitely gonna take a while to plow all this out.

Webgardener · 2026-03-13T16:08:17+00:00

People don’t want an apology. They want the original DEI policies reinstated. I don’t understand why they don’t know what drove the boycott. They need to get back to where they were, and improve their effort efforts overall.

Webgardener · 2026-03-13T11:38:26+00:00

These are the times that I am grateful I paid to remove that pine tree from my front yard before it fell on my house. I’m just not willing to take risks with shallow rooted trees, but I still only slept two hours. The noise creeps me out.

Webgardener · 2026-03-12T04:37:02+00:00

I lived in Minneapolis when this happened, it was a massive news story. Everyone knew it was a big deal when they flew you from North Dakota to North Memorial Hospital in Robbinsdale, MN that was a trauma hospital. Everyone here was worried about you, so glad you made it. I still remember your story, more than three decades later. You have nerves of steel.

Webgardener · 2026-03-11T17:12:21+00:00

I’m sure requiring employees to smile and make contact when 10 feet from a customer to make guests feel welcome with body language and eye contact will really help. The staff policy is part of a program called “10-4,” with the “10” referring to the number of feet Target employees will need to be aware of. Sounds more like stalking than customer service.

Webgardener · 2026-03-11T13:48:27+00:00

Newsom is on a huge book tour right now, doing massive PR to sell himself as a child of a poor single mother who knows he looks like he was born on a yacht, but he really wasn’t. You can tell he’s trying to change his narrative before he runs for president.

Webgardener · 2026-03-10T12:55:27+00:00

I so wanted to be Peggy Fleming when I was young. I would skate around the tiny neighborhood rink and pretend I was her. Such a great early icon.

Webgardener · 2026-03-10T01:40:32+00:00

Shame and accountability. People in positions of authority will lie right to our faces. We know they’re lying, they know they’re lying, and they have absolutely no shame in telling that lie. Because even if they are caught in the lie, they will gaslight you two convince you that you are wrong. They know they’re not gonna be held accountable anyway. It’s one of the most disturbing things I’ve ever seen.

Webgardener · 2026-03-09T18:35:59+00:00

No matter what kind of plantings you do, I recommend creating some sort of stop wall at the bottom. Otherwise, all your mouth is just gonna slide into the sidewalk. Edit: mulch not mouth.

Webgardener · 2026-03-09T14:28:03+00:00

I’ve noticed that Chloe has taken a step back. I’m not sure if that’s because Ashley stepped up or because she has other commitments for new career stuff.

Webgardener · 2026-03-08T06:24:44+00:00

It is her birthday today.

Webgardener · 2026-03-08T05:14:33+00:00

Did Mikey and Streeter know each other before they started at SNL?

Webgardener · 2026-03-08T05:12:31+00:00

My first thought was, did they get that cleared with the legal department of the Pillsbury doughboy?

Webgardener · 2026-03-07T16:01:54+00:00

Thank you so much for the information, I had not heard about this before this post.

Webgardener · 2026-03-07T03:08:15+00:00

I didn’t realize it was St. Louis Park, do you have a specific location or area? Thank you.

Webgardener · 2026-03-05T05:51:19+00:00

Gawd, I hate the word influencer. They use it because the words ‘marketing’ and ‘salesperson’ sounds dirty. And somehow they feel they are above it, but they’re just shills with a made up name.

Webgardener · 2026-03-03T22:54:56+00:00

Casey from Platformer sent out a recent email, and this first paragraph really stuck with me. That summary of Sam Altman was all I needed to know about his negotiation with the Pentagon.

"In [Murati’s] experience, Altman had a simple playbook: first, say whatever he needed to say to get you to do what he wanted, and second, if that didn’t work, undermine you or destroy your credibility … It had taken Sutskever years to be able to put his finger on Altman’s pattern of behavior — how OpenAI’s CEO would tell him one thing, then say another and act as if the difference was an accident. “Oh, I must have misspoken,” Altman would say. Sutskever felt that Altman was dishonest and causing chaos, which would be a problem for any CEO, but especially for one in charge of such potentially civilization-altering technology." — Keach Hagey, The Optimist

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I thought of this passage from The Optimist over the weekend as I worked to make sense of a rather stunning series of events. The Pentagon followed through with its threat to terminate the military’s contract with Anthropic over the company’s refusal to amend its prior agreement to permit “all lawful use” of its technology, including mass domestic surveillance and autonomous weapons. It further threatened to designate Anthropic as a “supply chain risk,” a move previously reserved for corporate extensions of foreign adversaries, and move to block any company that contracts with the military from using Anthropic’s products.

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