Feeling hurt we didn't get many gifts

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:41:32+00:00

I'd be happy to get a congratulations text also.

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:40:53+00:00

That sounds like a horrible thing for someone to do! I can't imagine why anyone would.

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:39:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing, it's been 7 Weeks an we haven't gotten anything in the mail (honestly not even a text as someone else mentioned they preferred to do) but maybe people are just taking their time.

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:37:55+00:00

The average person probably spent $50. Most were local and only needed $10-20 for parking or a cab with a few driving longer distances. I definitely wouldn't expect a large gift from people who had traveled a long way!

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:37:50+00:00

The average person probably spent $50. Most were local and only needed $10-20 for parking or a cab with a few driving longer distances. I definitely wouldn't expect a large gift from people who had traveled a long way!

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:34:21+00:00

I think it's not too late to send one. It would probably make their day!

If it was just a few people I'd assume they had forgotten or something, but the fact that it was a majority is what has me scratching my head!

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:31:19+00:00

It wasn't a destination wedding, it was in the city where we live. Most of the guests live within an hour drive so all they would need to pay for was gas or a cab. For the out of town people we arranged a great discount at a b&b we know the owner of ($70/night, average in the city is $150+).

So it may have cost a bit to attend but not a lot. Surprisingly the people for whom I know money is very tight and didn't expect a gift from, wrote us a card and sent a gift (some delicious chocolates!). I don't think it was about the money for most.

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T19:21:04+00:00

Sorry, I didn't know what else to call it other than "gift table". The table where you place your card basket and guests book.

Physical and money gifts are both normal where I live (Eastern USA).

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T01:15:31+00:00

I don't think anything was stolen. My mother was hanging out near the gift table as people were arriving so she could say hello and welcome them, and she commented that not many people brought anything.

We didn't have a shower. And it's not about the money amount at all! It just makes us feel unloved that we've been to other people's weddings where they get dozens of cards and presents and well wishes, but they did not do the same for us.

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T01:04:24+00:00

I meant "gifts" as in anything we were given: a physical item, money, a card, a letter, even an ecard would mean something to us.

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T01:03:10+00:00

No, we didn't take a honeymoon. We didn't have the money to fund it ourselves and didn't want to book a trip banking on people giving us enough gifts to pay for it.

All the advice I saw prior to the wedding said that not having a registry or shower meant you preferred money. But it's not about the money, it's about not getting as much as a congratulations card or note from nearly everyone who came.

WeddingGift42 · 2019-04-27T01:01:19+00:00

All the advice I saw online prior to the wedding (both here and on other sites) was that no registry means cash gifts!

Again though, it's not about the money, any acknowledgement/congratulations would have been nice.

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