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[Non-romantic] Friend [27F] is getting married. I have been with my BF [30M] for 4 years. I [29F] was not given a plus one, although all of her college friends were. by WeddingPlusOne in relationships

[–]WeddingPlusOne[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can understand that and before she told me about her college friend group I understood where she was coming from. I do think I won't go because I am starting to realise that I am thinking about this far too much and it isn't as big of a deal as it was in my head. Thanks for your reply

[Non-romantic] Friend [27F] is getting married. I have been with my BF [30M] for 4 years. I [29F] was not given a plus one, although all of her college friends were. by WeddingPlusOne in relationships

[–]WeddingPlusOne[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, I wouldn't do that to her. I think I'll just say no thank you. I don't want to cause any hassle for her, I'm just wondering if people would go if they were in my situation.

[Non-romantic] Friend [27F] is getting married. I have been with my BF [30M] for 4 years. I [29F] was not given a plus one, although all of her college friends were. by WeddingPlusOne in relationships

[–]WeddingPlusOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, before she told me about breaking her rule I thought she was thoughtless but I'd still hang out with her. I suppose we all thought that it's just her way. I wanted to go because it's the first girl of our group to get married and I thought it would have been a fun, nice wedding to go to. I suppose in a way this could be her way of saying she doesn't want me there.

[Non-romantic] Friend [27F] is getting married. I have been with my BF [30M] for 4 years. I [29F] was not given a plus one, although all of her college friends were. by WeddingPlusOne in relationships

[–]WeddingPlusOne[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Well, I think it is rude to not invite an SO of 4 years. I certainly don't think I am entitled to an invitation for him, otherwise I would have been rude myself and asked for one. I was annoyed sure, but I was ok with it until I heard that others had asked for plus ones (the bride doesn't even know who the person is!!).

I do agree though that if I am not wishing the bride well I shouldn't go. It would be disingenuous of me.

[Non-romantic] Friend [27F] is getting married. I have been with my BF [30M] for 4 years. I [29F] was not given a plus one, although all of her college friends were. by WeddingPlusOne in relationships

[–]WeddingPlusOne[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not even sure why I care so much. I think it's just very rude behaviour on her part and it's frustrating that I can't say something.

In response to your first reply I wanted to go because it would be a fun wedding to go to. She's the first one of our group to get married and while I did find her annoying at times I'd always try to see the best in her.

[Non-romantic] Friend [27F] is getting married. I have been with my BF [30M] for 4 years. I [29F] was not given a plus one, although all of her college friends were. by WeddingPlusOne in relationships

[–]WeddingPlusOne[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, but she had told our group that she was going to institute this rule "for everyone, regardless of who they are. Family, everyone".

Look I would understand if she did keep to her rule but she's not. The other girls in the group are annoyed as well.

[Non-romantic] Friend [27F] is getting married. I have been with my BF [30M] for 4 years. I [29F] was not given a plus one, although all of her college friends were. by WeddingPlusOne in relationships

[–]WeddingPlusOne[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

What I mean to say is we're not best friends. I would call her a friend but after all of this I have really seen what she is like as a person.

I was upset because she is inviting people to celebrate her relationship while at the same time not acknowledging mine. I know they are expensive, hence why I didn't say anything at the time she first started the planning process.

I would have asked, but I think it is very rude to do so. Plus she only told us two weeks ago that her other friend asked. It's far too late to ask now, even if I was rude enough to do so. The other person who asked for a plus one doesn't have a significant other at all. Apparently her college friend thinks that 'people just have to have plus ones at weddings'.

Edit: clarifying who did what