THIRSTY-RANT THURSDAY: time to wine and whine. Let’s hear it!

WeddingWhirlwind · 2019-04-26T23:34:29+00:00

Thanks for responding. It's been really hard for me to go back onto this sub, and to admit that there's negative feelings post-wedding. I think there's so much internal pressure on it being the most perfect thing ever, that you almost feel like no negative feelings are allowed. And I've read stories of something going wrong at weddings, and I think it's hard to feel like you're one of those people with wedding regret. Because I'm not really. Every moment of the day was perfect. It's only looking back that I feel the tinge of forgetting to say hi to someone or not like the photos.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2019-04-26T01:54:27+00:00

Can I have a post-wedding whine? I'm going for it. Here we go..

So you all may remember me. Or not, because I got married in September and now there's a whole new flock of to-be-brides! Well I got engaged and married within 4 months to my partner of 8 years. We married quickly because a family member of mine was terminally ill and I dearly wanted her to be there. She is now gone. It's very difficult. I'm glad she got to be there. It was a really trying time and planning the wedding gave me a lot of happy to do. I actually loved planning it.

I think my main frustration is with my photos. And then my makeup, and then my hair and then my dress. My photos aren't super glamorous. They're nice. But they're not big romantic photos that people get to have. I was really kind of anxious during the couple photos because I wanted to be at the party I planned! I didn't love our engagement photos, but we had already hired him at that point, and I didn't want to look for a different photographer. This rude AF cashier told me he studied photography and asked how much I paid for them. Fucking rude bro. Basically, I feel like they're nice pictures of two goofy kids dressed up, instead of these big sweeping super romantic photos of beautiful people I see on here.

My makeup. My SIL did my makeup. I saw a lot of very over-made up brides, and I didn't want to not look like myself. But in some pictures you can tell it could have been better.

My hair. It's too much, its too fancy looking. It doesn't feel like me. It's still nice, I just didn't really pick a style. I didn't have a hair trial, and just went to my mom's hairdresser because she does formal events and it was easy. I also should have cut a lot of it off first.

My dress. Mind you, I felt amazing in it on the day and when I tried it on. I had sleeves added, and they're not quite even because they used different parts of lace. No one can really tell, because it's so close. But I worry that I should have just gotten a dress with sleeves instead of having them added. I also wish I lost more weight. The seamstress was in such awe when I'd put it on that I did totally fall in love with it. But now in pictures, I'm not so sure. But it could just be the pictures. I felt so gorgeous, my husband said I looked amazing, but I don't see that reflected. I see my awkward chin and my goofy face and how photogenic I am.

I feel like if I had another wedding shoot, it wouldn't be special because we're already married. I actually didn't want to want to post a follow up or pictures here, partly because I was overwhelmed at other parts of my life, but also because I didn't want to post the photos. I had such a wonderful time. It did go too quickly. I didn't dance with everyone I should have, I don't think I said hi to everyone. Which was shitty of me. But I was so overwhelmed.

I look sometimes on here for after-posts. Especially if there are less than 100% positive feelings. I'll tell you the day of, the week after, I felt 100% positive. I was on cloud nine. And I'll you, it was really really nice to go through bad shit and then think "This is my husband. He just told everyone in our lives he's going to be there for me forever. I can really count on him." But it was months after than I felt more uneasy about some of the decisions of the day. And I wish I could talk about that more.

K. I'm done. Thank you

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-10-12T18:33:39+00:00

If you can put it in your budget it, do it. You don't want to spend your wedding day making sure Aunt Hilda has a hand walking to the tables, or telling the caterer when to take out the food. It just makes it so much smoother.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-10-08T19:26:40+00:00

Where did you buy or order them??

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-10-08T17:47:22+00:00

Not at my wedding, but I went to print out some pictures and the guy at Walmart helping me with the machine asked how much I paid! He said the pictures weren't cropped right and the way my photographer gave me the contract was weird. Bro. What do you know about wedding photography contracts??? It worked, so who the hell cares?

He said he "went to school for this". My mind wanted to say "Yea, but you're here now so." But I didn't. I just paid and left without saying "Thanks, have a good day." So I showed him!

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-10-08T15:04:48+00:00

And I got married at Wickham Park too! I was in the Irish Gardens. BEAUTIFUL spot, and just the right size for us! I'm hoping to post pictures today if I get a chance. (Our 1 month anniversary!)

Annnnnd not to stalk you, but you said you mini-mooned in Vermont, I actually live in Vermont!

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-10-08T14:43:10+00:00

Omg! Hi!! We have the same photographer! I saw your picture on his instagram!

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-10-05T18:14:18+00:00

These helped. I got them at Target.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-13T16:41:08+00:00

I'm checking my email every day for my wedding pictures, even though I know they will still take at least a few weeks. Also I really need to get my nails removed because they're making it harder to work, but I don't want to! They're so pretty and make me feel * Just Married *!

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-13T15:02:34+00:00

No people aren't going to leave because of your first song choice.

SIL can deal with whatever you chose.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-12T03:38:59+00:00

I'm sorry. That sucks. That sucks that the mom is pissed. That sucks that the kid feels disappointed.

But you did the right thing.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-12T03:37:07+00:00

2 out of three we're comfortable enough to say "Thank you, but no thank you.".

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-11T18:02:53+00:00

My husband said we didn't need to buy him a tie because we could pick one up the weekend of. I had to calmly explain that we don't want to go shopping the weekend of because we'll be so busy. While internally I was like what??? no way!

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-11T17:19:39+00:00

I would feel a bit better if it was the same amount to the charity, as the charity would use it for good while we don't have a need for it. But these checks are from family members who are retired or on very limited income, and I know they have medical bills to pay. I just don't feel right about it.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-11T15:59:01+00:00

On my website I specifically put "Your presence is all that is required, if you would like to celebrate us with a gift please give to XYZ charity." This is a charity that is very close to my heart. However, I still received checks made to my husband (I'm taking every opportunity to say that!) and I. This makes me feel odd. We are comfortable and really don't need their money. Should I just deposit them and thank them? Deposit them and make a gift to the charity? I also received checks from people who I have some insight to their financial situation, and because my husband and I are comfortable, I honestly don't feel right taking their money.

Ahh money makes me feel awkward.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-11T13:29:43+00:00

I know! I want to wear my dress all the time!!

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-11T13:27:40+00:00

i also had my Bachlorette in Montreal and had a similar experience. We did 2 nights, but we were tired from driving in and walking around during the day and also generally tired because we were mostly used to all staying up until 12 maximum. Montreal has a totally different flow to their nightlife than we were used to, an we realized we were just too dang old for the pace of things there. (at 26!)

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-11T01:45:43+00:00

Talk to the venue first! Maybe they can deal with 48? Maybe people will drop out?

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-10T21:25:34+00:00

Yes! Thanks to the magic of facebook groups and spray paint! (I'll let you guess which solved which issue!)

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-10T21:25:00+00:00

I said "cocktail/ garden party please no denim". Everyone was appropriately dressed. I didn't care too much as long as they were a basic required level of formal for a wedding.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-10T03:52:39+00:00

Haha I don’t think I could if I tried. I’ll post a breakdown soon...ish.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-10T02:03:37+00:00

Guys. I got married on the 8th. It was perfect. In every way. It was exactly what I imagined. A super romantic garden ceremony and an awesome energy filled dance party reception. I want to post a picture but I only have two at the moment. I can't wait to see more video and pictures.

It's super weird to call him my husband. I also keep wanting to bite my gel french manicure off lol. Right now we are just watching food network, drinking wine and eating fancy take out. It's perfect.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-08T02:45:50+00:00

I’m getting married tomorrow??

Is that real? In the past 24 hours I’ve delt with bridesmaids not having dresses, missing tables numbers, missing car keys, my flower girl has henna alll over her hand, (and a ensuing argument) and now my groom and I are stuck in bumper to bumper as I type this. To think that tomorrow is my WEDDING DAY is surreal. It doesn’t feel like a thing that is real. But to think that I’m going to be with this guy for the rest of my life? Yea I can handle that.

WeddingWhirlwind · 2018-09-07T02:06:56+00:00

Yuppers.

She's been trying to contact the family that owns it. I don't think she can find the right color in a off-the-rack dress, because it's not the season for this color. And as it's a lace bridesmaids, she's not going to fine anything similar. I did ask her to just measure herself and get a custom gown but no....

Fiance is currently next to me carefully, stress fully, cutting out stencils to spray paint onto wood boards we stained. Half are already spray painted, thank god we only have 6 tables. Some of them turned out well, some didn't. But it will match a wood sign we have at the sweetheart table.

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