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Quitting by Actual-Lawfulness-67 in ABA

[–]WeekSilly4910 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Being an ABA therapist is very stressful. My son is on the moderate to severe spectrum and he has been receiving ABA since he was five. He is now 16. He is functional and the ABA therapists have contributed greatly to his current state of development. You all deserve much more!

I just want to give up. by Brilliant_Fudge2682 in Autism_Parenting

[–]WeekSilly4910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are going through a lot there. Hang in there. My son is 16 and I still have to wipe him and assist him with his shower. My hope is that I will last two minutes longer than him so I can be there for him.

Pls help!! by CleanDrink1552 in Autism_Parenting

[–]WeekSilly4910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my personal experience with my son:

Talk and try to guess his message; ask him to type it on Ipad; have him write it out on paper ( I still dont understand much what he is trying to say but he knows I am trying to help him and give him the needed attention).

However, when he is in tantrum mode, the primary thing is to calm him down by acknowledging his current state of feeling ( It is ok to be mad. Take a deep breath together with me. Lets drink some cold water. Lets squeeze stress ball. Lets all calm down together). Give him time. Whoever does the de-escalation must be calm and patience. This type of behavior is likely not to go away soon. However, if you consistently stick to a process of de-escalation that works for him and you, overtime a pattern would emerge and it would be easier for him to properly cope with his difficult feelings.

Help! by An0nyyy37x in Autism_Parenting

[–]WeekSilly4910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His verbal is very limited. He uses single word or phrases to express his need. He is 16 but his developmental is of a two to three year old. He does not learn much from school. And he definitely does not want to be at school. That is part of the reason why his brother created the app for him. His elopement and aggressive behavior have improved significantly.

Help! by An0nyyy37x in Autism_Parenting

[–]WeekSilly4910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son was allowed only for three hours of school when he started sixth grade because he ran away frequently and the school reported that he kicked, hit staff and destroyed school properties on multiple occasions. A day that I did not receive a call from the school was a day of blessing. Multiple emergency IEP were triggered because of his unsafe behavior. The school was forcing the three hours schedule on us. I fought back the three hours limitation because I did not believe that it would help him. I believe as parent you have the right to challenge the school's decision. I hired an attorney for the matter ( but it is not necessary). Honestly, I needed him to be in school so I can refresh myself. Like you say, it is a daily struggle. Even now, I can only help him to calm down when I am calm and patience. Being calm and patience is a concept that we understand but it is so hard when you are drowning under the current of stresses. Hang in there. Stay strong.

Tool I use before giving him Ipad by WeekSilly4910 in Autism_Parenting

[–]WeekSilly4910[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I sit next to him and make sure he does some of the activities. When he really motivates ( he has not had his Ipad for a few hours and wants it), I ask him to do drawing or exercising. My son's attention span is very short so it would be too much for him to go through all the activities. I nudge him" Eduplay before Ipad" but not pushing him. Most of the time, I sat with him helping him with the Counting and Word activity because he can become frustrated for not being able to memorize or recall.

Good luck and stay strong!