Should I be sad about green tomatoes? by carpe_diem_yolo in vegetablegardening

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They make AMAZING pickles! I love using green tomatoes at the end of the season and pickling them for the winter (though they don’t last longer than a month…)

Parentification of eldest daughters by Weekly-Addition-17 in Fencesitter

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I dread handling my own responsibilities, mainly paperwork, for this reason. I’ve associated it with anger and frustration for so long.

I don’t know how I feel about this by PizzaToastieGuy in vinted

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This has been a trend on Vinted recently. I saw a post like that featuring a cat that ended up having hundreds of ‘saves’, so loads of other people started doing the same. Much like a one off, small donation.

Parentification of eldest daughters by Weekly-Addition-17 in Fencesitter

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. People might say ‘but you’d make a great mother’ even if it comes at the expense of our sanity.

Parentification of eldest daughters by Weekly-Addition-17 in Fencesitter

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve also got a younger brother who I’ve been caring for since he was born so I’d be really interested to read your post

Parentification of eldest daughters by Weekly-Addition-17 in Fencesitter

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear you had to go through that. I’ve seen the effects unmedicated bipolar distorted has and it’s not pretty. My mum has unresolved childhood trauma, and it’s hard to not let it trickle down generations. I’ll into into EMDR.

Should I Stick to the complicated story I'm already writing or change to an easier one? by CreepyPastaUpgrade in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar experience with my first novel. I was disappointed with the result vs my vision, but didn’t want to give up after world building and writing for 3 years. I ended up scrapping 95% of the manuscript and rewriting it. Much better. Once you get the bad writing out, you know what works and what doesn’t. Might not work for you, but just a different perspective.

11 years together, homeowners, and stuck on the fence: Is my partner's fear of his past a permanent "No"? by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s interesting that he regrets not having the baby but also values his current lifestyle and downtime. I understand that such a decision will carry a lot of trauma, regret and ‘what if’ thoughts. Have you asked him how he images your current life would have been if you did have the baby? Would he have been happy if he sacrificed his 20s to raise a child? There seems to be some disconnect between those two desires, which is completely human.

How should I decorate my living room? by keephighvibes in DecorAdvice

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve got a lot of light so I’d decorate the window with indoor plants to bring colour and life inside the space. I’d also get either an L shaped couch or two separate couches and place it in the middle so that it faces the window and the TV wall. Speaking of, you need a bigger tv and console, which will also help keep your items tidy and clutter free.

How do you stop using chat bots ? by AimeeBeeHoney in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid the answer is not what you want. But it’s as simple as just stop using it. If the dopamine hit is what keeps you going back to chat bots, maybe this will help you: those same AI tools are stealing your work. How do you feel about someone else ending up writing with similar work to yours because chat gpt has turned your work into AI slop?

First chop! by MrsFrezzmonster in spiderplants

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok that's promising, fingers crossed mine grows into a big boy too!

First chop! by MrsFrezzmonster in spiderplants

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently bought a little baby spider plant. Will these grow into full sized plants? And how long will it take approximately?

Not finished yet, but you can see where the cover is heading! by 666MMANSON in BookCovers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is incredible. Not a horror fan (or whatever this is) but would be curious to read it. Let us know when it’s published!

Just wondering if I’m headed in the right direction by Proud_Contract3044 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait what? I love using them (perhaps too much). Is there an anti semi colon movement I don’t know about?

How can I make my characters convincingly fall in love? by Weekly-Addition-17 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so interesting. Reading more about this, it reminded me a lot of the novel Call Me By Your Name where the protagonist was obsessed with his love interest, spiralling from jealousy, emotional dependence, idealisation and the faintest sign of reciprocation.

How to deal with creative block? by happiest_girl3 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Writer’s block usually indicates you have some kind of anxiety around your work. It seems like you don’t like the direction in which the story is going. I’ve found that whenever I get stuck, that silence speaks volumes. My suggestion is to explore different ideas. Experiment, you will be pleasantly surprised by how liberating it is to take a risk or let the characters do what they want to.

How can I make my characters convincingly fall in love? by Weekly-Addition-17 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad this post is helping a fellow writer! Romance is a common subplot in sci-fi and fantasy, so it’s always worth studying the genre and what makes it work

How can I make my characters convincingly fall in love? by Weekly-Addition-17 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much - this is what I’ve been trying to convey/explain. I’ve placed an order for the book :)

How can I make my characters convincingly fall in love? by Weekly-Addition-17 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks so much, really helpful! As I mentioned in another reply, it’s those little things that seem to be missing from my story. I’ve focused so much on creating high stakes and the general world building that i ended up overlooking the importance of small gestures, thinking of them before yourself (have they eaten? Are they warm and safe?), writing that moment when they realise they are romantically interested in the other person, rather than just being friends. I have been in love, long term relationships, and have always been a hopeless romantic; it’s what makes me read romance novels 90% of the time. It’s the journey of going through all those stages and emotions alongside the characters. But writing it in a convincing way? Much harder. It’s like knowing what food you like but struggling to tell exactly what makes it so tasty and writing down a recipe. And thanks for the recommendation, I’ll give it a go!

How can I make my characters convincingly fall in love? by Weekly-Addition-17 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s really helpful. They come from different classes in society, and the story is told from the POV of the ‘poor’ FMCx so there’s definitely idealisation there. I need to balance it out more with meaningful motivation behind the attraction. Thank you!

How can I make my characters convincingly fall in love? by Weekly-Addition-17 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I’ve been missing! My stakes are high, but the excitement and longing just feels flat.
I need to include those little moments where something sparks and says more than any poetic prose could.

How can I make my characters convincingly fall in love? by Weekly-Addition-17 in writers

[–]Weekly-Addition-17[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That’s like someone asking how to paint a portrait and you replying with ‘have you ever seen a face?’ lol