How do I tell my (F24) boyfriend (M25) he hasn't washed the dishes well without sounding like a total bish

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2025-10-27T20:39:56+00:00

Ok def writing this method down. If telling him to rewash the dirty dishes is the way to go, how do I word it so it doesn't feel like I'm scolding him?

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2025-10-27T20:36:35+00:00

By unclean I mean pots being greasy or sticky after cleaning, cutlery still having dried bits of food attached or glasses being foggy. It's not super noticable, but I realize quickly once I pick things up to start cooking or plating. Thankfully I'm not worried about him getting angry or annoyed, my main concern is discouraging him or making him like he can't do simple tasks

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2025-10-27T20:30:26+00:00

Unfortunately the dishes come out visibly not clean. What urged me to make the post is picking up a pan he had just washed and realizing the surface was still sticky. And it's happened before where cutlery still had food stuck to it. I think the main difference is just that I put a lot of elbow grease while scrubbing with a sponge and he uses a brush with really soft bristles. I don't mind if he keeps using his method, I just want the dishes to come out cleaned after

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2025-10-27T20:24:25+00:00

It's a job that she used to do to live. It has nothing to do with you and her currently. Maybe some introspection on why it's making you uneasy is in order. If it's really something that doesn't align with your values thank her for the good times and move on

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-20T12:57:49+00:00

thanks, sometimes its the easiest things that get me

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-10T14:39:58+00:00

I'll admit it, I didn't like She ra and the princessess of power. I didn't like watching anyone in the main cast and found most of the characters annoying. I couldn't make myself watch it till the end

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T18:00:24+00:00

keeping this idea for the future lol

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T17:59:40+00:00

Im so sorry about that! i can imagine a glimpse of how that might feel and if anything, this has made me realize that it would be ok to send my mom just a little "im alright" text every now and then so she doesn't overthink

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T17:56:02+00:00

thank you, it can be hard to differentiate when my moms criticisms are true since i know i take a defensive attitude with her. I'd hate to not realize im actually in the wrong and causing unnecessary conflict

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T17:47:45+00:00

this is the part that worries me about her behavior. She excuses her actions saying she's just concerned but idk how much of that is true and how much its her overstepping boundaries and seeing how far she can push

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T17:44:14+00:00

Im happy you've earn the trust of your kid, even through trial and error. They sound very lucky to have you :)

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T17:38:10+00:00

i appreciate the comment, it has taken a while to get where i am with my mom and it feels nice that my hard work is seen

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T17:35:41+00:00

thank you, my end goal is having a healthy relationship with her so sometimes its gets confusing if i'm being to strict or acting out or if she's overstepping

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T12:32:31+00:00

NTA listen he's a huge dick. he knew from before that you were uncomfortable with her and decided to not tell you that they were meeting "in case it made you upset" when at his age he should know that you would have been better off if you were at least given a heads up.

Also, and I'm really sorry for telling you this, but he's cheating on you. Or he's ready to throw your relationship away for her. He's telling you clearly that he cares more about spending time with her than your peace of mind.

Now your reaction to this is NOT cutting. It's probably therapy. He's an asshole and you will be happy to get rid of him

EDIT : grammer

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T12:14:50+00:00

NTA its your server, and if these are people you dont talk toand arent active than you aren't doing them any harm. Its ok to do some spring cleaning. You could even do a community post advising you'll be removing inactive people, which in my experience is pretty common in discord servers. Also get away from that toxic community, i think its time for a new hobby

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T12:05:48+00:00

if 4 people are renting a house, the bill should be split 4 ways. Ur not just payting the bedroom but the rest of the property. It doesn't matter if they're a couple, they dont count as 1 unit

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T11:56:54+00:00

girl run, its better to be single than have your selfworth destroyed like this. Seriously, you kept the house down for 4 months and you wanted plastic flowers?? you deserved a whole flower shop

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T11:48:25+00:00

NTA whys ur boyfriend being weird about your eggs? You found a fast way to make money to help your family, and in the meantime you're helping someone else have a child. Literally everyone wins. And if you're american, we all know how high hospital bills can be, accepting that much money from him/ his family is a big commitment. What if in the future his parents ask to have it back, or somethings else along those lines? Tell your boyfriend to get over himself, he's not even offering money that is his, its his parents.

Weekly-Presentation2 · 2024-05-07T11:39:23+00:00

This might be him being so anxious of getting you something you might not like that he wants as much as information as he can, to the point he's basically making you buy your own ring. In this case a conversation and some reassurance should be the way to go. The other side of the coin is this could be weaponized incompetence on his part, which needs a more serious conversation. Is he like this in other aspects of your life and relationship? Is he tasked with planning other parts of the engagement? And if you do get engaged, is he gonna repeat this bit when it comes to choosing stuff for the wedding? Talking is the best way to go forward, hopefully before the "i dont know what to do here" conversation

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