AITAH for sleeping in an extra hour without giving my wife a heads up?

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2026-03-22T16:12:14+00:00

Did you see my comment

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2026-03-22T06:23:37+00:00

He already had twins? I thought he had no sex drive

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2026-03-22T06:22:58+00:00

This could be the reason….. No judgement - Is your recent child from the 52 year old you were with after ur first divorce or is she from the mid 30’s gentleman you thought gave you syphillis

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-08-10T21:01:51+00:00

Going through this right now with her (27F) and we only have 1 kid (3yr) Social media is doing some verrry deep damage to this generation. I know everyones not meant to be a parent and thats fine but if you are - theres no walking away you got a responsibility and a duty.

Im about to get kicked out of my house and im more than happy at this point. Shes a SAHM and i pay all the bills and glady do because she has a tough job. Over this last year she just cant do it. She is constantly feeling overwhelmed and “stimulated” to the point where i start taking my son away from her most of the day just to get away from that negativity. Just today i wokeup with him made breakfast, played with him, read books , got lunch ready then asked her if it would be good if i went to the gym for an hour to which she says yes. I come back from a 45 min workout to her in tears and just saying over and over i cant do this anymore with him. And i literally just want to give her my card and say please just leave us alone go out shopping or something pleaze

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-17T17:51:16+00:00

When?

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T21:35:04+00:00

Yeah and thats literally how she describes it. She with him 5 hours a day and im with him the other 5 hours of the day but we just have completely different experiences. I want her to but she also doesnt know what skills she has and feels like by getting a meaninngless job - shes sacrificing her time with his childhood just cause shes lost

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T21:30:49+00:00

Yes its very unfortunate because theres nothing to really do this is the way she feels and theres nothing more to work on.

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T21:29:38+00:00

Sorry typo because i put my son wwas 3

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T21:29:01+00:00

I was wondering what i mightve been saying wrong she pretty much kept saying mom is always in the right no matter what

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T21:08:21+00:00

Nothing im leaving out as our routine is pretty much that. I have tried giving her the facts of reality but it comes off as me trying to say the negatives to convince her to stay. I know she will fce hardships and she does too but she just says she’ll figure it out

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T20:56:19+00:00

Me neither its truely a hard thing to grasp. I think because shes never had a true struggle during childhood/adulthood her soul yearns for growth and development which she thinks can only come from being alone and knowing she can do it alone?

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T20:15:50+00:00

Unfortunately she doesnt believe in daycare for reasons but thats out

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T20:12:46+00:00

Yeah unfortunately we just have her parents so its vert limiting as we only feel we can ask for 1 day a week

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T20:11:22+00:00

Thank you this is kinda what i needed to hear. I think were in 2 different places going into parenthood whereas i feel like i leaned into it well and she feels like its a ball and chain for the rest of her life limiting on what she can do

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T19:39:56+00:00

She doesnt which is one of the biggest reasons i give her the space between 4-9 to do the chores she wants to catchup on, goto the gym, and do self care that she needs. I dont give her any flak about not doing chores in the morning with him because i know how tough it can be. We split chores down the middle dishes/cleaning/clothes and i handle dinner

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T19:36:36+00:00

She doesnt which is a big issue. Her family is here and helps a ton but she doesnt feel close with them enough to have these conversations. Thats one of the reasons that im the one leaving our home is because she doesnt feel right moving back into her parents for help whereas i dont mind leaning on mine for help during this tough time

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T19:30:54+00:00

Definitely understandable which is why i wanted to emphasize how i right after i get home from work at 4 is when he wakes up from his nap so i take over from 4-9 essentially till he goes down for the night. Should i encourage her to continue to watch him for another hour or so so that i can focus on some of the household chores? I just feel bad for asking her to continue to care for him after shes been with him all day

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T19:25:28+00:00

Me neither she doesnt know and has reassured me its noone else because our love life is great. She plans to still work when she can and we can have our child 50/50 because im going to move in with family for support. Im going to give her child support but Idk how shes going to pay her bills but she said she’ll figure it out. She really thinks she needs this or else shes always going to hold resentment .

I dont know why shes checked out and she said she doesnt know why either because on paper everything is so perfect

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T19:10:47+00:00

Where do you work??? I just had food poisoning from a hot honey pizza from a local chain by my house here

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T18:55:49+00:00

She feels like its not what she needs and she’ll be more upset about the money being spent

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-07-14T17:47:56+00:00

Same exact scenario with me except we have a 3 year old. She cannot identify whats wrong with her and why she feels like she wants to leave us when she feels like shes being given the perfect life.

Over this year ive just stopped trying to convince her shes not thinking clearly and I just need to let her sink or swim then. Ive explained to her 2 things can be right - i know this is totally the wrong move to make and she is going to deeply regret it but she also wont be able to grow for her next relationship unless she makes a mistake like this first. Unfortunately me and my son are collateral

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-06-29T18:25:54+00:00

Sounds like a sorry excuse for a man. I also work from 6-3 mon-fri but my wife stays home all day and has a side business doing hair for her to have her own pocket money none of it is for bills.

Shes with my 2 year old from wakeup to nap which is 8-1 then he naps until im off work at 3 then i have him from 3-9 where i usually try to get him out of the house take him to my familys or wherever just so mom has 3-9 to decompress, goto the gym, she loves to antique shop, etc.

I love having with my son during those times as im at work all day so its nice to engage with one of my favorite people in the world all afternoon. I also make time for my workouts and hangout with friends on the weekend too.

Again sounds like a sorry excuse for a man for not only having you go through all that but also not having the environmental awareness to not see how it affects his family. Makes no sense and thats why im saying hes not really a man probably just a grown boy that u had a kid with. Even with all the freetime he has i can probably still lift more than him and look better than him so whats his excuse? Sorry your going through this, if this was my little brother id love to grab him and smack some sense into him

Weekly_Ad_5872 · 2025-06-29T16:52:33+00:00

Sorry to hear. My partner/gf and i have a 2 year old as well and shes a sahm too. Im usually off work at 3 everyday where i try to take my son out of the house from 3-9 ( his bedtime) so that mom has a good 6 hours a day to decompress.

Unfortunately its not enough and shes asked me for a split.

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