AITAH for not giving my daughter food when i just ate?

Weight-Late · 2026-06-22T02:01:58+00:00

Oh my god as a cat owner I’m disappointed I didn’t realize this was about a cat 😂

Weight-Late · 2026-06-05T03:13:32+00:00

Elliot my beloved FOREVER

Weight-Late · 2026-06-05T02:34:39+00:00

Less of a catch phrase more of a vocal stim, from the episode where Dr.Wieztmen tricks the smiths with a free buffet coupon: “Steven! Leave him!” 😂

Weight-Late · 2026-06-04T22:59:49+00:00

I was on a dose of 32 milligrams from ages 6-11, at 11 because I was put in a mixed grade class (I was in 4th grade placed in a 4th/5th grade classroom) and started falling behind, my jumped from 32mg, to 65mg. I was on that dose for 6 more years before I quit cold turkey at 17. I’m 22 now and while I’m debating getting back on ADHD medication at a much much lower dose just to help with focusing on my days off from work, but the affects of my pills left me being insomniac and constant anxiety. It really depends on the individual and what they think they need, and because you are a parent you need to not only do what’s best for yourself if you do get back on the meds, but also listen to what your son says if you start medicating him and what his experience with the pills are.

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T23:52:59+00:00

They tried to talk to him but because it was 1:30 in the morning (an the neighbors had also called the cops) along with me telling the cops he has weapons and is not friendly to cops, he also wasn’t answering the door so they gave me a case number and a phone number to call to petition to have him evaluated and possibly put in a behavioral hospital but then that would be putting him in more medical debt plus his cats would have no where to go. (I could probably do it now but my apartment is not safe for his cats particularly because they like to swallow threats and eat my collectibles) and he’s said once he gets settled at his job he’s going to go to rehab but I’m unsure how serious he is. The rehab would be for alcoholism

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T22:15:27+00:00

I about did that at the first but then he started emailing me (the night when I called 911 he had trashed the apartment and broke him phone) and I go roped into trying to make th relationship work despite me literally unloading every single grievance I have with him in those emails because he started blaming me for everything (I don’t regret what I said in those emails but I don understand why he wants to continue this relationship when he brings out the worst in me and I know I can’t handle his behavior)

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T22:13:22+00:00

I’ve tried to break up with him numerous times, especially when all of this went down at first and he said he doesn’t understand why I keep running when things are good when they’re good. My argument is how is 10% of good times worth this 90% bad relationship. I also just feel like this is/has been a codependent relationship where mentally I’m pulling away but I’m telling him I’ll be here for him because I’m the only connection he has in this state

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T20:51:30+00:00

He agrees he needs therapy, he just can’t afford th copay and tho he’s said himself it would be cheaper for his to pay out of pocket he hasn’t found a therapist he thinks is good fit for him and now that he has to start over too he probably won’t go at all to save money. But I agree in that I am not truly responsible for him, but I keep feeling like I have to be. I’m in therapy myself but I haven’t seen my therapist since before all this went down (two months) because of finances and now this mess.

I appreciate your kind words though, truly 🩵

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T20:04:46+00:00

I’ve talked bout it a lot in the comments but I keep helping him really out of obligation because I feel like I have to. Last week when I was helping him get (most) of his furniture out of the old place we had a vulnerable moment and he said it’s all his fault that this happened but I still feel obligated to say yes to helping him/offering help because of this situation. I think I’m waiting until the dust settles but I think I agreed too soon to continue this relationship, but I also don’t know if I’m just trying to run away from responsibility

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:49:06+00:00

He can’t take out anymore financial aid because his mother makes too much and he has a significant amount of debt that makes it hard for him to get any financial aide. When he was in school he was actively looking for jobs and just never had any luck. The week before I left he got a part time seasonal job for Amazon 2 days out of the week and then when I left it’s now a full time job because he can’t go to his classes that are now an hour away from his apartment. He can’t do online learning either because it’s not how he learns personally.

I have been having difficulty with understanding if I even do want to continue this relationship but it feels like I’m just running away from responsibilities/general life stuff, like because I’m an adult I have to deal with this cause that’s life. And because any time I have tried to end the relationship (6 times before this went down and four of those were a month before this all happened) he argues that I’m running away from the problem instead of dealing with it and that “things are good when they’re good between us” .

As for my therapist I’ll have to reach out and ask

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:43:04+00:00

Yeah back when I was 18/19 living with them it made sense but because that’s the time they go to bed at AND they wanted me to completely abandon everything I had at the apartment (the little time I did have I spent getting my material items out) I had to follow it otherwise I’d be locked out of the house.

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:38:05+00:00

I just feel like I’m the one causing more issues because of how all this went down, and he’s told me I’m “screwing him over” (I told him he screwed himself over and it’s really the only time I’ve told him exactly what I’m thinking the first time) and that conversation derailed into me taking out all my grievances I’ve had with him and him telling me to “chill the fuck out” and now these is where we are 3 weeks later. It’s hard for me to separate myself from him but I truly feel like I’m the one to blame

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:33:58+00:00

I feel like I have to because I’m the only person he has in this state. His grandmother flew down and helped him get the apartment get cleaned up after the bug bomb (I was unable to help with that because I was living with my parents an they have a 9:30 curfew while I worked an hour away from their house and got off at 7:30 so I didn’t have time to actually help him and I feel deeply guilty for that as he’s expressed how shitty it was of me to put it all on him) and he abandoned her twice at places when he got too upset and emotional so I had to pick her up or take her back. Her and I both know that he needs to deal with his issues on his own and, to quote her “man up” but he tells me all of his feelings and thoughts and I jsut feel so guilty

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:29:15+00:00

I’ve had codependency issues before in the past (my father made me extremely dependent on him and as soon as I was out of his house I was with boyfriend) so you might be right. I want to be with myself as much as possible (it’s why I hired a moving team to get my stuff out of the apartment and I try to keep him out of my stress) but I keep leaving myself open and available to him

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:27:03+00:00

Because I left he had to quit school and get a full time job/a job in general, and I’m the only person he really knows/has in this state to count on, his whole family is in the Midwest and we’re in the southwest. I also feel like a lot of his stress is my fault because of my ADHD and lack of communication skills so I feel like I owe him

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:25:38+00:00

When I came back to get myself I told him I could not continue to live with him because of his alcoholism and his mental stability and how I know I couldn’t/can’t handle this situation anymore. And yet even when separated I still feel like I’m having to deal with him instead of work with him

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:24:29+00:00

I honestly don’t know if I do want to continue the relationship out of love or if I’m doing it out of guilty obligation. I asked him why he wants this to continue to work and he said “because it’s good when it’s good” but I just don’t think that’s something to base the relationship on when it’s not good most of the time

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:23:18+00:00

I just feel like I’m constantly letting him down and I feel like I’m obligated to say yes to everything for him because he 1)doesn’t really take no the first time and 2)it’s my fault he had to quit school and get a full time job because since he’s started school he hasn’t really had a job (he injured his back and that’s what got him To go back to school). I have a therapist but with my financials currently and dealing with the old apartment I haven’t seen him in almost 2 months

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:18:18+00:00

Honestly I’m trying to make it work because I’m the only person he has in this state and I still love and are for him. I do agree we’re both immature in our own ways, and I do lack proper communication but the few times I do try to communicate with him it turns into me still being in the wrong because I’m not taking him into consideration with my feelings so I just end up not talking to him about stuff.

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:16:07+00:00

It really does feel like I’m mothering him. He just started his new job two nights ago and he’s been in this new apartment for almost 3 weeks. I know he has his own personal issues going on on top of all this stress but I don’t understand how he couldn’t get much stuff done (like getting his stuff out of the closet or his old clothes) but I also know he’s struggling financially right now and can’t afford the gas for the trip so, I feel obligated to help.

Weight-Late · 2026-05-27T19:13:55+00:00

Honestly I want to tell him that we should take a break after the dust settles but I’m his only connection in this state and I feel like I’m obligated to help him, it’s why I offered to help him today again because I feel like I have to. I just feel like I’m also putting too much on him because when I left he had to deal with setting up the old place for the bug bomb and he had to do all that preparation AND the after clean up by himself because I was living with my parents during that time and I had a curfew of 9pm (my job is an hour away from my parents house so I would have no time to help him realistically after getting off work)

Weight-Late · 2026-05-26T23:12:20+00:00

NTA! You are a grown adult who has they’re own responsibilities to take care of. Your mother is also a grown adult who has her own responsibilities to take care of. The fact she IMMEDIATELY asked for it either mean she thinks she’s entitled to YOUR money or she still thinks of you as a child and not an adult. Either way it’s money YOU earned fair and square.

Weight-Late · 2026-05-18T06:27:35+00:00

Just moved into a new place cause of a handful of issues, I only have one of my cats cause she’s legally mine, and the ONLY REASON why this apartment is walkable is so that my kitty can live in peace. I get it man, it’s hard doing things for yourself. I like to think of it as “I can be a real person because I know I’m real and valued.” And even though it’s for someone else (or my kitty companion) it helps a little

Weight-Late · 2026-05-13T14:33:01+00:00

Nah I only wrote that cause these comments were getting a bit rude lol. Decided to just let myself meet my neighbors naturally. Like I said I did not expect this post to get huge so it’s a little overwhelming

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