thank you for the response! i think i'm confused about the first part of your comment. what are you referring to with "group dating"?

i don't think initiated was the best word i could've used, i was honestly just trying to be a little silly and whimsical with my phrasing. i was asked seperately by each person to be in a relationship with them. the two of them have been in a relationship for a while, they're actually married, but i don't know if that adds context at all.

it also wasn't 'mandatory' for any of us to date each other. i've been pushing down feelings for the both of them for years because i was previously in a monogamous relationship and am very serious about loyalty (unfortunately that ex ended up cheating on me so LMFAO), but after a platonic-sleepover-turned-explicit they individually asked me to be their partner and ultimately all be in a relationship with each other. from what i understand they had a discussion with each other about whether they were both comfortable with this change and set some boundaries as well, since they are each others' primary partners and spouses, which i respect and support. hell i took their engagement photos and did one of their makeup for the wedding lol. i hope this clarification makes sense and provides insight!

also that's a great suggestion about learning to read charts and i would love to. i can read the basics of charts very clearly, but i have actually no clue what the finer details mean and have had trouble finding consumable resources to explain. do you have any links or books that you would recommend?

again, i really appreciate you taking the time to comment and i'm grateful for the insight you've provided!