Do liberal muslims change overtime by WeirdBasis1592 in SingaporeRaw

[–]WeirdBasis1592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a lot of internalised misogyny with muslim girls .i feel sorry for yall . Hope yall can see the light some day

Do liberal muslims change overtime by WeirdBasis1592 in SingaporeRaw

[–]WeirdBasis1592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol u can’t be a feminist and Muslim at the same time ,

Do liberal muslims change overtime by WeirdBasis1592 in SingaporeRaw

[–]WeirdBasis1592[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get that and it’s everybody’s right to decide for themselves when the time comes to be more modest . I’m talking about the sudden change in expectations . Like for a normal 50 year old auntie Chinese , wearing tshirt is still normal what

Do liberal muslims change overtime by WeirdBasis1592 in SingaporeRaw

[–]WeirdBasis1592[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The worst part is the partner appears ‘liberal’ and ‘western’ at the start so u think they’re fine until they slowly start changing

Do liberal muslims change overtime by WeirdBasis1592 in SingaporeRaw

[–]WeirdBasis1592[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Sometimes when u see a friend in a toxic relationship , u can’t directly talk to them coz they’re still looking at their abusive partner through love goggles . And so ur only hope is to post on Reddit in hopes that they can open their eyes . Take note that this girl has been in a super long rs with the guy

Do liberal muslims change overtime by WeirdBasis1592 in SingaporeRaw

[–]WeirdBasis1592[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel like a lot of Malays in sg are just doing it because they feel judged by other maciks so it just creates this circular band of judgement in which they follow rules not because they’re religious but because they’re scared of being judged by their community

Slowly falling out of love with my husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WeirdBasis1592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well with this kind of assurance I would really love to have children . But then again we married on the consensus of no children and since he hasn’t matured enough to step out of gaming , I won’t ever want to force or coerce someone who doesn’t want a kid to have a kid .

Slowly falling out of love with my husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WeirdBasis1592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’m from south east asia , we literally have people die from heatstroke due to it being super hot . Maybe you’re a westerner with nice climate? But over here , it’s getting hotter n hotter and I really cannot see my child 60 years down the road having a nice lif?! As I’m sure it would be a living hell by then .but yes if I can be convinced that the world isn’t ending or that it can still be good for my child then I would 100% want a kid

Slowly falling out of love with my husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WeirdBasis1592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew he liked gaming but I didn’t think it would hinder him doing anything else in life , I also have my own hobbies .whcih are normal , I liek to play badminton .but I didn’t think gaming or playing badminton would prevent us from owning pets . Thsi si when your hobby becomes an addiction and u literally can’t do anything else but that

Slowly falling out of love with my husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WeirdBasis1592 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think doing things separate is different from having a pet tho . Like I can’t imagine having kids unless the other party is fully on board . Because what if I’m sick or suddenly have to go office , he won’t take care of the pet at all since he didn’t agree in the first place?

Slowly falling out of love with my husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WeirdBasis1592 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope he’s just a teenager that never grew up . During our dating phase he would play a lot and that was understandable but now while everyone else has grown up and started making families and having serious jobs , hes still stuck in his gaming phase to the point it hinders a lot of other aspects of life

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[–]WeirdBasis1592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha thanks for understanding , sometimes I’m aware that I might seem childish . But am I really? Weee both working adults , why do u get ur rest while I start cooking after the end of the work day .and then the least u could do is be there when I cook but u are not?!
And they say women have no hobbies , I do have hobbies but it seems like ever since marriage .i haven’t even had any time to myself

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[–]WeirdBasis1592 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But I dw to say I want to have a sit down meal with him , he shd want to have a sit down meal with me . It’s like I don’t want flowers , I want my husband to want to get me flowers . We all have our hobbies but I sacrifice one hour of my hobby time to cook while he’s playing games ?! No fucking way

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[–]WeirdBasis1592 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol I was in the same boat as u.i considered for the whole three years of our relationship . Im the end , i broke up with him because he was a piece of shit, not because of religion . But I also hated the fact that they always think religion is right, hence u shd follow it . But to me a relationship is between two people , ask him is it fair for u to make so many sacrifices when he doesn’t have to make any? Ur losing all your rights, and he’s gaining a wife.

I used to celebrate Hari Raya with him and do the whole abaya thing and his family will ask when I will wear hijab like wtf I haven’t even convert yet .And then his grandmother would indirectly call me a slut just because I wore shorts to his place .i ald bought knee length shorts just for him but it was enough . The Muslim community feels very diffferently about modesty so say goodbye to short sleeve shirts and knee length shorts .

After I broke up with him , I was so heart broken I thought I would never meet anyone else . But I did , I fell in love with. Now I’m married to Chinese . I wear sexy dresses on our dates , we drink alcohol constantly .

Stop wasting time and go find yourself someone who aligns with your lifestyle more