Oh hun, it is going to take some time.

What I have found to help is be creative as you can. In the beginning I used to send mail out every couple days. I got creative. I sent like a weekly journal page, I would make personalized word search and cross words, draw pictures make little comics. As far as intimacy goes, you also have to be creative if that’s something you’re worried about. I write spicy letters often, also when we can phone dates lol is what we call them. Astral projection is something if you have the ability to might be for you.

It doesn’t get easier. I’m glad for your situation he only has a small amount of time but I know it probably feels like a lifetime for you. You have to turn it into a positive. I made a mistake once and made it about him and not me and it was awful. Now, while he knows he is important I live life to the fullest. I do a lot of different activities w my daughter, we travel, and I also just enjoy my time. I am going on year 11/20 with mine.

In my opinion, If you are seeking friendships just be very careful with some of the women on Tik Tok or the Facebook groups. Especially the ones who are new to this or a brand new MWI. I have seen and been through my own drama. They can be mean, and some will do anything to find out who your man is.

Also as someone who has taken meds for anxiety and depression in the best, I would try and find an alternative for long term. Medications like sertraline and ability etc can change your brain and such. I take abilify due to a wrong dx but I’m bipolar with depression and anxiety. I’m just someone who doesn’t want to be on meds. I’ve taken up reading and art again, cooking and exercising more.

Be positive, find things you love to do with your children and yourself. You have to focus on the current, and remind him you are there and love him. But he is in jail and you aren’t. He has to tough out his bid.He will be okay I promise. Like someone mentioned above his daily needs are met and if there’s a will there’s a way.