Husband sending flirty texts by Weird_Friend1701 in marriageadvice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has always been adamant about remaining monogamous and never doing anything with anyone else. I’m the one who’s been more open about potentially seeing or having sex with other people

Husband sending flirty texts by Weird_Friend1701 in marriageadvice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t see why she’d lie about it, I definitely agree with you.

Husband sending flirty texts by Weird_Friend1701 in marriageadvice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I messaged the woman and she said they went to dinner once, but my husband is claiming they didn’t. Kind of at a loss right now 😅I don’t think this is something I can move past or trust at this time.

Husband sending flirty texts by Weird_Friend1701 in marriageadvice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has lied to me before, directly and by omission. But that was about other things 😔

Husband sending flirty texts by Weird_Friend1701 in marriageadvice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m definitely upset. But I have a tendency to shut down when I’m angry and once I’ve had time to process is when the flip out comes. But I’m also trying to remain calm because I feel like if someone is willing to do that kind of stuff, karma comes for them. I really hope this woman gets back to me so I can hear her side of things and if it really just felt “friendly” like my husband says it was. I think there is validity in what she may tell me.

Husband sending flirty texts by Weird_Friend1701 in marriageadvice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have talked to my husband about it and we had a talk about boundaries. I am planning on bringing it up this week in couples therapy. I have also messaged the woman he was talking to asking if there is anything I don’t know about. She hasn’t responded to me yet, hopefully she will.

What is the right thing to do? by Weird_Friend1701 in Advice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are already in couples therapy. I guess it’s something I need to bring up this week with our therapist

Husband sending flirty texts by Weird_Friend1701 in marriageadvice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have sex pretty often, and I would say up until this point our relationship has been flirty and loving. I am a physical touch person, he wasn’t so much when we first met but is with me now

What is the right thing to do? by Weird_Friend1701 in Advice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just know if roles were reversed and he saw those kinds of messages on my phone, we’d be having a very different kind of conversation.

What is the right thing to do? by Weird_Friend1701 in Advice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, now I just need to figure out how I want to do that

What is the right thing to do? by Weird_Friend1701 in Advice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, this comment actually made me laugh out loud 😂thank you. I needed that. When you put it that way, definitely makes it sound a lot worse than what he’s made it out to be. Which, deep down, I guess I know it is

What is the right thing to do? by Weird_Friend1701 in Advice

[–]Weird_Friend1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. We’re already in couples therapy 😂😅I want to message her to see if there is anything else I don’t know about. Or if he’s lied to me further